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Hey I'm Jodie.

I'm pretty awesome at giving advice to everyone.
I dont beat around the bush though. I am blunt and sarcastic, and I'll tell you exactly what I think. Get used to it. If you rate me low, it doesn't break my heart.

I haven't had the best life. Its had its stressful times. But I use that to my advantage now. Its made me a wiser person.

I'm funny, and outgoing. I'm generally a pretty happy person. And I'll try my best to answer any question that you throw on the table.



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what can I say to my parents to convince them to let my boyfriend move in. He is a little older then me but sense they wont let me move out with him I really want him to move in here. I love him alot and I get really emotional at night when im not with him and me && him have talked about wanting to move in together.

So what are some things i can say to my parents to have them let him move in?

Well, you didnt say how old you are. And until you are 18, they pretty much have the full descion on this one. When your 18 you can legally move out..
And since it is your parents house, they make the rules. They probably dont want their daughters boyfriend to move in with her at a young age because well for one..its their daughter, they probably dont want to know what would go on if you moved in together. And they probably dont want another mouth to feed..its like having an extra kid. They probably dont want the extra responsibilty. And if you break up they would have to deal with him moving out.

So if they say no, theres not much you can do or say to convince them until your 18 and then your an adult and you can make your own descion on moving out and starting your own life.. Until then, you will have to just try and work around the rules.

Maybe try and look for a place close to your house? So you can go over there more often, yet still come home so your parents are happy. You will have to compromise with your parents until you are the legal age of moving out, then you can do whatever you want.

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how do u you tell your dad you hate him? cause i truely do. i hate him so much and i hope he dies

Don't be so ignorant.

You don't tell your own father that you hate him. Unless he has raped you/abused you or your family/or did something really bad like that.

If he has done something that bad, I dont think you would be having a problem with telling him that you hate him. It sounds like you want to not hurt his feelings..and you dont exactly know how to tell him.

Grow up and get some respect.

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15/f
I have a 5 month year old son with my boyfriend. I considered adoption from the start, but it was too hard to say goodbye so I pulled out at the last minute. (Which made my boyfriend happy, surprisingly.) My mom (my dad isn't a part of my life) gave in and said she'd raise him for me if I helped. Now that school's in, it's becoming harder. We have to pay the babysitter, pick him up, etc. Plus, I made the cheerleading squad. Neither of us have time for him and my boyfriend's family can't take him. Mom wants me to reconsider adoption, but I can't give up my baby now! But I also don't want to give up being a cheerleading and all the other fun stuff in high school. Mom's afraid my grades will slip. So am I. But my bf and I have grown so attached to ourson. We plan on getting married and raising him together once we're out of high school. But what can I do until then? It's too stessful! HELP!!! Please!

Well first off..a 5 month year old son ehh?

anywho..

dont get your hopes up on getting married to your boyfriend. I know many many situations were the guy backs out because it gets so stressful, because..well..they can.

I'm not saying this is going to happen to you, I'm just saying that plans change really easily..especially when your this young. So dont expect that you will have a husband to help with the baby at 15 yrs old.

Now about the adoption thing.
I cant tell you what to do.
No one can.
But its really unfair for your mom when she has to raise your child..even though you would be helping, she stopped having kids for a reason.
I also know of a person who had to raise their daughters baby for about 6 or 7 months until the mother of the baby finally got her head on straight. It was hard for the baby, because she thought her grandma was her mother, it was hard for the grandma and it was hard for the mother. So if you feel like you wont be able to handle this..I'm sorry but adoption is probably the best thing.

You have to make sacrfices. Especially when you have a baby. Sorry, but your high school life is going to be way different than anyone elses, because you are a mother. I would think and hope that your own child would come before cheerleading.

Its going to be extra hard to keep your grades up with having a baby around. You should know that, you've probably been told many times.. but it is possible to keep up your grades AND have a baby. Its hard..but if you work hard enough you can do it.

Just stay in school. You need an education so you can get a good career to help support yourself and your child. This child is going to be your responsibility for a good 18 years..you need to have a good job to support everything.

Well, good luck with everything.

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i found out a while ago that my parents are going to africa in december and they want to take me aswell, now as im too young by law to stay home by myself they are making me come(i cannot stay at a reletives house due to other problems) ive told my parents and theyre not budgeing so heres my question.....how do i get out of going to africa?

WHY WHY WHY would you want to get out of going to AFRCIA? How many times do you think an opportunity would come up for you to go again???

Go there and have fun. Stop complaining and trying to get out of things that some people would give ANYTHING to do..

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Dear Advicenators,
SOMEBODY HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hi, please can you help. My Grandma died about 4+ years back and I am finding it difficult to know how I could should cope with this.This is my problem:
I have two cousins who live in Germany(my only cousins), oand they used to fly over to England each
year and stay at my Grandma's house for a few weeks during the holidays. I used to see them
then. Grandma was the one thing connecting us. However since Grandma's died I don't
know what to do about them. I haven't been in contact with them properly since my
Grandma died.they can't stay over here in England anymore because my mum doesn't
like them...so won't let them stay over with us. they have only over to England once for
two days since Grandma died(they had to stay in a local B&B).
What should i do about them? what is the right thing to do? what is expected of me and
what would Grandma have wanted? should i keep in touch? if so then how? also i am
worried because I was having problems coping at shool (I refused to go on-and-off for my
first two years in high school as i didn't want to move on after the death of Grandma and
also could not deal with the death of someone else of whom i was close to and sort of lost
control of my life a bit...then i ended up refusing to go to school altogether at the end of
my second year and ended up with 5 measly hours of home tuition per week forthe last
three years which should have been spent in school. I them failed all my GCSEs apart
from getting a D/C in English. I know i made a terrible mistake and i can't believe what I've
done but at the time I wasn't thinking logically about what i was doing as i was in a state
of severe depression.)and if i contact my cousins again they're going to ask about what i'm
studying and I'll have to explain why I'm on a low level college course.I feel like i can't
contact them because how on earth can i explain how I failed all my GCSEs and wouldn't
go to school. They're going to think I'm a bad person. and i cannot conceal it from them as
they are really well educated and will notice the huge gaps in my knowledge just by
talking to me. What should i do about this? I feel so ashamed of refusing to go to school. And KNOW that they will think VERY badly of me once they've found out what I did.I son't think I can bear to face them ever again. PLEASE PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!
I am from England

Just explain to them that your school kinda went downhill after your grandma died because you took it really hard, and you were depressed and you needed to deal with things so your schooling suffered a bit.

If they think you are a bad person because of that, so be it. You arent a bad person though. People deal with death in different ways, and this way is pretty common.

If you really dont like it, you can always upgrade cant you? I dont know the whole schooling thing for England but here in Canada, we can go back and upgrade so we can get into a higher up college.

Just stick with your education, you cant go anywhere in life without an education anymore. So unless you want to wash floors for the rest of your life, keep up with your education and dont give up :)

As for the staying in touch thing-- its probably hard that your grandma isnt here anymore to keep you connected, but you can always phone or email them. Maybe they can fly out and stay at a different relatives place? Or maybe you can save up and fly out there and see them?

Good luck with everything.

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Hey my name is Rachel and iam a 17 year old girl and whenever I go over to my granny's on the weekends she goes throgh my overnight bags and goes through my dresser drawers and takes out whatever she thinks isn't mine for some reason she thinks other people put stuff in my dresser when they don't she takes stuff out that she dosn't think is mine and that is actually mine and when I go looking for it I end up having to go ask my granny where it is and she dosn't even say sorry and sometimes she says rachel havn't you gained a little weight in the past 2 weeks every time I go over which is every to weeks and iam only 5 foot and weigh 149 lbs I know iam a little chubby,but it really hurts my feelings what should I do?

Sometimes older people have a harder time understanding things. They were raised differently than us. Sometimes they dont know when to shut up. My grandma for example once said to my dad, "Dont look now, but the guy behind us is FAAT"

Times change, but they dont change with the times. I wouldn't sit her down and talk to her to be honest with you. If she says your fat, I would just say "yep, mom sure does cook a good meal." Or "yeah I know, being fat is in now a days"

As for the snooping thing. She probably just wants to help. If this really bothers you, you could just tell her that you are fine with unpacking your things by yourself, and you dont need any help.

Good luck

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Okay, I'm 13/f
I love school for two reasons- my friends and getting away from my mom. Lately my mom had her tooth puolled and she's been whining and groaning and yelling at me and being nice to my brother. I feel like a burden, That's why I hate it at home. ShouldI get professional help w/ my problems or ask my friends because they help me with alot like I help them. I'm closer to them than I am my whole family. I've told my one of my Boy BFF's who understands (and who I like but thats different) me, but he swore not o tell and now I'm thinking I should tell this teacher who everyone loves including me, but I'm not sure soooo.... what do you think?
Jeni

Its pretty comon to be closer to your friends than you are with your own family.

You need to talk to someone. Your friends are probably the best bet, because at this age, kids and parents are always fighting, and your friends might be going through somewhat of the same thing.

Teachers are good too, but they might go all "adult" on your ass. Thats all fine and dandy but sometimes if you just want to bitch and complain about your mom, your friends will probably listen better than teachers..

Teachers would probably say "try and make peace with your mom, she loves you, try and get along with her", and then they will probably lecture you about why mothers are like that and such.

I think its funner to just bitch and complain to friends. They will understand more than teachers because they are probably going through the same thing.

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