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PLEASE SOMEBODY HELP ME!!!!!!!!! I AM BEGGING YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i am an 18 year old teenager and have a problem. I wondered whether you could possibly offer me any advice
I think i MIGHT have suffered from neglect/emotional abuse in my past. I need some advice.
You see when I first started high school I lost two people of whom I was very close to.one of these was my Grandmother who practically raised me.She was the one who took me places, taught me, supported me and basically looked after me. I used to see her almost every day.I can never remember my real mother doing any of this. However I never noticed the lack of support by my parents…..until she died.
I started to refuse to go to school on-and-off for my first two years in high school because of this...i did not want to move on and lapsed into serious depression and somedays i couldn't find the will-power to get up. I'd just lie in bed all day i felt so depressed. But my parents never helped me.they must have seen how depressed I was and yet they did nothing. Isn't this neglect. They knew I had depression and yet they did nothing.
Then i refused to go to school altoghether at the end of this second year as i could no longer cope any more. I ended up having 5 meagre hours of home tuition per week for the last three years which should have ben spent in school. my parents didn't get me any professional help or anything. Isn't this abuse/neglect.
I ended up failing almost all my GCSEs. the thing is i don't know anything about anything. i haven't been out of the house or seen people for about three years. But my parents won't teach me things such as how to use a bus, how to open a bank account, buy a phone or anything. it's as if they don't care. my mum NEVER offers me any sort or support or advice on anything.
So basically
I refused to go to school for my first two school years
I then refused to go altogether
I ended up having 5 measly hours of tuition per week for the last three years that I should have been in school
I then failed almost all my GCSEs
But throughout all this nobody helped me
I will have to go on a very low level of course at college.However I am worried that i am not going to get the support i need at home and might lapse into depression again as a consequnce and be too depressed to get up in the mornings. Because my parents sort of expect me to raise myself!Is this OK or is this neglect. My mum’s also still not particularly nice to me.
I think I need to tell the college about this lack of support. But i don't want to get my parents in trouble. MY mum is dying of ca.ncer and i couldn't live with myself if she died in prison. But i need help. Do you class what i've just described as abuse? Also thre have been many times when my mother has been emotionally abusive towards me. She can say such thoughtless things she makes me cry. then tells me to 'shut up' or says 'you're always moaning'.
I want to tell the college so that I can get the emotional support I need and also so that they can understand one of the reasons I felt I couldn't cope with school and therefore couldn't cope. I
am 18 years old now, Can i tell the college without getting my parents in trouble with the police? Or in trouble with social services? Can i tell the college without getting my parentts into trouble???? I NEED a definate answer. please help me[:(]
Who would the college contact if I were to tell them about the neglect? I DO NOT want to get my parents into trouble. Can I safetly tell the college (now that I'm 18) about the neglect without getting my parents into trouble with social services or the police??????????? PLEASE CAN SOMEBODY GIVE ME ANY ANSWERS!!!!! I AM RUNNING OUT OF TIME AND NEED ADVICE DESPERATELY.[:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(][:'(]
I LIVE IN ENGLAND
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wow babes, as im not qualified for something like this and i have never known anyone in a situation like yours, all i can do is suggest you go see a doctor about the depression. it is clear at this stage that you are not going to get any help from your parents, and the only person who can pull you through this is you. The doctor will be able to help you and then perhaps when you are ready you can speak to a careers adviser and get your education sorted, get a job and move out. things are going to be scary and i can only imagine how you feel but if you go to a doctor they will be able to help you get your life sorted. I don't know if your parents will get in trouble for this but it is doubtful they will go to prison, you will probably just be removed from their house and put in a youth centre for a while until you have a job and can afford your own place. Dont worry during this time im sure you will make friends and they will teach you thing's about the world you have missed or more correctly what your parents have failed to teach you. im sorry i couldnt help more love jem xxxxxx
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I am a 20 year old female college student. I have been dating this guy for almost three years. His parents adore me, his brother likes me and im practically best friends with his sister. Usually, it's the mother or father that don't like the girlfriend, but in my case, it's his grandma! She'll say rude and mean things like "your nose is big too" or "well, as long as he likes your body, thats all that matters" (after telling my boyfriend's sister how skinny she is.) I respect her and have never had a problem with her until now. We are in a serious and committed relationship, but im afraid his grandma will say something to him or ruin our future. What should I do? (link)
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Try telling your boyfriend what she says's to you, he might say your being paranoid but then at least you have tried that approach. If it works then I’m sure he will have words with her and she will stop. If he doesn’t however I think the best option for you would to confront his grandma yourself, ask her what her problem is with you, if you can fix it then try if she is just being an old hag then I think the best just to ignore her. If your boyfriend loves you and it was meant to be then he won't listen to her, and if he does then you can obviously do better. I hope things turn out ok for you babes. love jem xxxxxxxxxx
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