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Tonight I cheated on my girlfriend, my soul mate, the only thing that is keeping me alive. What makes matters worse is that it was with a guy. She won't ever forgive me. I want to confess to her if I do I know the odd of her accepting me back are farely high. But I can't risk that. If she says that she can't be with me I will kill myself, hands down. I just spent the last 4 hours crying and debating whether or not to tell her, then I remembered that I had an account on here. I need advise. Well, I want advice but I really need to talk to her about this. She'll be coming to see me in a few days, we have a long distance relationship butive been in love with her for over 3 years now. I can't live without her. What should I do? Opinions matter a lot to me right now, thank you. (link)
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If she is your soul mate there is no reason to kill yourself if she does say she doesn't want to be with you. You should know that if you do tell her she will more than likely be very mad and yes probably break up with you but it is because she needs time to process things. If you are soul mates you will just have to wait. Believe me you can live without someone. It is hard for a long time and sucks a lot, but you have to talk to her about this after you look inside yourself and figure out why you did it. Talk to her calmly and tell her you know she probably needs time and you are willing to give it to her but make sure she knows why you did it and what you will do in the future to prevent this from happening again. She needs to know that you are sorry.
Do not kill yourself over a mistake. learn from it and change it and never do it again. You will gain nothing by doing such an act except hurt the one you love even more. I am sure she feels she cannot live without you either so killing yourself would be making her live without you and you without her.
good luck
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Tonight was the last straw and my Mom said tomarrow morning she's calling someone for me to talk to because she's done with my crap. I did explode tonight... but Im not going to someone to talk to "because they care" when they obvously dont considering there gettying paid awesome money. Why waste my parents money for my to sit in a room... and listen to some guys words. She would rather send me to some guy so she wont have to deal with the facts SHE SUCKS AS A MOTHER! I told my Dad off tonight because he was being an asshole and I told him he didn't love me because if he did he would atleast try to quit smokeing. He's reocvering from a heart attack but has changed nothing in his life. Im not goign to some fucking therapist because "I bottle my emotions" how to I convince my Mom i dont need to go and to stop botteling my emotions because i eventually explode
even tho i dont I justdnt tell them anything because they suck at listening (link)
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Too many young ones don't realize that their parents are just like them. We all are going through life trying desperately not to screw up and failing miserably. You did not come with a hand book for your parents to read and most books are pure physcobable. Parents turn to consolers out of fear and who can blame them? In doing so you should recognize the fact that they do love you. They are afraid that you will do something stupid and they may lose you, (as you fear the loss of your father). The thing that sets us apart from animals is our ability to reason, this also comes with our right to choose. We can be stupid with our choices, or smart, your dad chooses to be stupid and continue his bad habit. This is what it is to be human, your choices will define your fate, make sure you're starting your life with the right ones and except the fact that he has the right to make his. Perhaps in doing this your parents will except the fact that you have the right to make your's. Be calm in your speaking with your parents, show them that you are trying to be adult and are in control of your choices and that you are trying to make the right ones. You have the right to your private thoughts, but you need to show them through actions that those thoughts are not unhealthy. Speak your piece with them once and stop your nagging. Your father knows your concern, but to dwell on it is not healthy and they know it. Yes, this will bring him to an early demise, you know it, but so does he. Part of being an adult is realizing that death is apart of living. If you dwell on death, you miss living. So stop "telling them off," and except them for the flawed human beings they are. Stop living your life in fear and start living it in knowledge. Get to know your parents for what they are, not what you want them to be. No matter what you do, some day they will be gone and with it your opportunity to really know them will be gone too. Stop thinking of them as your parents and start thinking of them as friends, for that is what they truly are.
Be well,
Gilbert Mar
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My mom really does seem to yell at me alot. Today, we had grocerys in the car, and they feel to the foot of the backseat, like they do, and she got out of the car, and started yelling at me for it, and she almost hit me with some plastic wrap box!!! She was like " GROW THE FUCK UP SHELBY!!!!!" " ITS NOT FUCKIN FUNNY!!!!!!" And then she started yelling at me so loud that when she got done, she couldnt even talk barley cause her voice was so cracked.I am seriously done with all of her shit. She thinks she's the greatest mom ever, but she needs to stop treating her kids like shit if she wants that title. One time she hit me, because I asked her to help me find a pair of my shoes, but that was kinda along time ago, so that doesent really matter anymore. I'm really loosing all my respect for her. I really dont know what to do about it. She is always getting mad at me for no reason what so ever. And when she dosent get mad at me, she takes it out on me. Once, when I was younger, she called me a dyke just because I didnt clean my room.And usually when she get's mad, she yells at me, and is mad at me for 10 minutes, and then just completly ignores me for the rest of the night, or sometimes even longer. Her and my dad are divorced, and she always got mad at me when it came close to me seeing my dad, just because I was seeing him. She would ignore me, and barley talk to me, and she kept saying that I was choosing my dad's " whore " over her, and that I wanted to live with the both of them. She got all of that, just because I liked to see my dad.I had to choose to stop seeing him and have my mom like me, or see him, and have my mom hate me. I havent seen my dad in weeks.... I really dont want to talk to her about it. So, what do youi think I should do about this problem? Thanks for all the help you can give me. (link)
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I think your mom has anger management problems and she needs to conquer it. I would tell your counselor because they will handle it...if you tell him/her that your mom hits you. When you do tell them ask what you should do because you probably shouldn't go back to the house for a while. I would find a friend and ask if you could stay with them until you figure things out.
I am very sorry that you have to live with that. Just stay strong and grow from these experiences. I have known to many kids that have gotten screwed up because of things their parents have done to them. I hope it doesn't happen to you!
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Well me and my friend invited two guys over when they werent supposed to. and we got really drunk....
my parents came home early and found out.
got pissed off.
and i guess im grounded for eternity.
any ideas on how i can get degrounded? lol
i dont like bein all locked up in the house.
it SUCKS. (link)
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Don't whine to your parents.That is one of the key things. Show them that you know why you are grounded and that you are sorry. Show that you are responsible by doing well at school and maybe doing chores. Slowly ask them if you can have a friend over (while they are home of course) if they say yes then you know they are loosening up. Make sure that they know that they don't know the reason you are being so good or they will never let you do anything. If you go slowly and not mention it they might forget that they grounded you in the first place. Good luck...hang in there!
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i lost my mom a few years ago. & my dad isnt goin to last long. i have a 6 year old sister & im 16 years old. what will happen to me & my sister if my dad dies? where will we go? will we go into foster home? will we ge split up?
please only answer if you know. (link)
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I am very sorry. I think that if your dad does not specify you will more than likely go with your closest relatives if they are able to take you. If you have none they will try their best to keep you guys in the same household.
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i asked my mom if she could take me to my boyfriends house, and she said no so i started to flip out at her. so i called my boyfriend and said sorry i cant getta ride there. and he said why so i explained to him what my mom said. and then my mom grabbed the portable outta my hand and threw it out the window. then she said "give me your cell phone" i threw a fit and ran upstairs and locked my door and texted my boyfriend saying "my moms going physco, shes taking my cell away, ily" and then i went to my bed to 'fake cry' "dont take my cell away stop it!" and she knocked my door down, and started crying "laura, i cant tell you why, but i need your cell phone, i cant tell you, ou wouldnt understand, i cant tell you, im sorry" and she started sobbing on me andi started crying on her, so i took my battery out i was like fine.. here. and she was liek "i need the whole phone!" andi threw another fit and she just left with half of my phone... does anyone have any idea whats going on? my mom never asks me for anything and she always gives me what i want.. but whats happening!??? (link)
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Your mother may be sick of letting you do whatever you want and not asking you to do anything. She might have realized that she needs to decipline more and just took it over board. I don't know if I am right. I would just talk to her and tell her your worries because it could be many things.
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