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Q: I have spent so long knowing people talk shit about me behind my back both because of my different personality and my physical appearance. I just want the physical appearance thing to stop ... I can't handle it sometimes ... why are people so cruel? It's not like I am really fat at all, but I'm a big guy ... I just hate how cruel the world can be when even close friends talk shit behind your back about shallow things like the way you look ... why?
See, now, here's the thing.

You are perfect. You've gotten more good attributes than anyone else I know in this world. I just don't see why any girl would want to date disney's prince charming once they've met you.

The epitome of all insults are ignorance. If someone is attacking you, it says more about themselves than you. Have you realised that the happy, intelligent people with active lives probably have never uttered a negative remark against you? You have amazing friends female and male. Too many females you meet are attracted to your magnetic personality and radiating hotness. [My clit erects when I think of you and how you can make me feel].

Notice how the people you care most about aren't ignorant... people with names like Nadine, Rachel, Luke and Grazia can often be trusted. This is scientifical fact. However, stay away from Lynne Jo's as these sort of people will only be attracted to you physically and crave lustful yet sinful interaction with you. :]

You probably could search the internet for the perfect man, and you honestly seem to exceed every last adjective people can think a perfect man should be like. Perfection is a concept, but you physically, emotionally and mentally push it into reality.

I seem to have fallen in love with you after this brisk answer. Oh no.

I know you can keep asking yourself why people can be so cruel, but those are the people you don't want close to you. If they have to be friends, keep your distance. They don't really care about you enough to deserve your trust or respect. Only lowlifes can attack someone so harshly behind their back based on physical appearance.

I think these type of imperfections people have causing them to be so cruel was intended to harshly serve as a guideline to separate one flock from the rest. You see how in nature we have the goat and the ram, the rat and the mouse, the people of one caliber and the people of another. We aren't supposed to judge others, I agree with that... but letting nature speak for itself proves that you are indeed on a whole other level to those vain pestilent and lesser fucking beings.

Hmmm.. I appear to love you.. want to meet for a drink sometime?

Q: 13/f

i was wondering if the knowing..(a movie with nicolous cage) was scary.. like not disaster scary but horror and death scary. i was watching the first like 5 minutes of it and it seemed scary.. in the begining espesially i would like to know. thanks!

kjam21
I watched the film a couple weeks back and no it isn't horror or anything like that..

It gets creepy towards the end and a little unsettling but it definitely isn't a horror or gruesome film.

But if you get creeped out easily then stay away =)

If you watch the trailer you should understand the general theme :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHw8URgDvxM

Q: alright so i have noticed the gorgeous booties that are tan, and perfect. You know what i'm talkin about! lol welllll the first time i "shaved down there" i guess i was oblivious when to stop. I kinda shaved my butt cheeks too haha, but anyways how do turn back the black hairs now, back to blonde??? thanks so much!
:( embarrasing!!
SUNBATHEE =]] (if you can find a private sunny place)

otherwise,you could also use bleach for sensitive skin

or,you could keep shaving or try waxing and thatll eliminate the problem all-together(but I dont advise it too strongly)

remember that the hairs probably arent as dark as they seem to you.if you live near a beach its unlikely anyone would notice anything if you go for a swim(you'll be covered by the water,and it'll also get you more of a tan=])dont worry too much!

remember that the tv booties are selectively chosen and rare.also,they're probably waxed.either that,or there's re-touching on the film.

=]

Q: Okay, i will try this until i get the flow of things. Thanks so much for helping.
No problem at all, whatsoever, zilch, nada

=]

Q: I am having the same prblem about inserting a tampon is as that girl you replied to not to long ago. I have tried that already and it still hurts when i try to push it all the way in.
Have you tried using a lighter flow tampon? Like a mini? I used to have the same problem and I had to start using tampons for a while before it was comfortable to put in. Even now sometimes it can hurt a little, but its to be expected.

If your having this problem all the time then maybe your putting it in wrong. Try pushing it in almost horizontally. And on your heaviest flow. I know you might think you have tried this, but you'd be surprised what these little changes can do until your body gets used to the feel of tampons.

I hope this helps, but know that you also shouldnt force it in too much. For the first few times I had to leave mine inserted just a little, until it got easier. If you still cant fix the problem(and you're probs tired of me=]) then maybe you have some friends with the same problem, if you can talk to them about this.

=]

Q: what do you think the term messing around/fooling around means to you? thanxx :)
Well, to me, it can mean kissing, second base, or even foreplay, but on first thought Id say touching/feeling stage. However, its reallyyy subjective so it depends what situation its used in.

Hope to have helped =]

Q: Ello! I was wondering if any has used crest white strips and they actually worked for them, because I'm thinking of getting them, but only if they work. Thanks!
Yes they do work, and it has been proven they lighten up your teeth by 3 shades.

they work! =)

x

Q: hey. i heard this song a couple of times on the radio but i have no clue what it is! here are some of the lyrics... "it's too late to apologize it's too late" and "got me 10 feet off the ground" or somethin like that. it's a guy singing if that helps. oh yeah.. pleaseee don't tell me to search it on google or any search engines cause guess what! i already tried it!! lol, jk. but ne ways, thanks!
The song is 'Apologize' by Timbaland.

Apologize lyrics by Timbaland.
"One Republic"

I'm holding on your rope,
Got me ten feet off the ground
I'm hearin what you say but I just can't make a sound
You tell me that you need me
Then you go and cut me down, but wait
You tell me that you're sorry
Didn't think I'd turn around, and say...

It's too late to apologize, it's too late
I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late

I'd take another chance, take a fall
Take a shot for you
[ Apologize lyrics found on http://www.completealbumlyrics.com ]
And I need you like a heart needs a beat
But it's nothin new - yeah yeah
I loved you with a fire red-
Now it's turning blue, and you say...
"Sorry" like the angel heaven let me think was you
But I'm afraid...

It's too late to apologize, it's too late
I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late

It's too late to apologize, it's too late
I said it's too late to apologize, it's too late
It's too late to apologize, yeah
I said it's too late to apologize, yeah-
I'm holdin on your rope, got me ten feet off the ground...

Q: "main_bg file size is too large. Actual is 137656, maximum allowed is 40000, please rectify and upload again"

this is what comes up on my page & i dont understand what they're trying to say becasue the image size is 760x40 on the navigational background.
what am i suppose to go on if i use paint.net to resize the image or w/e they hell they want?
please reply back!!!!!!
thanks :]
137656 is the size of the file lol. it means the file has too much memory. are you sure its saved as GIF? if it is, then you just need to make it more simple. that used to happen to me when i saved it in .JPEG format. dont save it in .jpeg but use .gif.

write back if you need something else! =]

Q: ok theres like a portugese word that means messed up, its like shaquad or something. how do you spell it, and how do you pronounce it? helpppp. thank you
I think the word you mean is 'estragado'

'esculachar' is 'to mess up'.

I would go here and listen to the pronunciation http://pt.wikipedia.org/wiki/Especial:Search?search=estragado&go=Ir

Hope to have helped!
=]

Q: does anyone know how to make a bebo skin without using or having photoshop? i need it step by step please if you know :]
Hi =]
Here are a few(I hope) simple steps to help you as you requested.

1. Go here http://www.getpaint.net/download.html and download paint.net, if you dont have it already. Its 100% free. You can use any other programs like Gimpshop etc, which are also free, but paint.net is extremely easy to use.

2. You should read the skin specifications here http://bebo.com/SkinSpecification.jsp if you havent already, to learn about the sizes for each section.

3. Once you have paint.net or another good imaging software, you need to get started on the 7 different graphics. If you already know what you want your skin to look like, all the better. Now, if you want to make lots of skins, I suggest you create simple, one color styles for all the graphics apart from the main background. This should save you tons of time from having to create all 7 graphics each time as opposed to just the main bg, but choose whats best for you lol =). So click file, new, and a window with sizes will appear. If you are going to start with nav. bg, set the pixel sizes to 760x40 and so on. Once you have chosen how you want the skin graphics, e.g. black, you can fill it with color and add any designs you wish, though again, i suggest to keep it simple so you can use these graphics for more skins. IMP: save each graphic with a .GIF extension when you're done, for best quality and smallest sizes. Paint.net is really good because it shows you a preview of how it will look if you save it in a specific format. I suggest you keep a folder for all your bebo skins and sections etc to make things easier. I keep all 6 graphics in one folder named like blackbebo or pinkbebo or hotpinkbebo etc. Then I keep another folder for all the main backgrounds.

4. Once youve done with the 6 graphics and are ready to start the main bg, just select the size like before (760x375) and get creative! You can do whatever you want on the main bg, but make sure it will match with the other graphics. If you want to make it as a background to the profile text, make sure its not too complicated design so it will be readable. If you want to put it on top of the profile, do whatever you want :)

5. Once youve saved all the graphics in .gif go on your profile, select change skins, roll your own, add a new skin. choose a name etc and click upload graphics. upload all 7 graphics accordingly and youre almost done. now click edit stylesheet. this is the part i find annoying. choose all the colours you want but be sure to match with the skin you have made. again, your best bet is to keep it simple. IMP: if you want your main bg to be ON TOP like this http://bebo.com/Profile.jsp?PreviewSkinId=4134841274, make sure you change the PADDING TOP to a large number. the measurement is in pixels, so if you want all your main bg to show, you would have to select something around 375, for that is the size of the main bg you saved =]. Otherwise, i like using 300, 250, but it doesnt really matter because you can just preview and change anything. then go to save and preview. change what you want until youre happy with your skin. then you can click 'use this skin' and select from the 3 options. your skin is ready!

6. you can keep making skins really fast if you always use the same 6 graphics. then you just create new main bg each time. for example, i dont put anything on my 6 graphics: http://bebo.com/Profile.jsp?PreviewSkinId=4186947461. also, an automatic link to your profile will be on the right of the nav bg so people can get to your page.

HOPE TO HAVE HELPED.
HAVE FUN
=]




Q: what does "ooer" mean in british
Usually its said by some guys who like some girls and shout it out!
But it can also be said by an audience when they're impressed by something.

Ooer!

:)

Q: Hi i'm 13 and a girl. Is it weird that I put on my ipod, go in my room and close the door, and in my underwear dance and lip-sync the words to the songs? Sometimes I dress up when I do it too. Sometimes i'm bored and it's really fun to me. Like do people usually do stuff like this, or am I strange? Tell the truth. Thanks!
Its extremely normal. Extremely. Believe me.

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Grazia
I'm in my second year of junior college, I'm taking English, pure maths, philosophy A, sociology, french and biology intermediate. There's not much about me I can write here, but I'll probably still end up writing things anyway..basically i just really like nice, non-judgmental people who have a sense of humour.

Im really optimistic, inspired, ambitious, dreamy, crazy, and unpredictable. I try to be non-judgmental, Im v.v open minded, sometimes can be a bit stubborn though. I love being passionate about things and certain people, having really close loving relationships.. living life to the full. I despise authority, believe in nature, adore music, love animals, nonconformist in every sense, unorganised, love adventure. Having fun with friends, playing games like we used to, having long meaningful conversations, building relationships, being able to feel free, being myself... Listening to music when I travel, enjoying nature.. hope to do something I love in the future.. mainly study psychology, maybe journalism, I would really love to do voluntary work in different countries. I really love travelling and..well, I write... Dont know what else to say (=.. ermm hope you're doing swell

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