DONT BE SHY-
my look may have the physical appeal of an airhead or a blonde bimbo but behind the look i may lead you to think is the total oppisite. i am girl who has exprienced && made my way through many difficult hard situations that many would of given up or will never exprience throughout their life. yet underneath it all i still have high standards for my self && my ambition ables me to achieve what i dream. i believe that i can cover most any topic && problem b/c i take my past as a lesson && turn into knowledge meaning i can give you more than just my opinion but i can give outcomes/facts/simlar feelings on many different situations. dont hesitate to ask anything. im open to any subject/conversation; i promise youre answer will be give a load of thought && completely honest/real/truthful quick response. i will not hold what i think back whitch in the end benifits you. DON'T BE SHY;
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i am 14/f with very low self-eteem. I have grown up ugly and now some guys tell me i'm hot, but some tell me i'm ugly. I dont understand. Also, I am quiet and am aftaid of rejection.
I am working on loving myself, but it is hard when you have so little friends.
Any sudjestions? (link)
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hey girl-im sorry you are feeling so low about yourself. but one thing i automacitcally got off youre question was youre depending on others to make yourself esteeme. that isnt healthy. as we both know there are some really rude, ugly people in this world && if you are showing that you are feeling low they will walk all over it. so i hope you can realize that && begin to realize postive things about yourself && begin to appericate them && flaunt them. one way is if you have a certain intrest/hobby that you are really intrested in start to practice that && make it an everyday thing. surround yourself that things that make you happy && you find intrest in. also picking a task whitch you think is difficult such as working out, deep cleaning youre room or whatever it may be. set a goal && achieve it. evetually little things like that can build you into appericating yourself && seeing you have potenical. i wish you the best of luck!!
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I don't believe in myself..I have very low self esteem..I feel horrible about myself most of the time..How can I boost my confidence..It's not as easy as it sounds..I don't know what to do..I have no friends and my parents (esp. my mom) tells me I'm useless and ugly) I get made fun of all the time..no wonder my self esteem is so low..How can I boost my confidence..All I want to do is feel superior just once..please help (link)
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hey hun- im sorry that you are facing this era where you feel almost worthless. you may have no support around you that is completely postive && that gives you enough strength to feel comfertable with yourself; so this is where you have to step in. its hard && i can relate to the situation but doing something productive like working out, getting an extra A on a paper, DEEP-cleaning youre room or whatever you may choose.. make a what you would think would be a difficult task && actually try && put effort into it && when you are finshed reward yourself with something, may seem lame && little but the little things can build up into something superior but starting out making that base is youre best bet. good luck && keep youre head up!
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i have serius issues on depression. i mean everyday for the past month ive been down. please dont make fun of me. i cant help it. i just lost a gr8 friend/boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and i havent been happy or the same since then. i dont want to take freakin pills cause it makes me feel unhuman. it lowers my self esteem. i havent had any self esteem in over a month. everybody told me to move on and find someone else to go out with but its not that simple to move on after a heartbreak. i have changed so much in the past month. Please help me. what the heck should i do? ill do anything if it works. ill rate high and ill write super great about you if you just help me. thanks and please hurry! (link)
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hey girl-im sorry that you are facing such dark emotions. i can understand the fact when htings pile up that it becomes overwhelming && almost forces you to have a negative outlook..but you dont have to be forced to feel anything, im sure you are strong enough to be able to pull through this one && learn something. you can/will actually build a self-esteeme through that; it is hard to take that first step but that first step will take you down a better road. i would try just ATTEMPTING to have a postive outlook on things, && analize each situation to see if its really worth all the emotional attention you are feeding it. i know youve probably heard this a million time; but theyll be many more bo9ys along the ways. ones that will treat you right && make you never have to worry about feeling this way but you dont find them in selfpity. so try && put yourself out there && youll be able to look on this situation && have that little boost of cofidence. i know you got it in you. good luck!!
--stephanie
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But the problem is I don't know how to ask for it. My dad is so completely clueless when it comes to me & my mother is not around. I've told him I'm depressed & that I think about killing myself all the time. But how do I straight out tell him I want to get help before I actually try to kill myself? (link)
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the best way is either go through someone who is a familyfriend or a closer friend && be there when you say you need professional help; the sooner the better b/c you really dont need to be thinking like that. atleast you realise you need help && you are willing to get some but the first step is to actually go get it. good luck && keep youre head up!!
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I get mad really easily, and people notice. How do I control my temper before it gets way out of hand? (link)
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thats a very commmen problem for people who hold feelings in && eventually build up && turn into anger. there are many ways to cope with youre feelings before getting out of control but it's finding out whats best for you here are a few ideas that i use..take a deep breath && look at the situation && see if the situation is really worth getting that upset over. another is taking yourself out of the situation && do something you enjoy but dont aviod emotions so maybe writting, talk to a friend ect. dont let the situations that you arent comfertable with arise to the point of blowing up. there are many more but i hope you can use the suggestions i just gave. good luck!
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