Hi my name is Chelsey and I've been through a lot in my life. I live in Branford Connecticut, and I'm 13 years old. Even though I'm young that doesn't mean that I haven't been through a lot. Everyday is a struggle, and i like to feel that i'm not alone and I wish that someone was there to help me get through the tough times and confort me. Thats why I like to help. Also ever since i was little I was usually the advice giver to my friends and I always gave them good advice so I hope to help more people in the world. When i grow up I hope to be a councelor for teens because teens usually go through the most dramatic things. Also just to let you know I used to cut for you cutters out there and I've done a lot of other things. I know that these days a lot of teens think self harm is normal and theres nothing wring with it but it is TOTALLY wrong and that why I'm here to try to help some of you people stop. I've helped a lot of people in the past. Also I've been through a lot of family roblems since I was little. Including my dad and other family member's making me feel like nothing. I've also been through a lot of unwanted sexual contact. So for you boys and girls out there that have been raped or moulested I'm here for you. As most teens know a lot of depression problems are caused by relationship problems and I've been through more of them than I can count, I know how hard they are and how much you cry and cry you can't bring them back. Or you just don't know what to do when theres a problem. Also my mom she has a disease that makes her not feel good at all, all the time,and there is NO cure for it. So i kind of know how it feels not to have a mom because she's not like normal mom's. So if you need advice i'm happy to give you some to the best ability that I can.
~*Thank you*~
Gender: Female
Location: branford,CT
Age: 13
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I hate myself and want to die. There is no way out. There is no definite answer to anything so how can you ever be right? Why do my friends always want to know what i am thinking when they dont care, they dont listen so why ask. Counsellors get PAID to listen to you. no one will remember me a year from my death. Anti depressants leave you numb and emotionless. Doctors dont issue sleeping pills coz I am a depressant but I cant SLEEP all i do is stare into senseless nothing seeing nothing but black shadows. The only releif is a razor blade and salt. Nothing will ever get better i will have this hopeless feeling of nothingness and desperation for somekind of peace of mind which i wont get. Things will always be the same and then ill die anyway. Im a selfish ugly fat bitch and the only way out is death. nothing can help me. im searching for a solution to get past my pathetic problems asides from counsellors, therapy, rehab, cutting, not cutting, anti depressants the only thing i can think of to a solution is death. no will will ever be able to stop this drowning feeling (link)
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death is NOT the answer. I've been down that road before and it just made thigs worse. i know it feels like there nothing you can do and it's never going to end but it does it just takes a little patience and time. just get some friends to listen to you that you can REALLY trust. i just have one best friend that i tell everything to and she helped me get through all the shit i was going through. and PLEASE DON'T cut it's just gonnan make things worse because if ppl see them they'll strat rumors about it and that will just make you feel worse about yourself. And don't think such negitive of yourself you are a beautiful brave young lady that it trying to seek help and get over her problems in life!!!!! And if people call you a fat ugly bitch, don't listen to them it'll just bring you down just remeber thins you know it's not true and just think of the good traits of yourself everyone has good traits! And remember this depression just lasts a little while but death it lasts forever. and it's just a waste of time suicide when you could have gotten better and you didn't have to die. It's just a really weak thing to do and just REALLY dumb!!! don't do it just try to write poetry it helped me or write in a journal. Whenever i have something i can't get off my mind i write about it on a peice of paper and it helps me forget about it and helps me move on! Or listen to happier music because if you listen to depressing stuff then i dout it will really help you....u know what i mean? But if you can't find somebody to listen to you or you just want to talk to me I'M HERE and would be HAPPT\y to listen. oh and also one more thing councelors do care if they didn't why would they want to do it as a living i dout they would want to listen to peoples problems just for money if they totally hated it the hole point in haveing a career is loving it and enjoying doing it everyday. So think twice about concelors! they DO care!!!!
i hope i helped!!
MUCH LOVE!!!xoxoxox
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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I'm not sure how many of you will remember but I am the girl who talks to her boyfriend on the phone, and I was afraid that I was caught because we were talking dirty on the phone. The link is [ http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=300878 ], incase anybody else wants to answer, but anyway, I am thinking that my mom may not know because she said that nobody thinks I am doing anything, and tonight, I was just talking to him, and she came up in my room, and said, "I came to ask if the conversations up here are clean" And I said yes and asked her why, and she said, "your sister told me to come and ask because I asked her." Ok, that makes me think that only my little sister may know, but I need other opinions on it, because I just need help here, could somebody please just lay out their opinion?
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Yeah i just think it was your sister that overheard the convo and i really don't think that you should worry about if your mom heard it or not. i think if she heard it she would of said somthing about it by now because i know my mom would and my friends mom would do the same. But i really think you have nothing to worry about. just be careful what you talk about now!!
good luck! hope i helped.
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this? (link)
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.:crying!!!:. OMG that is so sad!!!i feel so bad for you! you are not a bad person!!! DON'T YOU EVEN THINK THAT!!! You are a great person! and don't think he hates you because he doesn't he loves you and you and me know it! if he didn't love you he wouldn't of let you know in that note that he loved you before he comited suicide!!And you have every right in the world to e upset! but don't worry things will slowy start to get better it won't be that bad forever.Just remember he's looking over you and he will protect you from everything.He loves you with all his heart and he wouldn't want you to cut anymore if you still do. Because he just wants you to be happy and not miserable. I just wish you the best and that you'll heal! If you need anyone to talk to, to comfort you at all i'm here you can IM me on xoXCoNfUdLeDXox (on AIM)... much love
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um.. ok i go to a catholic school and i'm going through rough times. i know many of my friends who've cut themselves well i was doing my s.studies project and i was using sharp scissors and i was questioning myself if it would go through my skin b/c the last time i had i tried to cut myself it didnt work.. well this time it did. so know i have 3 cuts on my arm, i seriously regret doing it, i showed my mawmaw and im never doing it again BUT i have a passion play tommorow and i'm afraid that my religion teacher will see it.. should i be afraid or is there any tips to hide it b/c a big band-aid will be noticable. thanks for the help
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Hey yea i know it's hard to hide cuts. well you can put fondation over it it usually works. just brong it to school and make sure you put it on a couple times a day. Also it it's on your lower arm near your wrist you can wear a lot of bracelets i also did that and no one noticed. but if you don't do something to hide it i would be worried. I wish you the best!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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hi im 15 and every night and morning i have an itch 'down below'. and it wont go away. its really annoyin me and i darent tell my mom.
please help...what can i do?! xxx (link)
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You should go to the drug store and buy something called cortozone cream...(sorry i don't know how to spell it). But that will work it will go away faster and it will take away the itch and pain.Hope i helped!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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hi, it's very weird...I think I'm happy now. It's been a week that I think my life miraculously became better. My relationships with my friends and family improved..But my dreams are the same: sad, dark, disturbing. With common themes like: mean men, men who treat me like only a sex object or have lust for me, rejection and abandonment, not being good enough, and death or running away....I've been having bad dreams since I was a child (5 yrs old?) and lately, 18-20 yrs old the dreams became more clear, vivid and the frequency of bad dreams increased.
I've been reading self-help since I was 16, and now I'm already 20, and it helped a lot, but I think it is not enough to solve my "issues" which clearly manifests in my dreams?
So, what do you think should I do to resolve my issues? what makes it hard is they are all in my "unconscious" mind so its hard to uncover them in the first place..or, maybe I haven't read the "right" book yet, if that's the case, what book should I read? (link)
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hey i think you should go to a theripist or a councelor to talk about these dreams your having. Because my friend read something online that when you have dreams like that it has to relate to something in your life or something around you. You should pay close attention you never know it might mean something important! But then again it might be nothing. Well i hope i helped at least a little bit!
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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well for the past couple months i have been really sad and drepressed! i dont know whats wronge with me....i like havent been feeling like doing anything but sitting around and i've been crying alot for no reason....i have also cut my self...i dont know if is drepression or what? please help!!! (link)
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I realy think you should tell a close friend or your parents theymight be ale to put you on medication to make you not be depressed.
luv,
~*cHeLlY*~
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