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Cheers! I enjoy giving advice and I think I'm good at it. Is it pretentious to say I refuse to answer questions about "Love" from people who are under age 16? I don't think love is real when you're 14, and I don't think you can fall in love in a month. I won't dignify that kind of stupidity with an answer. I also won't answer questions with terrible grammar. I just make fun of them on myspace! I know that's not nice, but it's just SO easy. And it's so unfair for me to give them a good, honest answer when they haven't asked a good, proper question. Ask me a real question and I will give you a real answer!

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okay to start off i know i am not FAT. but i am 4 foot 11 inches and weight about 105. and i dont care what the scale says i care about the way i look. being so short for my age and having a regular appetite for my age doesnt help. i play 2-3 sports but i know i dont eat very healthy. i just dont like the way my stomach looks...my friends all say i am fine but really they are my friends what are they going to say?....

please tell me if you think i am just exaggerating or i should eat healthier/exercise more but PLEASE do it nicely...(i.e: dont swear and call me an idiot)

You weight may be low, but your body to fat ratio is off, I'm guessing. Do lots of cardio--stuff that will get you pumped. Not only will you have more energy as time goes by, but you will shed that fat.

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Okay, I actually think I have ADD. I've secretly researched it for a few months now, and I have a lot of the symptoms majorly. I used to be really good in school, I used to be able to focus and concentrate most of the time. Now, I have SO many things going on in my head and I seem to act like I'm listening, but really my head is off in like, a million different places. I told my friend that I had it and she's the type of girl that will just not concentrate because something is "boring". She thinks that she has ADD too. Everytime we talk about it, she starts laughing ("I have ADD, lol!"). It pisses me off so much. How is anyone going to take me seriously after she tells EVERYONE she has it, and starts laughing after? Its kids like her who use out the term ADD. I bet many students like her go to their doctor and say they have it. But what about us who actually think we have it? I feel like the doctor is just going to turn me away and say "yes, you think you have ADD along with the rest of the student body at your high school...". I NEED to get help quick, but how am I supposed to approach help, and how do I convince my friend that she doesn't have it, and not everything in this life is "fun". I can't even concentrate on the things I enjoy anymore...

I don't think you should self-diagnose Only your doctor can do that; that's what they're trained to do. If you think you have ADD, then talk to your physician about it to get whatever help you may need.

As for your friend, whether she has ADD or not is completely unrelated to you. Maybe she does, maybe she doesn't but she's dealing with it in her way. Ask her to have a serious talk about it, and if she doesn't want to, then that's her problem. She can giggle and laugh at the idea, but that may just be her way of dealing with it.

I can understand why you're frustrated with her, but forget her girlishness. If you are diagnosed with ADD, then your teachers and your parents will be told and it will be acknowledged as an issue, but that will be entirely between you and them--with no nevermind to your friend.

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i have tried all kinds of ways to get my self esteem up. but i just cant figure it out. i like myself a little bit more then i used to but not much. i want to love myself so that people can see the confidence in me because they like that. but i dont know how to raise my self esteem. any ideas, advice, whatever? lol

~♥~ Carrie ~♥~

This is going to sound weird, but I suggest it since it worked for me: Smile! You don't have to smile like your looney or retarded, but anytime you meet someone new or you're gonna be put in a new situation, smile and act cheeful. People will warm up to you very quickly!

Cheers!

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i think i have social anxiety. i have loads of the symptoms from this site i went on, like i'm scared to be anxious, and also when a teacher tells us we can ask for help, i can't, incase anyone is watching or listening and i might make myself look stupid, or something. but the thing is, my mum doesn't believe me, i broke down in tears in the car today and i said i probably have social anxiety (i'm scared because i have to do work experience, i've been placed in an estate agent and i don't want to BE an estate agent). she thinks i'm just shy, but the thing is, on this site it says people will often say you are just shy, but it's worse than that, i do want to be all social but i get scared i'll make a fool out of myself. what can i do about it, cos it's affecting my education and i don't have a social life =( thanks xo

Talk to a doctor, first and foremost. ONLY someone with medical knowledge can diagnose disorders, so while you may or may not have SAD, your physician will know for sure. If this is something you're really concerned about, then tell your mom that you want to see a doctor about this--be insistent, and if she won't do it, then you may have to set an appointment up by yourself.

Cheers.

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