Hi I'm a 27 year old female from British Columbia, Canada. I work in retail as a sales assoicate. I have an above average intelligence about relationships and mental health issues and love giving advice to those in need. My parents bitterly divorced when I was 13 and through this I learned a lot about relationships. I've also lived through a severe depression and mental breakdown in my early twenties, so I know a lot about mental health. If anyone has a question for me about either of these topics I would be glad to answer as best to my abililty. I would just like to add how much joy this site had brought to my life. I truly believe that by helping others you help yourself.
Website: Life Is What You Make It
Gender: Female
Location: British Columbia, Canada
Occupation: Sales Associate
Age: 27
Member Since: September 20, 2005
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How do you get a person that hurt you really bad off your mind. Because I just can't handle being used. (link)
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You can't. The only thing that will get them off your mind is time, plenty of time. It takes time to heal everything. I know for me it took me almost a year to get over the guy I thought was the love of my life.
In the meanwhile, do things to keep your mind off them. Make new friends, join a class, volunteer, write in your journal. Excerise is also a wonderful way to keep your mind preoccupied. Join a gym, prefferably a co-ed one where you can meet lots of other people.
Never lower your expectations. Keep working on your life and yourself. Don't measure your success by whether or not your in a relationship.
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Let me start here. Before my friend moved here, I didn't have any friends of any kind. My parents were constantly argueing and fighting. I would lock myself in my room for 3-4 hours at a time and turn off the lights and just sit there. Read a boring book or try to do something that would make me a little happier. I don't and didn't do any sports. So then I started wearing black clothes. Then I got into rock and punk music for some unknown reason. I would Cry for no reason untill this girl who is now my friend moved here. Me and her became good friends. We had alot in common. Now I found out that she's moving thousands of Mile's away. I don't want the same thing wrong with me. I can't make any new friends cause I can't trust anyone.. Please Help. (link)
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After you added the additional info, I immediately knew you were suffering from severe depression. You are only 13 years old and have already tried to kill yourself multiple times? You need some psyciatric help ASAP. You should make an appointment with your family doctor, tell him what you've just told us and he will refer you to a pychiatrist and hopefully she will prescribe the prober antideppressants.
I feel bad for you becuase I have suffered from depression of and on since I was about 16 years old. I didnt get treated until I was 19 but by then it was too late, I was SO depressed my first year of college that I ended up bombing out and ruining my GPA. If I hadnt have been so stubborn and stayed on my meds then maybe things would have worked out differently for me.
The good thing though is that you are still very young and now that we have recognized that you have this problem you can get treated and with the proper support and medication I'm sure can lead a normal life.
As for your problem with not having any friends I am positive that this has to do with your depression. It's very hard to attract people in your life when you feel so horrible about yourself. My prediction is that once you get treatment and the medication kicks in you will start to feel better and then hopefully you will have an easier time making and keeping good friends.
I hope this has helped you and PLEASE please please phone your doctor to make an appointment right away.
let me know if I have helped!!
thankyou
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I hate my life. Here's a little bit about it.
I have un diagnosed a.d.d or adhd, i'm 14, I ive in the stupidest town ever, i suck at everything i do, i hate my family, i do not work up to my potencial, i'm ugly, i'm too skinny, i'm not allowed to have ''too much fun'', i'm not allowd to have a girlfriend, i'm constantly depressed, i dont have any friends because i'm too much of a ''geek'', i get many racist jokes cracked about me every day.
i just dont know what to do, i just got in a big fight with my parents and I didn't realize until now, just how much i HATE my life.
please help me. (link)
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your problem is you're a negative thinker. Lots of people have been dealt way worse cards in life then you and have gone on to be very successful and respected members of society.
Okay lets start with you living in the "stupidist town ever". Well you can do nothing about where you live so lets move on to "I am 14", also another thing you can do nothing about. Okay "I suck at everything I do". Well I'm sure there must be a least ONE thing you can do well, am I right? You then go on to say you hate your family, well would you like to elaborate on that part? What is so terrible about them? Maybe they are just trying to help you but you want them to leave you alone.
Okay, and you think you're ugly, skinny, depressed, and a geek. Well this is all in you're head. I think you have low self esteem.
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