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Hi im 17/f. I recently went to the doctors because i have bad anxiety and bad mood swings. After talking with him he said i was depressed and decided to put me on prozac. I dont really know much about depression. I didnt think i was depressed but i guess i am. Can someone please tell me more information on depression, and the medicine prozac. Thanks a bunch!!

Hey.

Depression is just when you've felt really down for a long time. You don't enjoy things that you used to find fun. You don't feel like going out or talking to people. It's slightly different for every one, but i'm sure you're doctor explained what it is to you.

Serotonin is a chemical in your brain that makes you feel happy. What prozac does, is stop the serotonin from going away.

This link is a blog from a girl who experienced depression and was prescribed prozac. She explains it's effect on her life.

http://www.epinions.com/kifm-review-117B-18D062A3-396A76CF-prod5

Good luck

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Well until a few years back i used to be a deep thinker...I was amazed when i read my old journals because i couldnt belive how i've lost contact with myself these days...there is so much stress around me...i used to write brilliant poetry before... but now when i write poems they sound lame... i wanna be the same deep and articulate person that i was...how??

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It's hard to answer questions like this because it's different for every one. Try listening to your feelings. If you're stressed, you're stressed. That's emotion - that's you. Try going for walks now and then - without listening to music or talking to people. Just you and you're thoughts. You will be aware of you're perceptions of things and can ask yourself why they are the way they are. You will learn about yourself.

Watching the sun set takes about 5 minutes. It's insipring, thought-provoking and quite relaxing. Great for help writing poetry.

Meditation is the other thing. Try it, there are classes but you might find it easier doing it by yourself. Look it up on the internet and give it a go.

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Okay.. so I'm not exactly sure where to start..So I'll just tell a little from the past and mostly from this year.. 7th grade I started to become moody, easily irritated, and less social. Mind you, I'm very shy, So I've never been too social my whole life. Maybe going a few places here and there, But I just didn't want to go anywhere anymore. I started cutting, I stopped eating because I became self-conscious over my weight, Then at the end of the year I started cutting even more, and I always thought about death. 8th grade I became even more less social, but I stopped cutting during the middle of the year. I lost my friends a few times because of rumors, & lies. So I became even more upset. Then I started not to care, and nothing really bothered me anymore. My grades did go up a bit, and I wasn't cutting, I had stopped taking so much pills, I even tried to become closer with my family. Now, I've become more upset than ever. I pretend I'm happy when I'm really not, and I can't even sleep anymore. I probably get about 3 hours of sleep a week. I'm still self-conscious about my weight so I haven't been eating, my hairs been falling out, and I don't even come out of my room anymore. I've tried asking my mom to take me to the doctor, or to a therapist, but she just won't do it. I sit in my room for hours at a time, Just sitting there staring at the wall and thinking about what it'd be like if I wasn't here. Because of a silly rumor, I'm farther away from the best friend I've had since 4th grade, So now I don't even talk. I constantly think somebody's mad at me even when I haven't even done anything. My dad is continuously downrating me, I've been exhausted, mentally and physically and my grades are dropping from a 3.0 to a .5. I don't know what to do, I've asked to get help but my mom just won't let me, and I have no other way of getting it. I'm suffering from withdrawal from the pills and it's driving me crazy. I'm tempted to go back to use them, and I've even considered overdosing on them. It just feels like nobody cares how I'm feeling. They always try and help everyone else but they just leave me hanging. I've always helped and been there for my friends. It just feels like I'm trapped in something that I'll never be able to get out of. I just don't know what to do.Everyday I get these panic attacks and I just break down crying and screaming, sometimes I even abuse myself. I want to stop but I can't, It just doesn't go away.

-Sorry for this being so long.

Get help yourself. I understand, i feel like i could of wrote that. But im not a profesional or anything. And believe me you need one (dnt take it to heart - every1 on here told me i was skitz). But yeah, get the help your self. There are voluntary organisations everywhere which are confidential and if you go to the doctors yourself he can refer you to a psychiatrist or something, then your mum will have to take you. Everythings confidential these days. Look on the internet about services that might help you. Go for it. If your mum isnt going to be there for you when you clearly need her, then be there for your self. If you get there, and actually talk to someone, dont hold back, tell them everything. It wont always be like this. best of luck xxxx

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I have Tonsurephobia. I am being treated for it, but my school is making me have my hair cut because its too long and its against the rules. What should I do?

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Hey, Im sure that if you tell your school, they will leave you alone about it. Ask your parents to go in and talk to them. They wont make you do anything if you honestly have it. Dont worry. Best of luck xxxx

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I have just got over hexakosioihexekontahexaphobia which is the phobia of the number 666, but now i have just been diagnosed with Ouranophobia which is the fear of heaven. Do you think this is linked? I dont like talking to my phychiatrist. They know to much and that scares me too. Please, i need a normal opinion instead of a long dialog full of words i dont understand. (I dont like asking what words mean)

Hey, I think it is linked. It seems to me that you are a slightly paranoid person, but the link between your phobias is quite strong. My guess, is that now you can say the number 666 you feel dirty and somehow evil, something must have subconciously gone off in your mind that makes you scared of the consept of heaven and like hell more. I think that if you began to be scared of saying 666 again the fear of heaven would go away, but that doesnt help. In answer to your question i say yes, i think that they are linked. But i cant help you with anything else. Thats what your psychiatrist is for. They are only there to help you know, and you could ask for him/her to explain thing s more slowly. Best of luck xxxx

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I don’t know what to do anymore, my life seems to be dying slowly even though I am alive. I don’t want to live anymore; I have imagines everyday of me jumping out my window. My life just seems all messed up. It may seem like nothing to you but all my problems put together are just killing me little by little. No one understands. Today I came from school all upset I couldn’t take it and told my grandmother I don’t want to live anymore. She got mad, called my mom and dad and was yelling at me telling me how lazy I am. She kept saying I’m just a lazy person that wont get anywhere in life without studying. She kept yelling and talking and now her and my mom got into a fight over this. My grandma tried to make this all seem like she’s the victim and I’m taking advantage of her. She kept saying with a grandchild like me the one who cries for every little reason she should just take an overdoes and die. Why on earth would she say all these things when she knows how I feel about life! I go to her are you crazy you bitch, don’t you understand why I want to kill myself you are one of the main reasons. I don’t have a main reason its juts that I’m very unlucky, I have really low self cofidecne, some people tend to make fun of my face, since I have acne and put a lot of cover up on. Which hurts the most because I had acne for about five years and I tried everything, I went everywhere, took her pill possible, and nothing works. It’s like a long rode that never ends no matter how hard you try. You keep running and running until you think you got to the end but it just keeps on going. That’s how my life feels. Now we got new teachers and new students in our classrooms. I hate most of my classes, and most of all I hate my math teacher. Now I’m really bad at math I mean really bad I don’t even know what 7 times 8 is unless I think about it for half an hour. Yeah sad I know. Hes really mean and trys to bring people who are not as smart as him down. I tired getting out of his class but my counselor is such a bitch! She told me to come early to school today so she could change my singing class since they put me in the wrong one. They put me back to the one I already took, so I would be learning everything all over and I passed her class with a 90. I come back at the end of the horrible day I had and she tells me the teacher said its okie and I can stay in that class. I was like butt … she stooped me and said theres nothing I can do. I was like but wait im learning everything over again I don’t understand. She goes yeah I know but then we would have to change your whole program I was like sooo you do it for everybody else. I know shes just a fucken lazy bitch that needs to get fired, Counselor my ass. I don’t know what to do! I hate schhol and wanna quite im only 16 but I don’t see school in my future. My grandma makes me feel like shit about this but I don’t know what to do!!! Please help and don’t say talk to her because that wont work ill just end up killing myself faster. I don’t know what to do with my life. Please answer if you ever felt like this about school and juts ur whole life and tell me what you

I tried to kill myself. Twice. I tried hanging myself and slitting my wrists. Obviously both didnt work. Kinda made me think though. Maybe I have a purpose here. I mean think about it, isnt there anything you want to do? Like from when your little? I always wanted to by an adolescent phychologist. But anyways, you dont have long left at school. (that actually depends where you live... but where i live it would be your last year)you will hate yourself even more if you screw up your life because of depression. I had it, i still have it. everyone clasifies me as a goth cus im always angry and depressed (the consistant wearing of black, excessive amounts of eyeliner and black hair doesnt help - LOL) basically though, your grandmother is worried about you. you probably really scared her and shes trying to guilt you into not doing it. If you need someone to talk to, im here for you. I think i understand, i cant say completely but ive been through a lot. No one will understand unless you let someone in. I l;earned that the hard way. Best of luck. XXXX

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All right, I'm a relatively healthy (physically and mentally, I hope) young woman. I've never been intimate with a man. However, I've realized more and more that violence turns me on. For instance, when I see rape on TV or in a movie, I feel myself becoming aroused. When I fantasize, I always have these dark fantasies where a man is hurting me and forcing himself on me. It's not like I don't appreciate or crave romance - I do! Why am I having these thoughts though? I don't want to be hurt or violated or anything, but it just turns me on. Is it all right? Would a man be freaked out if I shared this with him? Would he take advantage of me? I've always thought I was a "good girl".

Dominatrix. Thats what it sounds like to me. Its not weird at all. Could be a phase. Dont read to much into it. And if you ever feel like experimenting, make sure a guy knows when your really saying stop and when your doinmg it for fun (role-play etc) Be extreemly careful. Best of luck xxxx

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