My names Becks, Im otherwise known as moon.
Im 20 years old,although I am not that old, I have lived alot, and have alot of experince with diffrent situations and feelings through-out life.
I have been a constant counciller, throughtout my life and have been told Im a good listener and I also give good advice.
I will always be honnest and blunt about what I think, but Im also very good at seing a problem from every angle.
More about me.
I and am studying to be a blacksmith, hopeing to start my degree at the end of this year.
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E-mail: Freakchildx@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: London(se)/ W.Sussex
Occupation: student
Age: 20
Member Since: March 10, 2008
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I have no clue whether i'm bi, lesbian, or straight. It's weird, because I can remember liking guys. I mean REALLY liking guys, as in, my heart would beat like crazy if my crush walked by. I've gone out with a lot of guys too, but I have that problem about getting bored after a while. It seems as though my heart doesn't beat like crazy and my stomach doesn't get that tingly feeling anymore, and I miss it. I still will show off for certain guys and whatnot, but I don't feel that heartbeat thing anymore. For anybody. I don't know what this means. I'm not too fond of the idea of me being a lesbian (absolutely NOTHING against a lesbian. It'd just be weird and all of my friends are super homophobic) I've just never imagined myself that way. So, what are some signs of being lesbian or bi? Also, is there another thing that means you don't like any type? I mean, you're still friends with them but you just don't like LIKE them. Thanks :) please note that i'm NOT homophobic, if I sound that way. I'm just having a tough time typing up my thoughts. (link)
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Your 13 sweetie, give yourself some time to grow up and discover who you are, dont worry about things that arent really important when your this young.
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I know someone who said that they don't really "cut" but they use anything they find that's kind of sharp and scratch their skin until it's just kind of raw... but they don't make themselves bleed, they get to the point right before they would bleed. They said they feel depressed but don't tell people that because they want to make everyone happy... and they just like having the marks on them and keeping it a secret. (link)
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This is self harm.
Self harm is a way of copeing mentally with the problems around you,a copeing mechonism, this doesnt actually mean your suicidal (but it can lead on to feelings of sucide), sometimes its a way of asking for help, without saying anything.
And as I said, sometimes is just a way of copeing.
If they feel depressed, they should see their gp.
Theres medication to balance the serotonin, within your brain to help with depression, and obviously there's other ways of dealing with depression and at the same self harm such as
- councilling
- talking with friends
- dealing with the root of what is making you depressed in the 1st place
Theres also ways of dealing with self harm such as
-Phoning a friend
-Writing down your feelings in a diary (personally when I self harmed I found this helped)
Listening to music, drawing or reading
-Going for a walk or a run, dancing, exercising or playing sport
-Counting down slowly from 10 to 0
-Finding a safe punching bag like some pillows
-Putting your hands into a bowl of ice cubes for a short time or rubbing ice on the part of your body you feel like injuring
-Using a red felt tip marker or lipstick to mark your body instead of cutting
-Putting a rubber band around your wrist and flicking it
It could also be attension, Im not saying that self harmers are attension seekers, because most self harmers wouldent want anyone to know.
I suggest talking to this person you know, and suggesting that they talk to their, gp or parents/family.
Heres some sites, in case you wanted some more infomation on self harm, and who you and your friend can talk to.
http://www.selfharm.org.uk/default.aspa
http://www.nshn.co.uk/index2.html
Hope everything works out
Moon x
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