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Ok I'm a 15 year old guy, ever since i was 8 I have always like girls,I asked my dad to let me see naked girls, I even whent on the internet once to see em because I was so curious.. I have in fact said that girls in my class were hott and have told them that... untill recently when I wasn't getting aroused by any girl... I looked at porn seeing if it may help I sat there and thought of naked women it didn't work.... I am postive I'm straight and I have never even thought I was gay, I never have liked men , I have friends come over all the time we don't do anything odd we usually hang out and play video games. Lately it has freaked me out the fact that I'm not being aroused by women.
What does this mean?
Also does stressing out over something like this make me gay? (link)
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No. Sometimes a person isn't aroused by the opposite sex for just a season in their life. It could be because you are preoccupied with other stuff or some lady did something that just turned you off, or there could be no reason at all. It's kind of like, if you don't like fruit, it doesn't mean you like vegetables...you just don't like fruit at the moment. You will like it later once you try some new ones or whatever. Doesn't mean you need to run off with some vegetables.
Well, you're gay if you're seriously considering having an emotional and sexual affair with a boy/man. Hmmmm. An old musical artist once said, "If a man is guilty for what goes on in his mind, then give me the electric chair for all my future crimes..." So, even if you have the occasional trippy thought in your head, it still doesn't mean you are gay. There's a wide wide spectrum when it comes to sexuality. I'm sure you fall somewhere over to the left with all the other dudes who consider themselves straight. Some folks are way over to the left, some in the middle and some far off to the right in Gay Land. And then there's everyone in between.
Don't sweat it.
MamaJen
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im new at my school and im a freshman. i didnt move or anything i just used to go to a different school. so anyways im really quiet in basically all my classes because i feel reallyy uncomfortable. because of that, i only have a few friends. why am i so quiet around people i dont know? why cant i be open and outgoing like my friends? also now i never feel as happy as i used to feel, when i went to my old school. like, right now, i feel sad..and i dont know why. i tried playing guitar to make me happy because that usually does, or watching tv, and that stuff. but nothing is really working..i still feel sad. my mom and sister wanted to go out to dinner tonight and usually i like that feeling of getting out of the house on a week night, but not this time..i dont want to go..and i dont know why. i feel like somethings wrong with me lately..im not depressed, but i dont know..at school since im so quiet when im not around people i like, others think im weird..but im not. im a fun loving talkative girl once you get to know me. but other people dont see that because they never talk to me. but im too shy to talk to them. so im basically screwed. how am i supposed to make more friends, if im so quiet? it really upsets me. (link)
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You sound like you may be down. Maybe you're just adjusting. Who knows, maybe you are depressed but that's usually measured by asking if you've been feeling this way for more than 6 weeks straight. Have you? If not, this just may be a time for you to adjust. Cut yourself some slack, eat well, get exercise and good sleep. You're young and may also be going through physical growth which requires a lot more sleep than you think. I read once that teens your age need like 10-12 hours of sleep a night!
ANyhow, if you have 1 or 2 good friends, consider yourself blessed. Don't try to be something you aren't. I was very quiet in high school too. I made friends here and there. WHen I got to college, that's when I really opened up and made lots of friends. Try not to worry too much and always ask yourself "What am i doing to take care of myself?" One of those things would be to go out with your family even if you don't feel like it. A lot of the times, doing things that are good for you require you to do things you may need exactly feel like (like going to sleep early or exercising), but in the end ,they pay off.
Good luck,
MamaJen
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