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16/f- i really hope you read this because my friends won't really understand.

alright so when i was 14 i dated a guy who was at the time 17. he was my first love and we were going out within about a week after we met. we went out for 4 months and i went to his jr. prom. i lost my spark of attraction to him and the large age difference was putting a strain on the relationship. he told me that there was another girl who liked him and he had always liked her and if he wasn't already going out with me then he would go out with her so he gave me the option (knowing about the other girl) if i wanted to keep the relationship going or end it. i decided to end it because i didn't really like him anymore and i'm not going to go out with a guy when i know he likes someone else.
the actual break up was peaceful and i actually became aquaitances with his new girlfriend. we tried being just friends but the break up was so recent that we ended up fighting and yelling at each other so we decided to say goodbye for a while. for about a year i thought about him everyday. not because i liked him but just because everything reminded me of him. i finally stopped thinking of him and now its been two years since i've even seen him (we went to different schools). well about a month or two ago he texted me just to say hey. i was shocked and i didn't even know he still had my number because he didn't have a cell phone when we were going out so its not like it would have been saved in his address book. so we've been talking. nothing major. at first it was really akward and we had nothing to talk about and even now after talking for two months we pretty much just talk about the weather and work. im not sure if he's still going out with the girlfriend he went out with after me but the last i knew of which was about 4 or 5 months ago, he was. so we've been talking almost every day or maybe 3 times a week. now i haven't heard from him in about 2 weeks and i've texted him and he normally responds within 5 minutes. he probably broke his phone again because it often gets broken...he works in construction. ok so here's the thing...in 2 years this past week of not talking to him is the first time i've missed him. there's two guys who i like at school but i cant get my ex out of my head. one minute i'm wondering if i like him and the other minute im remembering all the reasons why i don't. ok so im going to go over pros and cons.
pros:
-he's sensitive and sweet(he cried when trying to tell me how much he loved me)
-his family is incredibly sweet
-he's really easy to talk to
-he knows a lot about me
-he told me i was the first girl he ever truly loved

cons:
-he didn't go to college which is really important to me
-he is now 19yrs old and im 16 so theres still an age difference
-because of the age difference, my dad hates him and doesn't want me with him and my mom wouldn't be thrilled about the idea either
-he might still have a girlfriend but if i ask him i dont want him to think im interested in him
-my friends really don't like him and think he's a loser for not going to college

i obviously can't talk to my friends about this because they wouldn't understand and i haven't talked to ANYONE about this because i have no idea what i'm feeling. so if anyone read this entire thing, then you're amazing to begin with but if you can help me out i'd be really greatful. so...thanks!

Alright. Well, to start with I'm sure everyone tells you this, but your first love is always hard. So this isn't going to be easy either way.

If you guys keep talking, girlfriends or boyfriends are bound to come into the conversation now and then. That's the way it is. I think he misses you and that's why he contacted you again, but I don't know.

Your pros are good pros, obviously, that's why they're pros.

The cons.
-Him not going to college right away doesn't mean he never will. My brother's 25 and he just started college. He might just not know what he wants to do yet.
-The age thing doesn't matter really. I know it seems like it now, but if you ask your parents or older people you'll see that a lot of them are almost 10 years apart.
-Your parents would be supportive of you if things start going somewhere with him again. You think they hate him because of those things because the two of you broke up and they're trying to make you feel better about it.
-Just ask when the two are you are talking. Ask how the dating game's going or something like that. That's how my exs always get me to spill out about my relationships now.
-Your friends will have to learn. Like I said, college doesnt have to come right after high school.

If you need anything you can always IM me, this is more like an ongoing thing I can see, so my sn is babyaltox if you need anything!

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"On your first date with him, give him a lovebite on the top of his shoulder from behind! This turns him on completely! This is the perfect thing to do when you're in the cinema. (this works with most guys) "



whats a lovebit? please be specific

It's like biting a guy on his shoulder.

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I have a really bad hickey.
How should I cover it up?
sdlgjhsfdl !

comb it out.

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you can have me but not hold me
i am easily betrayed but when u have me its good i can be broken.
What am i
Trust

a friend of mine left me that, what exactly does it meann??

It's a riddle type of thing.

You can have trust, but you can't hold it.
It's easily betrayed, and trust is a good thing to have.
But you can break someone's trust.

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I'm 22 years old. I reunited w/ my old high school crush after 6 years. He never knew I liked him because I was his exgirlfriend's friend. I hated how she treated him. He was such a nice down to earth guy. When I saw him recently he still seemed like that same guy. We got drunk & ended up having mind blowing sex. The next day we were laid back (both had a hang over) we went to the movies & spent as much time as we could before he had to drive back home. I was curious to know what was going to happen after he left, so I asked. He then asked me what I wanted, I was honest. I mentioned that I wouldn't mind trying to have a long distance relationship. Mind you, there's an hour distance between us. He seemed comfortable w/ the idea. I didn't pick up on any akward vibes from him. That was a month ago when this all happened. I haven't heard from him at all. I'm feeling completely rejected. I've made an effort to calling him, left a couple of voice messages "Hey call me back when you have a chance". I even sent him a myspace message asking him if everything is alright. It's evident to me that he's ignoring me on purpose. What the hell happened? He was the last guy that I would have guessed wanted a one night stand. I'm wondering if his behaviour has anything to do w/ the fact that he's been hurt a few times in his past. I know that his exgirlfriend cheated on him as well as his exwife. I don't know what to do exactly. He was in the Navy as well & my friend commented that it's quite common behaviour for military men to just throw themselves in work & not pay attention to anyone else. I feel that if I saw him again I'd kick his ass. I don't know what the best way to go about this. I feel used. I shouldn't feel like this!

My husband was in the military and he threw himself into his work and forgot everything while he was. He might just not know what he wants, he might be a little paranoid & not be able to trust, because the same thing happened to my husband. Give him some space, if he wants to come to you he will. If he did use you, then that's his loss, and he'll pay for it in one way or another.

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ok i know this is kinda Long but pLease keep reading .... so me and my boyfriend have been dating 6 months and its been amazing , yea theres beeen fights here and there ; but one thing i need heLp on is my anger ''/ it gets the best of me and soo not in a good way . Like when i get mad at him he trys to make it better but i just push him away , Like when were together adn mad im just Like dont touch me , get off me , or just shut up . & when were not together and were taLkin on the phone iLL just Like ignore his caLLs , just be Like yea yea watever & hang up & AFTER the fact i feeL bad . thats one thing about me , when im mad i just dont give a fuck at the time . then when i caLm down its aLL straight - but i know he'LL get tired of it sooner or LAter & i dont want that to happen . it hurts him so bad & iv tryed everything , so heLp pLease

All girls are that way, it's just something we all do. When you get mad just tell him you need some space, don't yell at him or anything, but say "Just leave me alone for a while, you know how I get." And he should understand.

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i can talk to any guy that i'm not interested in, but when it comes to the guy i like [well to be more specific, my boyfriend] i'm really shy to talk to them i person.

through instant message and texts, i can talk to him just fine, but other than that, it's just ignorant how shy i get.

and i know he's shy too, so that makes it kinda worse. i have no idea what to even try to do. someone, ANYONE help me. i need it so bad.


thanks in advance. :]

I know exactly how you feel, I used to be like that too. Eventually I just started thinking about what I would say to certain things before I talked to him. If you think about it before you talk, it makes it a lot easier. It just takes time though. Eventually you'll get comfortable with him and be able to tell him anything.

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So today my boyfriend broke up with me through e-mailing since i was getting mad he wasnt replying back soon enough before we both went to school( I know, stupid on my part) and we started arguing and we have been for the past week or so. on and off. and then hes like " I'm done with your sh*t" and broke up with me. Im like extremly depressed and I really care about him so much and hes just really mad with how bitchy ive been lately. I asked him to forgive me and he said, you'll just go back to being bitchy again.
What do i do to convince him and give me a 2nd chance?

Just give him space.
If he misses you, he'll ask you back out.

But sounds to me like he's really not worth it dear.

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ok i was reading this magazine and in the magazine there were about 100 guys who described there perfect girl.

most said "caring, thoughtfull" but some of them described appearances. 1 guy said "preferebly long, brown hair" and the other said "curly, brunette hair" but none of them said blonde.

i have short blonde hair, and i was wondering if guys really do care about hair color or style.

thanks.

I know i'm not a guy, but I live with like 12 of them, so I thought I should tell you waht I know. Well, in my experience with guys, they cared somewhat. All guys have different likes. I wouldn't change your hair style for someone, because if they don't like you for you, then they aren't right for you anyway. Most guys do like long hair though as far as I can see, I just know all my guy friends like running their hands through long hair. Some guys like short hair though. It just depends on the guy.

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i dunno if i should dump donnie.....its at the end of the skool year and should i find another person?or should i stick with donnie?

Well, if you really love him, like it really seems you do, then you should stay with him. If your afraid he or you will find someone different, then split appart.

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