I've dealt with this - only it was my [ex]boyfriend.

I don't even know why he became so depressed.. we were together and, I thought, happy with each other. He didn't want to break up with me, but he was a cutter.
I held my feelings in - BAD MOVE. I ended up doing it too, because he kept saying how much better it made him feel and..he was wrong.

In the end, it was one of the reasons I had to break up with him. At everything, he cut or wanted to.
I told him, numerous times, that it was a huge problem in the relationship...but it didn't sink in until I broke up with him.

Try not to break up with your girlfriend, if at all possible. Tell her, though, how it makes you feel. Tell her that it's killing you and makes you sick. Let her know that you want to talk to her and help her. Always always always be open to talking to her - at all times. Tell her to call you whenever she feels like cutting. It's good for us females to know that our male counterparts are always looking out for us.

Also..if she's religious.. try getting her to talk to a pastor/youth pastor/clergy man/Rabbi about the way she's feeling.

[thewretchedmelody]

For me.. piercings are AMAZING. I'll make a list of piercings and what I think about each one :

Nose : eh.. I'm not a big fan of this one. Septum piercings are better than nostril piercings for guys. Wayyy better.

Lip : YES. I love lip piercings. Not labret though. That to me says "female" - but just my opinion. Snakebites are gorgeous. Anything on the lower lip, though I prefer them to be on the side instead of in the middle. But wherever you have it, I'll love it.

Eyebrow : Yes. Eyebrow piercings are pretty awesome.

Ears : Earrings are fine, as long as they're not obnoxious. For instance : if you have a HUGE diamond [or crystal..whatever] stud in your ear.. I think it's dumb. I don't like it. However, if you have a 12 gauge horseshoe in, that's gorgeous.

Nipples : gross. I don't like that at all.

Surface : It's okay. But it's really a bit much if you ask me.

Genital : Disgusting. Absolutely disgusting.

Tongue : [shudders] I really dislike tongue piercings. Kissing? Sorry.. not stimulating. Just disturbing.

Navel : Not in boys. No.

Call me "old fashioned" .. but I don't want a guy who has sixteen piercings in his face alone. I want to be able to see and touch his face. Lip is perfect for me though.
And even if the guy doesn't have piercings.. I'm okay with it. As long as he's got a nice personality.
But that's probably not what you're looking for..

[thewretchedmelody]

I can't tell you who to choose, because I've never met you or either of the guys so I don't know your style in guys.

However, to help you choose, why don't you take a piece of paper and write down the pros and cons for each guy. This may help you decide who you like best.

You also might want to write down what YOU want in a guy before making the lists about the guys. Then you can choose the guy that has the most qualities that you want in a guy.

Think about whose personality you believe you'll be able to get along with best.

For the guy you don't choose, be gentle when telling him no; be careful not to hurt him - but don't leave any loopholes.

[thewretchedmelody]

Well you do have to take into consideration that it has only been two months.

Try to remember though that gifts aren't everything.

My boyfriend and I decided not to swap gifts for "anniversarries" even though he and I have been together for sixteen months. The only time we swap presents is birthdays/Christmas, though flowers on Valentines day are always nice. :]

Roses are definately a nice gesture... but don't overuse them or she'll see them as a cop out; just you being too lazy to think of something else, you know?

But for now, roses are wonderful.

Happy 2nd month! :]

[thewretchedmelody]

To me it doesn't really sound like he's gay.
It just sounds like he's stereotypically "scene." That's how scene guys sometimes dress. Tight girlpants, dark shirts/hats/shoes and checkered shoes or belts. Plaid as well.

It is his style and he probably likes it a lot.

It's not a good idea to judge someone on how they dress alone. If you don't know he's gay, you might just want to ask if he's seeing someone. If he says yes, ask who.

Also, keep in mind, he might have several pairs of the same jeans. I had two pairs of the same jeans last year just because they were so comfortable and fit me so well.

Be his friend. That way you can find out if he's gay or get close enough to him you can ask him if he is gay.

Or you could just ask him out. You'd find out real soon if he was gay that way.

[thewretchedmelody]

I'd say you're a good kisser if the person you're kissing wants to kiss you more.

If he/she is trying to kiss you alot, or if you kiss for a long time and you're the one who pulls away first, you're probably a decent or good kisser.

[thewretchedmelody]

So you just want to be friends; and you don't want to hurt him. The most hurtful thing you can do is lead him on. It just hurts more if you've been led on then told that they don't like you that way.

Be honest with him; if you don't like him "like that," just tell him that you're not seeking a relationship right now. Tell him that you'd rather be friends with him for the time being.

That will be the least hurtful thing for him.

[thewretchedmelody]

I'm Alicia.

I'm against :
abortion
anti-Semitism
premarital sex
opression



I have very strong faith
but I'm not going to push it upon you.


I'm in love with music :

mostly hardcore;
emo;
and indie.

I'm my own person, no matter what you think about me.
I dye my hair strange colors alot.

I want to be a doctor or a scientist of some kind when I "grow up"

I'm one of the coolest people you'll ever meet.

I'd love to talk to you;
just not on Advicenators.

I don't care what you think about me.
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