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i have this question about age differences. why is it that there are married people and people dating that are 10 yrs apart, but it's not okay for a 17 yr old to be dating a 21 or 22 yr old?
your technically allowed to date at 16 right?
i need some insight from people.
thanks. =) (link)
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First off, you are right. You are allowed to date at 16. Actually, you're allowed to date when your parents give consent.
However, the difference between a married couple being 10 years apart and a 17 and 21 dating is a legal matter. In fact, it's illegal without your parents consent. And of you have sex, it's cosidered statitory rape, and they can go to jail. You are not allowed to give consent until you are 18, and if you are younger and going with someon older, it is illegal.
Plus, while you are 17, you are still in high school. Your fun can still be innocent. You can have fun without getting drunk or high, or having sex. It's also illegal for you to have alchohol or drugs. A 21 year old won't get arrested like you would if they were caught at a party with alchohol. They are of legal age.
Maturity levels are different too. The 21 year old will be more mature than the 17 no matter what. Thay also know more, and can do more.
The age differences really aren't that different, yes, but those differences still are really big.
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Okay so i developed real early and im very mature. i'm 14 but i honestly do looke atleast 17 or 18 & act this way to. well theres this real sweet hot kid who is 19..and he always says "i wish you weren't so young" blah blah. i know it is against the law to do anything with him, but it's like my body/personality dont go with my age. it's like im in the wrong time zoneish haha. well me and him have been thinking about it and always talk about hooking up. i just don't see why it's such a big deal. but if i were to do anything with him, how would anyone find out? i don't see how he could get in trouble. so my question really is, is it wrong to be in love with someone who is 5 years older then you? (link)
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To answer your question, no. You could love someone 20 years older than you. However, it is illegal. And you will get caught sooner or later. Expecially if you're having sex with him. That is considered statitory rape if your parents press charges. And it doesn't matter how old you look or act, you still have the hormones of a teenager. Beleive me in this: I have the same beginning. Developed early, mature for age. I'm 15. And I'm still telling you that if you two get caught, he will go to jail for something like 2 years. My friend was fooling around with a guy that was 18, and she's 16, they git caught. Now he's in jail for 5 years with a chance of probation. If he really does like you, he can wait for a couple of years. Don't do anything illegal. Illegal=stupid. DO. NOT. GO. OUT. WITH. HIM.
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Before I begin, let me just say that this is a LONG scenerio!
Towards the end of June, I met an amazing kid, infact he was too good to be true. Throughout summer we hung out 3/4 times a week and I was really starting to like him, a lot. He would even borrow my car when I was at work because he didn't have a car at the time, and I trusted him. He never acted suspicious and we spent so much time together I was falling in love with him. Once school started I started to pick him up in the mornings so he could go to school with my car and I would let him use my car when I was at work. And we would chill everyday after I got out of work, and we would always be together on my off days. We were together every single day & it was starting to surprise everyone. He needed to find a new place to live and it was stressing out the both of us because I'm not 18 yet and he is 21. I did everything with this kid, sexually that is, but never had sex with him because I didn't feel as if I were ready yet. & he always said "I don't need to have sex to be in a relationship." He was going through hard times, and I even helped him out by giving him money (prob spent around $1500 on him in 3 months.) All of a sudden, out of the blue, he broke up with me. He told me it was because he couldn't do it in this town, and he didn't want the problems from his past to be a stress on me. and how I had a good life going for me, and I need to graduate from highschool, go to college, etc. He said he had other things to worry about, and he didn't want to be in a relationship. However, when we first met he always said he didn't want to be in a relationship but appearantly I was differnt for him.
Even after we broke up, we see eachother every single day. Most people would probably see it as FWB (Friends w/ Benefits.) I personally don't have a problem with it, but I just feel liek lately there is another girl involved. I don't want to jump to any conclusions, because I'm not sure. He also happens to be VERY close with my cousin, they are almost together everyday.
I feel like he is bipolar, when no one is around we'll just cuddle and watch tv just kiss, fool around, etc. And when people are around he won't even sit next to me, he'll sit a few feet away.
I just don't know whether I should just blow the kid off, tell him to stop calling me or just deal with it until he leaves town, which is in the next few months. (link)
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Six words: GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE. And why should you be the jeolous one? You should be the one with the hott guys hanging on you, not you hanging on your ex, which is exactly what he is. No more fooling around with him. You want to have some fun? Go find a different guy, one that won't treat you crappy when your around other people. And like I said: No more joelousy! He should be the jeolous one. Go out and have fun. Just not with him.
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this is gunna be super long..lol
there was this really cute guy at my school and everyone always said he was a man whore and i promised i would never go out with him..the two summers ago he said he liked me and i did have a crush on him. we dated for a couple months and i broke up with him it seemed like he always flirted with a lot of girls. about a month later we started going out again and i broke up with him cause i thought i didnt like him anymore but i was really upset and i wanted him really bad. we started going out again around new years and i heard he kissed a girl while we were talking so i decided to hold hands with his friend to piss him off and we broke up..obviously lol. a couple days leter he started dating my best friend. it made me mad but i forgot about it and a couple months later i started dating another kid and i broke up with him and the next day my ex informed me he still liked me and i did still like him so we started talking again. i said i wouldnt go out with him again until summer..but we basically were dating. kinda but not really to the extent of friends with benefits and we dated for like two or three weeks during summer and broke up. ive still liked him the whole time and now he a new gf that is so gross and i want them to break up and stuf but idk what to do.
and he always says he has dreams about me and were really good friends i just want everything back!
something about him just keeps me wanting more. i feel lost without him and i just want to be with him all the time...hope that doesnt sound creepy..hahahhaa (link)
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Ok, first, I just want to point out that I have been in that position, and it sucked, royally. But, you wanna know what you have to do? DO NOT GET BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM!!! If you two didn't work out the first...or second...or fifth, or however many times you two went out, it's not going to work. The problem here is: He is still in your life, and the only way to get over him and to move on permanently, is to officially get him OUT of your life. I know the first few weeks are gonna suck even more, but you need to move on. Please trust me on this: All he is going to do while he is still around is to cause you more and more pain when he isn't. No matter what he says, tell him to leave. He does not deserve you. Go out with your girlfriends and find some super HOTT guy that will treat you right.
Oh, one more thing: If he cheated on you in the past, he will do it again. He does not deserve you or your trust. Good luck with the loser *personal opinion*!
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I realy like this boy who has just started university. He has been given my number and didnt get back to me. I asked his work colleague who said that he really likes me too, tht he is shy ( that makes two of us) and also that with him startin uni, he cannot commit himself at the moment as he has to buckle down. I really dont want to miss this chance with him but i understand about his studying . what do i do? any advice? (link)
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If you really like him, you shouldn't give up on him. Don't go crazy and do something stupid like stalking him. That would turn him off quicker than anything else. But be there for him. Talk to him when he's online. You might not be able to be his "special friend" at the moment, but you can be his friend. Good idea? After a few weeks or even a month of him being at the uni, try getting tickets for a concert you'll both like and invite him, even if it just has to be as a friend. And, no matter what you do, always be yourself around him. Don't become a royal slut or a bitch. Good luck and best wishes!!!
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