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my boyfriend and i have gone out for a LONG time.. well, lately things have just sucked. idk like our phone conversations are boring (neither of us ever has anything to say) we ALWAYS argue and our conversations just SUCk... what can i do to spark up the relationship or keep things fun???

thanks!

My answer is simple.
Do loads of things with him like go on a small weekend camping trip with him and then do loads of things while youre away.
Another thiong you could do is do an activity with each other so you gain a an interavtive bond.
Or there the distance idea. You spend one week with just friends and family and only call each other so that youll have loads to talk about on the phine and when you see him again youll be really close as youll not have seen each other in so long :)

This is all purely what id do and not what you have to but i hope it helps :)
Anthony

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16/f
i've never had a real relationship. im not fat, or ugly. i have a lot of friends but i can't seem to find a guy for me. every time i meet one, they sweet talk, and i fall for them and they get what they want out of me and then leave me. i fall for it everytime and i hate it because i am a mess because of it. i started doing really stupid things because im getting depressed. i hate that fact that i did that and im changing. but im still depressed. will i ever find someone for me? it seems all of my friends have found their special someone. whats wrong with me?? i dont want to be an easy peice of ass. but i am. i dont mean to be it just happens because all they need to do is tell me im beautiful and i cant say no. im longing for someone to care for me. and anyone i trust, they betray me.
help, or anything would be greatly appreiciated.
xo

Ok im so cheesed off by reading this.

I understand what you're going through as ive been there but with woman and not guys. But it does get you down and makes u feel so low!
But trust me all you have to do is(easier said than done i know!) detatch yourself the next time a guy says he likes you. Step out of the picture and look in.

See if he realy means that jus by lookin at the way he acts str8 after.. If he moves ina sexual way towards you then you know hes in it for youre body. But if he says it and you try and move in for a romantic hug and kiss and he seems totaly against it( which is obvious if you step out and looki in) then you know hes just a player!
If however- he goes with it and appreciates it then take it slow and YOU set the pace of the relationship and let him know that you want to take it slow.
You say youre friends hav found their someone already. Ok-thats fine. But you havent and theres nothing to be ashamed of i mean...

I cant promise you'll ever meet the man of youre dreams but someone will come along one day that you will love and cherish. Just as he will you. I was inb the same position as you only 1 year ago and now im getting engaged to marry my girlfriend
As for the people you mention who betray you. The best thing to do is just move on liek theve done nothing to hurt you. Its hard but it works and just dont bother with them at all. Believe me ive managed and i know thsat we are 2 different people but its easy if you make new friends and enjoy yourself and put the past behind you.

Just remember 3 things the next time;
Step out,look in
Explain you want to take it slow( to avoid being hurt)
You're time will come!

And as for those who betray you;
Youre better than they are
It's their loss im an amazing person :)
SMILE no matter what!!!
& last but not least
Talk to someone about this depression etc coz itll send u spiriling to a crash sweety i knw.
Annnnnnnd finaly
BE YOURSELF!!!
If people cant accept you as you then their jus scum
Hope ive helped :)

Anthony

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im not really sure my boyfriend likes me. there is a 3 year age difference. and he thinks i dont trust him. what should i do??

The answer to all these questions my dear is rather straight-forward.

This will be me repeating myself again but the only thing to do is to sit and talk.
Tell him how you feel and listen to what he has to say and come to a mutual agreement and take it from there.
Hope ive helped :)
Anthony

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my boyfriend and i had been going out since febuary 17, 2004 so a little over 2 years, everything was perfect we were madly inlove and it was so nice and great he helped me when i needed him and he would help me everything he was my prince charming!!! but anyway one night we were at a big party my good friend had this summer it was in june like june 10th around then, but anyway and there is this girl who loves my old bf i mean she would do anything in her power to try to break us up. she pulled out a bottle and demanded we play spin the bottle! i didnt want to because i figured she mad it so it would land on him and of course it did he told her he would only kiss me and thats it! and she jumped on him and started making out with him the worst part was he started making out with her back and i know because i saw his tongue involved. after my friend pulled the girl off of my bf he stared at me and i just started crying i usually dont cry but something made me want to cry!!! he came by me and hugged me and i pushed him to the ground he tried to apologize but i didnt want to hear it my best guy friend came over and hugged me and told me that he was a jerk and that everything was going to be ok. i didnt talk to my bf the rest of the night then next day i checked my email and there was 10 emails all with the same subject i dont like her is what they all said, so i told him i finally forgave him and things were good for about a week then he invited me over and i decided to go biiig mistake when he came to the door i noticed his friends b. and j. were there with there girlfriends who i knew and we were friends it was all good and everything was going great until his neighbor (who is the girl i hate who loves him) came over she and him flirted the whole time in front of me and then if it didnt get anyworse she started kissing him and touchin his tush again he just let her do it but this time i threw this soccerball on the ground at them while they were kissing and slammed the door on my way out. he chased after me and grabbed me \"babe i\'m sorry she just kisses so well i cant stop!\" i smacked him across the face and tried to get him to let go of me but he wouldnt \"im not cheating on you i love you and you know that\" he said \"do i\" i snapped back and kicked him in the nuts and walked off he told me he was sorry but i told him that we couldnt go out anymore and its been 3 days since i told him we couldnt go out now he wont stop calling me sending me emails practically stalking me telling me hes so sorry and loves me and wont do it anymore but i dont know i have to admitt i still love him but i dont want to be hurt anymore i really miss him but i dont like being treated like this please tell me what you think

Im proud of you for kickin him in the nuts its what guys like him deserve! I think u shud cut youre losses and walk away now. Ignore his calls and hiss emails and believe me sweety he'll get the hint.
If he"loved" you he wouldnt have let the girl kiss him no touch him or anything else and he wouldnt hav joined in. He's just an asshole who's trying to string u along so that he can boast to his friends. Ok you where 2gether 2 years but im sorry 2 say it sounds like hes bored of you and i hate to say that but it sounds like that to me.Hes not worth it youll eend up hurt believe me. I understand 2 years is a long time and you love him 2 bits but you have 2 think. Does it flow both way??
By the sounds of it i dont think he cares anymore. If he did he wopuldnt flirt or nethin like it with this other gal. So i suggest you jus tell him its through and you wont take his crap and walk away and move on..
I understand it will be hard but hell only hurt you more if you hang around.
Hope i helped
Anthony

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15/Female

Are there guys, around the age of 15 or 16, who just want a relationship of holding hands, kissing and making out (but not sex) anymore? I don't think I even know any guys who want relationships like that. Do I just know the wrong guys or is the majority wanting more?

Thanks! :)

I suppose there is still guys around that do enjoy that and i agree it is very special jus to sit and holfd youre partener and let their warmth make you feel close.
But i have 2 disagree also and not because ima guy i dont always think of sex but it is also enjoyable with someone you love and apreciate.
I love to hold hands and go long walk and be all vicotrian times romantic but i also enjoy making LOVE to my girlfriend which is what makes it great. This is only an opini9on but i hope i eleviated youre thought a little.
Anthony

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my boyfriend is about to leave for basic and i want to get him something he can use daily or see or whatever to remind him of me...any ideas?

I think the best thing you could get him would be a photo of you and him togethetr and a recording of you telling him that you love him.
That would make me the happies man alive if i had thaty 2 looka t every day :)
Hope i helped

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well, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6months now. In the beginning everythign was all good. BUt now were always with each other and were always fighting and he always makes me the bad guy. i feel so bad when we fight, and i feel like our relationship is going down hill. i just need advice on how to keep our relationship together thanx

The answer to this problem is simple.
Basically you need 2 sit down witht his guy of youres and talk 2 him about the problem,.
No-one in this situation is right or rong theirs just a glitch. Youneed yto understand this, the both of you. You need 2 also look at the relationship n c what could b better. I dont think dumping him now is the right idea.

Sit down n think what you and him collectively are not doing right. This problem cvan be resolved if you both agree 2 disagree.

Look at youre problems and talk 2 one another about the issues u BOTH feel are rong. After that give it 2 months n then if u still both feel like its not working then i suggest you rethink the relationship you have together

Hope ive helped let me know how it goes,
Anthony

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