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WhiteIce1521
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So, one of my friends, let's call her June, has a huge crush on one of my guy friends, let's call him Ben. I told June, truthfully, that I was going to try and hook them up on a date, because she's desperate for his attention. And Ben and I are the kind of friends where we hug and smooch eachother on the cheek every day. So before I tell him about June yesterday morning, he leans over and kisses me on the mouth, and before I know it, his tongue's in my mouth, too. I was too surprised to react. I like Ben too, but he's such a flirt and since he's moving in december, all he wants is someone to fool around with, and that someone is me. But June really likes him. I know she deserves better, and I probably do too. I told June that he's a player and is only looking for sex, but she still likes him. Should I tell her he kissed me? What should I tell Ben? I need help!!! (link)
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June's your friend, and you should be honest with her, but let her know that you would never go with a guy she liked. But you should let her know why you think they shouldn't go out, and that you just want to make her happy, because she might think you actually would steal him from her. The best way is is the honest way.
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So ive been going out w/ my girlfriend for 4 months now and up until about the past 3 weeks eevrything has been fantanstic. the 3 weeks comes into play because thats when she stopped taking her anti-depressant medication. She told me she just ran out and hasnt bother to get the prescription re-filled, but i think she just got tired of them. since then shes been lashing out at me, had unstable moods, and just isnt the same. Ive told her shes changing but she just ignores me. I love her very much but if shes goign to continue like this (it seems like its intentional) then i may just have to call it quits. (link)
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Tell here that. Tell her how much you love her, and how you don't want to leave her for something fixable, but she's lashing out at you, and it's damaging your realationship. Ask her to please get her meds, and say that you'll even go with her if you have to so you can have a date afterwards. If she doesn't care enough about her realationship or you enough to get her meds and take them, then you should break up with her, teach her the concenquences of things like this, or she'll never understand. But let her know that you still love her and still wish to help her, and even be with her again if she changes her ways.
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Okay, so this summer i went to a sleepaway camp for two months and i met my (current) boyfriend there. He lives in a different state then i do and in the beg. it was'nt hard at all to keep in touch and have a relationship with him, but now that school started we stopped talking as much as we did before (we now talk like once a day and maybe twice). But tonight i was at my house with my friends and we were talking online and he told me that he had to talk to me "about us" and then he quickly mentioned that it wasnt bad. so i called him after my friends left but he was busy with his friends so he hung up and called me back like an hour l8er and said "hey i'm really messed up right now so ill call you tomorrow bye" (i thought that that meant that he was drunk) so i hung up right away without syaing bye because i was kind of upset at him for ignoring me the whole night and i guess i was also kind of scared of what he might have to say to me. so i was just wondering what you guys think he might have to say to me and if you think our relationship could maybe be over?
thanks so much (link)
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I think you should just call him and straight out ask him "Is there something going on that you don't want to tell me?" or "Do you want to break up with me?" or "Is there something bad going on with our realationship?" A realationships is based on trust and conversation, so just talk to him. You shouldn't keep on with a realationship thats over with one person, that's what happened with me and my girlfriend that lives in Nevada, and it sucked. She just, stopped writing me or im'ing me and calling me. It's better to hear it from him than hearing it indirectly.
And you never know, he could just have something really bad going on with his friends or his family and not want to talk or have time to talk or not want to tell anybody about it.
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I like this one guy, well call him Joe. Well joe likes me back. But joe is good friends with my ex-boyfriend, who still really likes me and were still friends. My best friend told me not to go out with Joe because my ex would be sad. And she also said she would be sooo mad at me because my ex is so perfect for me(acording to her and no one else). I really wanna date joe but i fear my ex and my bff will me mad. (link)
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Well, the drama with your ex boyfriend really depends on why you broke up and who broke up with who. Like if you broke up because he did something bad or if he was the one to break up with you, he has no reason to be angry if you go out with someone else. No matter what, he has no claim on you, so he can't make you not go out with someone.
If you really like Joe, you should tell your friend how much you like him, and see if there is any other reason she doesn't want the two of you to go out. But never choose a partner over a friend, as you seem to already know.
I hope this helps!
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