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Okay, so this guy that i`ve been wit` since we met jus` recently broke up. We were together for 15 1/2 months. He took me back everytime I cheated or anythin` like that. But, this time, he broke up wit` me. He said he loves me still, && that we`ll get back together "soon". But, right now he has "too much drama" && "not enough time" for a girlfriend. I love him so much && I want him back. This all happend 4/21. Everytime I talk to him..I cry on the phone..off the phone, or whenever I think about him. I want him back. I feel like no other guy is worth my time, but him. He`s my everythin`. I jus want to know how I would be able to start the "soon" process.

oh by the way..he`s livin` wit` lesbians && he gets mad when I talk to ANY of my guy friends. But i`m perfectly fine wit` that. I`ll stop talkin` to EVERY guy, jus` to have him back.

HELLPPp!!

i rate..GOOD! (:

if he is the 'only guy worth your time' why did you cheat?

you can't blame him for wanting to leave you, to be honest.

also he says he has "too much drama and not enough time" for a girlfriend. if this is the case then the best way you can show that you care for him is by respecting his wishes. if he wants to come back to you, he will in good time.

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ok so i broke up w/ my boyfriend of 10 months 3 months ago and i was pretty down about it for a while but im pretty much over it now. we stil talk and were friends but i know hes still inlove w/ me because he tells me all the time. besides that when he likes someone he for some reason always compares me to them like shes almost as pretty as u or as smart things like that. i feel guilty b/c i like hearing those things from him b/c hes the only one who seems to think that. i like that he gives me attention and sometimes i manipulate him so i get attention or try to make him jealous. i know its wrong but i dont know why i do it. could it be because i miss him? i also get kinda jealous when he talks about one of his friends that are girls. please help!

it's something everyone goes through after break ups. you tend to thrive on compliments, yours just happen to be from your ex.

when you find a new love interest, you'll get over it, don't worry yourself :)

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i have been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half now & i want to do some things to make him see how much i love him..ive done the writting notes and stuff but i would love if someone could give me ideas on sweet things i could do that dont cost any money that will show him that i care and that he will love

see what ingredients you have around the house and bake him something sweet, like cookies or cupcakes! then find or make a small box, and decorate it with anything you can find, pretty paper.. ribbons...

if you have some tissue paper or similar this is a great way to line the box, but if not you could even tear up and old magazine!

have fun ^_^

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okay, My name is JJ 13/f. There are two boys I really like one I've gone out with and he broke up with me, because he felt like it. Or so he says. His friends and him are always mean to me but, when he's alone with me he is always nice. His sister is my best friend. The other boy is ALWAYS nice, his friends are nice also, but his friends and I have grown up together, there are only 11 kids in my class.He's found stuf out about me that Only the kids that where in K learned or they are my BFFs. He always looks and makes sure I look when he is doing something funny, and looks pleased when I smile at it and jealous if I mention Mr. Ex when he's around. Which one do you think I sould chose?

The way you've worded it makes it sound to me as though you already know which is the right choice, and you know which one you want!

Anyway, you're still young, so go for it, give this nice guy a chance :)

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17/f
k so i have problems with guys. none like me! But people tell me i'm good looking, and fun, but then why don't any guys like me?! people say all that stuff like 'i know someone taht likes you' but no one ever seems to...help! wut can i do to be more attractive to guys?

it's not all about being good-looking and showing off! guys need to see your caring side, the side that says "i'll be there when you need me, i won't hurt you. etc."

show them the LOVE you have to offer.

i suggest you start with friendships, that's always worked for me! get to know a guy first, have meaningful conversations, as well as throwing in the flirty comment or two every now and then!

;) good luck

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14/female

so i've had my boyfriend for about 3 weeks.. and this friday I wanna make-out with him at the movies..But I don't want him to know it's my first time.. I REPEAT, I do NOT want him to know it's my first time.. Can somebody give me a step-by-step on how to make-out? I need every little detail, everything that's most likely going to happen.. don't suggest some french kissing website because i've already been there to them all.

hehe, we've all been here before...

it's important to know that EVERY KISS WITH A NEW PARTNER WILL BE DIFFERENT, so everytime will feel like the first, and will be new for him too.

start with a hug, his arms around you or vice versa. then even if he's not looking at you, kiss him on the cheek, the neck, anywhere, and continue to do this until you get his attention. keep your face close to his, and when he looks at you, look him in the eyes, then shift your eyes to his lips. tilt your head to the left then move in gently and kiss his lips. focus on his lips for a while, placing gentle kisses esoecially on his bottom lip, and allow your lips to 'fit together'. when you have the confidence, slightly part your lips and slide your tongue between them, so they just touch his. if he wants to go further he will bring his tongue to meet yours. then open your mouth a little wider, you may need to tilt your head a little more, and just play with his tongue. don't stick your tongue out too far. making small circles at the tip of his tongue is a good idea. alternate between this and soft kisses on the lips, and keep it going as long as you like.

if there's any specific detail you want to know more about feel free to ask!

good luck ^_^ go gettum

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ok well i have a really close friend(a boy) he has really helped me get thro the last year without me wanting to slit my wrists or something.. i have found out that he is lyk in love with me.. its not even just a crush he is lyk totally serious and i dont want him to act lyk this..btw we went out for 2 years a year ago n i promised myself i wouldnt fall in love with him again because he is amazing.i dont know how to say i dont want to go out with him but i still want to be friends...what should i do?

it will hurt more if you lead him on.

tell him that you love him and appreciate everything he has done for you, but you no longer see him as a potential boyfriend.

i know it will be hard for him to take, but stick by your word. you DO NOT have to compromise the way you feel for the sake of not upsetting someone else. it's a big mistake i used to mistake and still do.

it will make you feel guilty, but ultimately it is YOUR LIFE and if you don't want to be with him, that is your decision and no-one can take away your right to make that choice.

just make sure he undertsands how much you truly value his friendship.

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okay so theres this guy im kinda friends with and im sort-of crushing on him and we talk online alot and at school he will always say hi to me in the halls. so anyways i was talkin to him online and he was like well im going to go get naked and jump in the shower , wanna join me ? and of course i was like yeahh lol . but obviously he was joking around but what do you think that he was thinking about when he said it .. and if he's feeling like how i am about him . thannk youuu ♥

as the others have said, he was flirting. guys tend to flirt A LOT whether they like you or not unfortunately, but throwing in your own comments now and then will add more fuel to the fire. :)

good luck!

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What are some good love songs to listen to? I need some ideas, because I'm going to be cooking with that special someone on a romantic date on Friday, so I need some "mood" music, you know? Any suggestions?

hmmmm...

the goo goo dolls - 'iris'
david bowie - 'as the world falls down'
leonardo's bride - 'even when i'm sleeping'
monica - 'angel of mine'
jewel - 'you were meant for me'

those are some nice ones i think :)

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