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me and my boyfriend love dirty talking to each other when we can't be together, but lately he wont dirty talk back to me. im not sure why though. when i asked he just said that he couldnt think of anything to say. i was just wondering if there could be any other reason.
another thing is he always wants me to say dirty things to him, and i do. but he refuses to say anything dirty to me. i kinda feel like im just being used to help him get really turned on. what should i do?

Communication is always the best choice in any situation when you feel used. Usually the other person doesn't realize that they are doing it, and will feel bad that they caused you to feel that way. I expect he will apologize, and things will be back to normal in no time.

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how can you get over someone? and how long does it usually take? some background info is: we dated for 15 months (broke up for 3, realized we couldn't do it then got back together), and were each other's first loves, we didn't have sex but he's the first guy who's ever seen me naked and i've ever been sexual with. i want to know an estimated time it will take to forget him.


we broke up a few days ago and i have this huge hole in my heart and i want it to just go away...(or at least until we start hanging out again in like a month) we agreed to hang out in a month and try to be friends and see where it picks up from there....so what can i do to just get him out of my headdd? :/

Time. I know that answer sucks, but trust me I know. There are few things to really help when you end a relationship like that. Been there a few times, really got my heart broken once, but all you can do is wait it out. It always gets better with time. Try hanging out with friends, or doing things that usually make you happy. Friends are your best bet; a good friend will know exactly what to do to make you feel better. Even if they can't they will be more than happy to just sit and stare at the wall with you. Just be patient it's only been a few days, give it a month or so and you will be feeling much better,

Get to feeling better.

Craig

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19-female.

i've liked my best guy friend for like THREE yrs now .. crazy right??? it's just been such a complicated situation because he had a long time relationship with this girl so i didn't want to ruin that and tell him i had feelings for him. they're broken up now. he's actually tried getting with me. we were more touchy-feely if you want to call it that like a year ago. we would lay in a bed together and just cuddle and i would like rub his stomach and he would put his arm around my waist, it was very cute. he's also tried fingering me, but that was about two years ago and i didn't let him because i wasn't ready at that time. he's always giving me mixed signals though. we've never even kissed!! i think he tried to ONCE but i don't even know if we was going for that. basically we were on my bed and he was just sitting on it and i came and straddled him and put my arms around his neck and we were just flirting and we looked into each others eyes, and i think he was going to kiss me but i turned the other way and then i kissed his forehead .. stupid me!! now, we never spend alone time together we always end up seeing each other randomly with a group of people, which means that we don't have fun anymore :( i really want to go in for like a kiss. what if i pushed him against a wall and just looked at him and smiled, but then i would want him to actually make the move to kiss me. i dont know what to do!! i'm too scared to kiss him because what IF he doesn't want me to kiss him, and then our friendship would be awkward. how can i be flirty like i use to be? i think he's basically stopped flirting with me because i rejected him when he tried fingering me but i changed. what would you guys do?? is there something sexy i could do to get him excited and then i know he would make a move?

First thing: guys are simple creatures. Basically from your story I already know two things; one this guy likes you, and two he isn't sure whether you like him. It is easy for men to feel that a girl is just flirting with them, either because we are far too specious, or because we have had experience with this before. Obviously this guy is into you because no guy lies in a bed with a girl and cuddles unless they have feelings for them, but he is unsure of your feelings. I'm guessing he feels that you have turned him down twice, and doesn't know whether you really like him or not. I think the solution to your problem is communication. Talk to him; let him know that you like him, and that you're ready to take the leap from friendship to more. I'm sure you will find that he is just as ready as you are to take that leap.

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