I'm all what you wouldn't call ordinary. xD
Anyway,I'm 16 years old and I'm in first year of high school.I like a lot of things,I don't hate anything in particular.I am a very nice person,with an attitude though,but I'm always there for people who need me.My friends tell me it's rare for someone to be so kind-hearted,so I'm pretty proud of the way I am. :D
I love fashion,music,shopping and hanging out with friends,as well as giving advice,well that's why I'm here,right? Anyway,if you need some advice on love and friendship,just ask away!
solariagirl94
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Age: 16
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Well i am 17 years old and have been with this guy on and off for 2 years. We always break up then get back together but he had a child when we were apart. I truly love him and claims to feel the same way but he always brings his friends into our relationship causing it to fall apart. Is it best for us to be together and work it out or not? (link)
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It's better to break up.Why prolong something hat doesn't work out? It'll be better for both of you.I know,I had a situation kinda similar to yours(without the baby.) I broke up with my boyfriend 2 days because of that,cause there was no point in continuing the relationship that's falling apart.That's the sad truth.
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I've been with plenty of guys and have gotten pretty close to a number of them both physically and emotionally. For some reason, lately, I've had the tendency to kiss my boyfriend on his forehead a lot. I'm not sure why. I just find it strange, because I've never been inclined to anyone on the forehead, around the eyes, or on their temples or anywhere in that general region. Now, in the movies, I've always gotten the impression that kisses like this were only given in relationships from elderly people to children, (which is a little funny considering he's the older one by four years). I was just wondering what message me kissing him like this all the time could be sending. I see him as a lover/best friend and just think it's funny. He's the only one I've ever kissed like this and for some reason I find that whenever I kiss him like this it's just....right. ( He doesn't seem to have anything against it, in fact, he seems to love it but ,I'm just worried he may think it's a little strange too. is it? )
So yea, just wondering. Any advice? :) (link)
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When you kiss him on the forehead,it shows you care deeply about him.Kisses on the forehead generally show strong love for a person,care and protectiveness over them.So it's not strange at all,on the contrary,it's normal.
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Ok so like iv been hangin out with this guy a lot latly he told me he loves me but he don’t treat me like he does he talks to all these girls we are not dating so he tells everyone we are just f** buddys I already told him I want to be more he said the reason why he hasn’t asked me out is because of all the guys I use to be with but I stoped talking to all of them I don’t know what to do I really want him but sometimes I don’t think he wants me just cuz all the girls he talks to and he is very controlling to me. (link)
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Well the truth is he doesn't want you.He is one of those jerks who only seek sex.Dump him for good and move on.I understand how you feel but I think you don't wanna be hurt.There are so many guys out there who can love you like you should be loved and treat you right,obviously this guy isn't one of them.
Best wishes,
solariagirl94
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I will keep this as short as possible. Basically my boyfriend and I are going through a bit of a "rough patch" We've liked eachother since almost a year ago, but we never got together. He was never really sure what/who he wanted. He always told me
he really liked me, but when I first met him he had split up with his girlfriend 2 days before. He wasn't too bothered about it, I remember asking him why and he said she was a "b*tch" We carried on as friends and he mentioned her on a couple of occasions, usually saying bad things about her e.g. pranking calling him all of the time. Around September time me and him fell out, because I really liked him and although he said he liked me, he weren't ready for a relationship. Whilst we had fallen out I know he was in contact with his ex girlfriend again, but they never got together. 3 Months ago he apologised to me, he said he really missed me, liked me etc. His ex girlfriend went crazy when she found out we were together, he told me that she had sent him a text message saying he was a jerk and all this. I asked why she was so bothered if they'd split up almost a year ago, he said they'd started talking again but she was a "b*tch" I know she always wanted him back, so I was really happy when he was ready for a relationship...and with me. I feel like she's caused problems between us though. I don't know for sure though. One of his good friends Carmen is friends with her, so whenever my boyfriend goes to these parties his ex is always there. I was glad that he told me that she was there instead of hiding it from me, he said that she asked why he used to be in moods with her etc. But he told me that he refused to speak to her until his friends told him to stop being mean. He has been to a few parties where she has been, and I know he wouldn't of cheated on me with her, but it makes me wonder what she has said to him. The past week my boyfriend has been confused about his "feelings" I asked him if he still wanted to be with me and he said he didn't know how he felt. Am I being paranoid or will his ex have something to do with this? (link)
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Well,the truth is,it's all rather unclear.Anyhow,I suggest you sit and talk to him and see if you can sort it out.Ask him to be honest.She may have something to do with it,and I can't tell you if he likes her,but what I can tell you is that you should get to the bottom of it as soon as possible.Don't torture yourself.The sooner you know the truth,the better.
I wish you luck.
solariagirl94
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I know all guys are different, but do you think it's a turn off if they meet a girl who is almost 18 and isnt experienced (like hasnt even had her first kiss)? (link)
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If a guy thinks it's a turn off,he's not worth your time.You just haven't found the right one to share your first kiss with,or anything more than that.Trust me,it's better to wait,than to share it with the wrong person,and make it something you won't like remembering.The right guy won't think it's a turn off-he'll be glad he's the one who kissed you first.You're not an easy girl and good boys appreciate that.If someone tells you it's a turn off,don't let yourself be bothered by it.Stay the way you are,it's the right thing to do.My opinion is that if a girl is inexperienced she is not at all less worth than the ones who are.I hope I helped you,and that you got my point.
Best wishes from solariagirl94
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what are some things to say to my boyfriend to make him happy and let him know i care about him...like what do guys like hearing from girls?
oh and i want to tell him i love him but i don't want to scare him ...he said it to me after 4 months but a few months after that we broke up but then got back together...i want it to be cute, like i don't just wanna randomly come out and say it...how should i do itt? thanks :) we've been together for a year (not counting the 3 months we weren't together) (link)
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There are a lot of ways to do it.But my personal favorite is saying things when me and my current boyfriend cuddle on the sofa.We stroke each other's hair,kiss eachother on the forehead,hug each other,etc.Remember that actions speak louder than words.But if you want to say something to him,compliment his eyes,smile,even clothes,the way he kisses you,touches you etc.Sometimes,guys might not understand that you love them when you say it,just keep on showing it.He'll get the hint....hopefully lol
However,you shouldn't be scared of telling him that you love him.Of all things I say to my boyfriend he likes that very "I love you" the most!
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Hi my problem is that theres this guy zach that i went out with and when we broke up and we still liked eachother and we do now well neways i tell my friend ashley to call and ask him all these questions and when she calls back he tells her 2 tell me that he loves me and i love him 2 i just don't know if he's lieing to her and i can't call and ask if its all true because im not suppost to know about ANY of this and he tells her that he's going to ask me out again but hes scared and i don't know what 2 do can u PLZ help me? (link)
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I think you should talk to that guy and see if he still loves you.Just be direct.It might be hard,but it's the best way.For me,it worked. :)))
And furthermore,if you are not supposed to know any of that,it should mean he's honest,since he thinks you don't know or whatever.Anyways,hope I helped and good luck!
Best wishes,
solariagirl94
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this is going to sound stupid, but i'm a 14 year old girland i want to find love. i think i have a picture in my mind of the boy i want and i think my standards might be too high because everytime i find something that might have a shot, i push the boy away. should i wait for the right boy and stop looking or the other way around? (link)
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It doesn't sound stupid.I had the same problem as you,but here's what other people told me.Leave the standards aside.You need to like a guy for what he is,not try to change him.You're young,you have time for love and that stuff...Don't push guys away,try to find something you like in them.Btw I forgot to mention,you can try to find love,but true love will always find you.Don't rush with relationships.Be careful who you get with.I got my heart broken,that's why I'm telling you this.And I think you should stop looking for now and enjoy being single.It has its perks!
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Im friends with this guy and i have a huge crush on him.
ok, heres how it started... a couple months ago, me, my friend/crush, and alison were playing truth or dare... and she dared him to kiss me, he kissed me, then she dared me to kiss him so i kissed...then he kissed me and we just kept going back and forth and we had a total make out sesion. i had to go. and when i left he told alison that he had so many more feelings for me now that we made out. i don't know if i should ask him out or what?? i can never get him out of my head.
WHAT DO I DO, IM DESPERATE RITE NOW????????? (link)
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you should definitely get with him,but I agree with the other columnist.Wait for a little and play hard to get.See if he stays around.
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so there is this guy named eric. ive always kinda liked him but i dont know if he likes me too. my friends say he is always looking at me!...but the thing is i dont know if its true..i mean i love my friends to death but i have no idea if he does. so, one night on aim i was gonna ask him out when all of a sudden he said im pretty. i was so happy! but then i chickend out of asking him out, luckily that i did he found out the he had a gf already. should i still tell him i like him. or do i move on? help!! plz!!!
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Don't tell him yet.First,try to get closer to him.Spend more time with him,and that sort of stuff.Talk,hang out,go out with him a few times,see how it is...Then,when you're ready,tell him you like him.Don't take too long of course.But don't be sad if it doesn't work out,just move on!I know what it's like trust me :) and there are A LOT of guys around,so don't just have eyes for one guy.
Hope this helps.
Best wishes,
solariagirl94
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and im in love with him, like madly in love with him. we dated for 5 months and he broke up with me. i had problems between him and my dad, my dad couldnt stand him and all that crap. and he said we needed a break. so i cryed and yeah, i was at my friends house when it happened. and the next day i hooked up with his bestfriend, i was not thinking at all. i totally ruined the chances with him again. he waas so upset and i felt terrible.
he had a bestfriend, and it was a girl, and they were bestfriends for a long time, i mean i didnt even have a big problem with her going over hhis house and stuff cuz i trusted both of them. a few weeks later.. they hooked up and "knew it was love." they started going out and hiding it from me and ugh i found out and i cryed so hard. and i still do ! the problem is .. I CANT GET OVER HIM ! its been months ! ive had boyfriends after him but no one is good like him, and i just wanna be with him ! me and her are not cool AT ALL. and always saying shit back and forth. they have a breaking up and getting back together thing going on right now. and i still talk to him, and everytime we hang out he cheats on her with me, i cant help it, and he tells me he loves me, and its just.. i wanna know if hes using me, and how to get over him, and just i cant take this pain anymore. pplease help me !? (link)
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hah,I've been in the same shit,so to say...I was really hoping I wouldn't see there's someone else like me...Oh well.Let's see...this is all a giant love affair.He broke up with you,but then you hooked up with his bestfriend,and he hooked up with his another bestfriend who's a girl.Hm...pretty tricky.But here's what I think.He definitely doesn't love her if he's cheating on her with you. I think you should talk to him about it,if he means so much to you.He might be using you,that's most certainly not out of the question.Just try not to let him hurt you or force you to anything.When this happened to me,after everything was cleared up with the guy,I stayed with him for some time and I lost interest in him.I was also madly in love with him,just as you are now lol.I talked to him and we had everything sorted out,but I just needed to get away from him in the end,yet I thought I couldn't live without him.As for how to get over him,only time can heal that wound in your heart.When you get a new boyfriend,stop comparing him to that guy you dated for 5 months.You can't see their qualities because you try so hard to find something in them that HE had.When you stop doing that,you'll be a lot beter and able to get out of this emotional mess.
That's how I got over him.Hope I helped you.
Best wishes,
solariagirl94
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So I REALLY REALLY like this guy, but he REALLY REALLY likes this other girl, which is my best friend. I tryy really hard for him to like me, and i talk a lot to him, but nothing works. what can i do?
from,
exotic emus. (link)
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I don't want to sound cruel,but I think there's nothing you can do.If he already likes someone else,that's it.And you shouldn't have to try at all.I had the same problem.I was really upset about it,and I even used to cry myself to sleep for him...but then one day,I realised that I shouldn't have been doing that.I mean,there are so many other guys in the world and I only had my attention on one and suffered because he doesn't like me.How stupid.Don't think I'm rude,all I'm saying is-go find someone who likes you back,don't waste time on guys who don't.You'll get over him soon and find the right one for you.It might be hard,I know,I've been there too.But remember that time heals everything.
Hope I helped.
Best wishes,
solariagirl94
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Okay so I want some opinion's on why guy's only respect certain girls? I'm in high school, 16 years old, and it seems that many girls do have boyfriends. I don't have one. I understand it's not the end of the world..but, it's annoying. Guy's always tell me I'm very pretty (not to sound full of myself), and I'm also smart and kind to everyone. I'm shy sometimes though. Anyway, I've had guys ask me out, but the one's who do..are the one's I don't have a thing for. I'll admit..for some reason, I always go for guy's who are pretty much "players". I don't know why..I just find them cute and stuff. So, recently I liked this guy..he acts totally different around me then he does everyone else though! He acts like a nice guy around me, but then he'll go on myspace or even at school and start calling girls sexy and hit on them and stuff. Why don't I get that? I mean, I know he's had a thing for me for a while..and I kinda like him too..obviously he finds me attractive to like me, you know? Well, I asked my friends, because this happens to me a lot,..and they said he acts different and more like a gentlemen around me because he respects me? I mean, of course having respect is wonderful..but does that HAVE to mean I don't get a boyfriend because I have there respect? Ughh. But anyway, this brings me to my main question..why do guys only respect certain girls? Anyone please give me advice. Thankyou :) (link)
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I'm a year younger than you and I used to have the same problem,but I "made a discovery" lol.Guys may think you are pretty and stuff,but they will always go for a girl who would easily have sex with them,who are easy to get...That's how all teen guys are.They respect you because you're not easy.As for being asked out by guys who you don't like-that always happens,but it will be better.You're the kind of girl a guy would want for a serious relationship,just because you don't give yourself easily,and keep that up.Guys rarely respect girls.I wouldn't take it as a bad thing,on the contrary,I'd be very pleased with myself for that.Oh and it doesn't have to mean you don't get a boyfriend.You're single because the right one hasn't come along yet.Whatever you do,stay as you are,and true love will always find you.
I hope I cleared it up for you.
Best wishes,
solariagirl94
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