Hi, I'm really happy that i found this site. I love to share my experiences, the good and the bad, with other people in hopes of helping them. Also like having an unbiased opinion to help out with my own day to day dilemas. This is great, I hope any advice i can give will help somebody else out there. I've been through alot in the past 4 years, relationship wise, and i have learned alot about me, men and communication. I've done alot of growing and i seem to be the go to girl with my friends when it comes to their relationships. Hope i can help! Thankyou, singlemom
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As all great stories begin, mine starts the same way... There's this girl. Well anyway there's this girl I work with that I like but I know I can't have. She's really beautiful and cool, so I'm not suprised that she has a great bf that she absolutely loves. They live together and all, so I know I have pretty much zero chance with her. I guess I just like her most b/c she's cool. I guess my question is not "How can I be a homewrecker or How can I be a knight in shining armor?" It's more like "What can I do to get her out of my head?" I know she likes the other guy and all that shit. She likes me and everything, but only as a friend. Don't you hate that phrase? Oh well, I don't care if this doesn't get put up or answered in a stupid way, I just wanted to write out how I felt. Thanks for reading and good night. (link)
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I know it's hard, but the best thing to do is to be her friend. You will never be able to sleep at night if you go around breaking up homes. Keep busy if you can't get her out of your head.
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I really like this guy and he likes me but we live really far away.. I want to tell him how I feel but I dont really know what to say.. I have a few ideas.. but if you could help that would be great! (link)
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Dear what do i say,
Distance does not matter when it's real. Please be honest with each other. Tell him everything that is in your heart like you would your best friend. Nothing ventured is nothing gained. I don't want to see you end up regretting not telling him. I wish more and more people would realize just how short life really is and this is part of life, making lasting relationships no matter how hard they may seem to be. Trust me, definately worth it to take that leap and be honest with him and most of all, yourself. Luann
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i like a guy who is a year older than me. He's amazingly cute and a lot of girls like him. at the beginning of this year we saw each other at these student forum meetings at school and he always came and sat by me and talked and smiled-i could tell he liked me so at the homecoming dance i asked him to dance and it was great- at school we usually just say hi and smile in a flirtacious way during passing periods-but lately we don't say anything and i don't think he likes me anymore-how do i get his attention and get him to like me again? (link)
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Dear How do i get a guy, again,
You need to put yourself out there. In my experience, guys really arent that smart when it comes to these things. There are ways for you to make the first move without him even realizing it. Start a conversation with him using humor as your weapon and if he says something funny reach out and brush his arm or lean into him. Before you know it he's asking you out. Wont even know what hit him. Men love the attention like we do but you have to treat them different. Be a great listener and show him you care what he thinks and his opinions. Boost his confindence and ego when you get the chance. Just be carefull not to be to nice. If this turns into a relationship in the end you dont want him thinking he can walk all over him. The main thing to do is start with a friendship and show him your a caring and interested individual. Luann
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My husband seems to always have another female in his life..if its just a friend or an ex. he has a cell phone that he talks to her on alot.. they use to call the house..but it bothered me..so i said somethng bout it..now they call his cell. I mentioned to him that i noticed he always seemed to have to have another woman in his life..he tells me that i dont want him to have friends..but i told him i didnt care if he had "friends" just this girl thing is disrespectful i think. he told me that she was his best friend and there is nothing i can do about it..she disappears bout 2yrs ago ..all of a sudden she is in a bad relationship and pops back in..am i wrong for having a problem with this..is it right for him to have the hidden conversations..please let me know..relationship in jeopardy.. (link)
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Dear Other Woman, I know exactly how you are feeling. I have been in both relationships. My ex had a lot of girl friends and my best friend is a man who is also married. The key? You be thier friend as well. Make friends with this other woman too. She probably is lonely and has no one to turn to except for your husband. This way you can keep an eye on them AND make a new friend too. Your husband and you will become closer as a result. Jealousy can be very ugly and used wrong can totally backfire on you. Be the adult in this situation and everything will be fine. Luann
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i have been seeing someone on /off for the last ten years . recently moved out because the depts are way to much for me, i know he cheats on me so why do i feel like i cant move on??? (link)
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Dear Cheated On, I have been cheated on myself and it takes alot of your self esteem and trust away. For some reason, even though we are not the ones doing anything wrong, we are the ones left dealing with the consequences. I went through a lot of stages starting at hurt and ending with forgiving. It is a process and if your looking for a quick fix to moving on, im sorry its not going to happen. We actually go into mourning for the relationship. I focused on myself, worked out, tanned, volunteered. Different things that make me feel better about myself and then it was alot easier to realize the guy is a loser and not worth your energy. To this day i love my life and dont regret the relationship because my past is what made me who i am today and the same will happen with you. You just need time. Good luck in the future and once your happy with yourself you will find yourself in a great loving relationship with the right person for you. Luann
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17/m Last weekend a very close friend of mine told me that she liked me. I said that I liked her too and that we should go out sometime. The reason that I said that I liked her is because everything deserves a chance. Well we have been on two dates and it is clear to me that she likes me way more than I like her. How do I let her know that I want to be just friends with out ruining a good friendship? I rate high. (link)
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Dear only see her as a friend, I am actually going through the same thing right now, except i'm in your friends shoes. What the guy said to me is that he values our friendship way to much to mess it up and it would kill him to ever lose me like that. And he's such a good friend that I do believe him and totally respect his honesty. She will still be hurt, but take some time and work your way back in to her heart as her friend. Trust me, she will miss talking and hanging out with you way to much to let this get in the way. Let me know how you make out. Good Luck. Luann
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well last saturday i went to my cousins daughters birthday party and i was downstairs with my grandmothers neighbors grandson and we were hanging out, and we were watching TV and i had my head resting on his shoulder and my legs were on his lap and he had his arm around me.. and then my brother came down and was like.. ahh u like her!! to him and he pushed me off and stood up and he was like, no i dont, we were just watching TV. and then he went upstairs and i have NO IDEA what he's thinking now, because he sent mixed signals. and now i like this other kid and he's REALLY funny and pretty cute, and i pretty much cant get my mind off him.. but i dont know what do do... i have mised feelings. (link)
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Dear misunderstanding, I have no doubt that the kid you were hanging out with before you were interupted likes you. Guys dont like showing feelings when other people are around, especially if they are being teased about it. If you had a chance to talk to him in private he would probably tell you he does like you. I would figure out which guy i like more. Remember to base it on friendship first, who makes the better friend? Who do you feel like yourself around? Who can make you laugh? And most important, who gives you those great butterfly feelings in your stomach when your just thinking about him? Remember, most guys arent as open about their feelings as we are. They dont like to analyze things and talk them to death or feel pressured, so just go with your feelings and have some fun. Hope this helps, let me know how it works out. Singlemom
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