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Is it weird that im in 7th grade and havnt had my first kiss yet?? i mean, so many people in my grade have been kissed. Am im like, a freak or something?

I didn't get my first kiss till the end of 8th grade so dont sweat it...Everyone has there own time

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To start off, i'm only 15 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for five months. We just recently broke up, and a week after our break up he got a new girlfriend. I was really upset for awhile, and I couldn't even eat because of it. I cried just about every day. I constantly think about him, and regardless of how bad he treats/has treated me, I still have an enormous amount of feelings for him. I don't know why I can't get over him. My friend told me "If you can't get over him, maybe there's a reason". Is it possible I'm in love? Or what is it that I'm feeling? And why can't it go away?

The same thing happened with me and my boyfriend of 8months...I talked to him and told him how I felt and it turned out he felt the same way and was just using the girl to get over me...maybe its the same in ur situation..i say talk to him and then if he doesn't feel the same way...theres always more fish in the sea

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I was just wondering what the different between kissing and making out is. Where is the line drawn? What is considered making out and what isn't? Is it something that is determined by you mouth or you hands or. . . ? That's always confused me so somebody please help! Thanks.

Making out is sticking ur tounges down eachothers throats...basically...kissing is not using your tounge. Hope I helped :)

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Ok so i asked a question a few weeks ago about doing something with a rose for Xmas for my girlfriend and i got alot of positive feedback about it.. you might of read it.. had to do with a glass rose? well if not i decided to change it up a bit, tell me how you(a girl) would feel if your boyfriend did something like this for Xmas::
Along with your other presents, brough over a vace we 11 roses in it, and one glass rose, making a dozen roses total. And put a card in there that says, "I will stop loving you when the last rose dies." (for all the not-so-smart girls out there, 'a glass rose wont ever die') Sooo how would you like it? yes? no? maybe?

That is sooo sweet!!! I would love it if my bf would do something like that for me! Ur gf's very lucky!

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Me and boyfriend have been going out for 5 months and 17 days. I guarantee im in love with him and hes the ONE. Im only 13 (goin on 14) but i honestly love him. The only problem is... my parents. They think im too young to be in love and everybody else says that too! Its sooo annoying and just wish they knew how me AND my boyfriend felt about each other. Thanks bunches...

omg my parents are the same way. I don't really know what your question is but if you think he's the one maybe u should tell him how you feel, he could feel the same way about you. Just follow your heart if you think he's the one he just might be. i don't think your parents are gonna stop you from doing what you want. So tell them he's what you want. Hope I helped ~Shel~

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im so sick of not having a bf. im 13, 5'1" 128 lbs. blonde perfect teeth, no braces. anything a guy would want! the thing is i have NEVER had a bf. my frend has and she is really really unattractive. she has hideous crooked yellow teeth and puffy frizzy hair. i dont mean to be mean but i really hate the fact that an ugly grl has had 7 bfs and i had none. please please help!

Whoa first of all thats kinda harsh..its not all on the outside either maybe you need an attitude adjustment..guys like a girl with a good personality too. So just stop thinking all about your looks!

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i'm 13 and a girl.i really need help.in 7 grade i went out with this boy named russ we liked each other since 6 grade but in 7 he asked me out. we fell in love with each other after 5 months we went out for 6 months. when summer vacation came we broke up. we did't talk for the whole summer untill in august he called. then when we went back to school we went back to talking like the best friends we were.then we both went out with different people. and he would come to my house to hang out but on day we kissed(we both were with somone).then he broke up with his girlfrined and i broke up with my man.then we went back out we promised each other that nothing was going to happen and we would be the best couple.so then i felt like i did't want to be in a nother relationship with him so i broke up with him. he never saw it comming and he felt soooo bad. then couple months later he went out with this other girl and he said he loved her after 2 months but i know he did't because the way he acted. i think he said that because he was missing me.then he cheated on her with me . he said he would do anything for me.and he still see me in his life for ever.now him and his girlfriend are not together. this boy named jay is talking to me now we have been talking for 3 weeks now and he wants us to go out. but i'm scared he might hurt me just like russ did.and jay and i are really close and i think i might fell in love with him.jay and i are going though changing . he gonna stop being a player. he just got of a relationship 3 months ago and he loved the girl. so i need your help please.

U were never "in" love!!!!!!!!!11

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theres this guy i like and he likes me too... but i dont think my mom would approve of him because he smokes. everytime i want to hang out with him i have to lie to my mom, which i feel bad about. i've tried talking to her but she doesnt listen. any ideas?

im in the same problem you are in my mom won't listen either my best friend even tried talking to her about it. its tuff but keep trying to talk to her its what im doing. ~Shelby~

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ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female

Well it sounds like to me that he does like you. He must have realized that he made a mistake dumping you or letting you dump him. just keep talking to him and after awhile ask him to the movies or something then see what happens from there. Hope I helped ~Shelby~

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Okay, my friend Jackie introduced me to this guy she knows (over the internet) and he lives in New York, where she used to live, and they're sort of "going out" but not, since we live in AZ, and anyway, I've been talking to him and I think I'm starting to like him just a little bit and I don't know what to do, because she really really likes him.. I know I should let her have him, but should I tell her or just try to keep quiet about it and try to stop talking to him so I don't like him more or what?

tell her how u feel but she gets first dibs afterall she found him first

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Theres this guy in my class, we're kinda friends, but recently since I told friends I liked him they say they haven't told but he's been kinda blankin me mostly. One of the friends says I should ask him out, but I'm no Sandra Bullock. So should I or shouldn't I????

Thanx

Yeah go for it the only thing he can say is no and every girl gets turned down in her life.....trust me

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ok well i broke up with my girlfriend and i really miss her. and i dont know why. she's really pretty, the sweetest girl i ever met, and the only reason we broke up was because i thought she liked me best friend nicky. i dont know how to tell her, and really she's been a mess, but i really want her back because i care about her more than anything in the world.

awwwwww thats so cute...but u just cant get jealous like that ask her out one night and just have a good conversation ask her if she would ever hook back up w/u *Shelby*

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