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im really like sad i guess.. to the point of crying. and its just so messed up. im 15/f - first of all, it just feels like everyone aruond me is getting a boyfriend or has one, and if they dont have one, they're talking to a guy they might like and that lieks them. no one likes me. idont know why. it just really bums me out, because i know i would be so happy if i had a boyfriend or a guy i liked and don't tell me"oh it will all come in time" or "they should like you for you" or wahtever. just please help me.. how can i talk to guys more, so i can like get a boyfriend or start liking someone or get someone to like me. how can i get more confidence and be more "flirty" and just show that i'm out there and looking or whatever?

Damn... I was so there in high school. My big regret (thus my answer for you!) is not hanging out with guys more. I always hung out with guys from other schools, which was cool and gave me some leads, but I never put myself out there with guys at my school.

Sounds like your situation is really good though, since your friends have guys they hang out with you've got a great starting point. Talk to your girls about getting a group together to go out or hang out at someone's house. Invite their guys and their friends.

How to flirt?
- Joke around with them
- Show similar interests (safe bets are sports, colleges, music, movies)
- Let yourself debate a little too. It shows confidence to stick to your guns.
- Be a little quirky (gives them something to remember you by)
- Get a part time job where people your age work (restaurants! Most will let you be a hostess when you're 15 to 17)
- Be confident above all else. This will help you stand out since most girls your age are dealing with similar insecurities or shyness
- Bring a friend who brings out your best side and your natural self, have them help you
- Don't be afraid to make physical contact... touch their arm when you're telling them something, soft punch to upper arm -- it's all about the subtle body language


Having a boyfriend can be fun, but enjoy being single and dating all different types of guys. Most girls in their mid 20's regret not being more open minded when they were younger. Go for it and work it, girl!

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Can you get pregnant from swallowing sperm???

Oh sweetie... No.

But there is a fun rumor that spunk has more calories than a Big Mac.

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heyyya.
okay; i'm going to tell you about what i'm going through right now. i'm so confused on who to choose, so maybe you can help me. :( or give me a boost to the right direction.
there are 3 guys, and let me give you each story. [R; D; B;--is what they'll go by]

D;-i just started going out with D like 12 days ago. i honestly jumped into the relationship without getting to know him at all. i talked to him one night on the phone for like 20 minutes, then the next night he asked me out &i said yes. there was one mistake. then he told me he wouldn't break up w/ me..&i told him the same. [another mistake] i do honestly like D, but i just don't know much about him. he's really sweet, and i don't want to hurt him. i just don't know what i should do.

R;-it started out about 4 years ago, when i met him. i just knew there was something about him, and i've liked him ever since. well, he's never given me a chance because ''he doesn't date chicks more than 2 years younger than him'' [as of right now; i'm 15 &&he's 17. he'll be 18 in august] the other day, he came down to my house without me asking him to. [which is suprising, because he barely comes down anyway] and we were talking and stuff, and he mentioned something abut me oweing him something. [kisses from a few months before.] i told him i couldn't give him those kisses, then he knew i had a boyfriend. long story short; R told me that on wednesday we would talk about being together. [wed-my15bday] well, we talked and he told me not to break up with my boyfriend, just to go out with him. R even promised me that there would be another chance for us. :( but there are bad things about R. [drugs;use to be playa;quit school]

B;-i just met B at the beginning of the 2nd semester. after spending alot of time with him, i grew to like him. we had said during summer we were going to a concert/show together and hangout some. i would always flirt with him and stuff, and he would flirt back. i kinda thought that he might like me, but he kept talking about other girls. then i heard he was talking with a chick named amber. anyway; during the end of the school year, B started to talk to me less. i asked him what was wrong, and he told me he didn't want to intefer with me &my other guys. [i don't know what he meant by other guys] come to find out; B likes me. he told me he thought that he was going to end up being my boyfriend, and stuff. he told me that we wasn't going to hangout this summer or anything, because i had a bf. i told him he wasn't interfering &&i still wanted to hangout. now that school is out; i haven't talked to him since.


so there are the guys.
i like them all.
1st R; 2nd B; 3rd D.

i don't know who to choose to be with.
because i'm so confused about stuff.

i hope you can give me a little advice.
sorry this was so long.
thank you.

Hey girl,

Most girls would die to have this dilemma at your age. You're obviously a cool chick or these dudes wouldn't be after you. And so honest and up front. Oh wait, that was only B. He's my pick for you. Why?

I'm annoyed at D. What guy tells you, "I'll never break up with you"?? This isn't Titanic and "I'll never let go...never!" What's with the drama? You don't need a soap opera, this guy totally sounds like one. Plus, there's no chase in that. AND he generally creeps me out from what you've said. What will he say next "I'll hurt/kill/maim myself if you leave me?" Annoying. (he must be hot, right? why else are you dealing with this?)

R. Oh R, you bad boy, you. You dabble in drugs, you play a hell of a mind game for four long years, and your idea of a good birthday gift is to tell a girl that "we'll talk about the possibility of maybe sort of being together". Excuse me, but wtf? Oh wait, he must be a saint, because this guy loves you so much he doesn't mind that you have another guy in the picture. Girl, this dude is trouble. The R must be for Risky, cause that's what you'd be doing to your heart if you chose this one. (Again, he must be smokin hot... all the more reason to love and let go)

Hence, my choice would be B. He is taking it slow, which means he think you're worth the chase. He also seems to care the most because he's not going to start something he can't do 100%, the right way, with no other dudes involved. I like that he wants you all to himself (yet won't involve drama or Kate/Leo antics to do it). He seems like the guy with the most dignity and sincerity, which means there's a good chance he's going to treat you like a princess. Yet there's still that chase there (other girls are figuring out he's a nice guy, hence Amber being in the picture). Respect this guy and quit the other 2. 86 the games and spend your time having fun with someone who won't mindfuck you for the next 3 months. Good luck!

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well i started to talk to this boy and then a couple months later i realized i like him....... ALOT. but i never knew his age now that i do know it bothers me. hes a seventh grader when im a sophmore. what should i do?


-Alyssia G

Oh girl... stay away from this one. Romantically that is. Stay friends, keep it platonic (no crushes!) Keep it real and give your reputation a break by not bringing on the drama of dating a guy who's years younger at this age. Hell, as a woman in her mid to late twenties my friends who STILL give me a hard time at dating a guy who is 4 years younger.

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ok
i dont really like talking on the phone
im one of those texter people
but this guy i like is calling me later
and im not one of those prude people that get all gay around guys
im perfectly fine
but i dont know what to say on the phone
or what to talk about
so any ideas??

Give him attention. Make him feel special, like you care about what he's been up to.

Ideas:
-what'd you do today
-how's work
-going anywhere this summer
-have you seen pirates 3?

Whatever he says, just roll with it. Offer your own opinion, even and especially if, it's different than waht you think he may want you to say. Guys like girls who play it straight. Have their own mind. Be a ball-buster, give him a hard time about something he does that is gay. Hell, act like he's right there with you. If things get awkward, drop the phone act like you hurt yourself and laugh it off. It sounds lame, but comic relief eases tension and anything's better than dead air.

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kk well me and my ex broke up a couple months ago and i still love him.. and i have liked him for two years and i haven't been able to get over him yet.. everytime i try i end up falling back in love with him and hes into some serious drugs and i dont know what to do and since my parents found out stuff they wont allow him near me and idk what to do wether i should just give up or wait and see what happens

Lets see...

1- Parents hate
2- Serious drugs
3- Stuff/issues that make parents forbid his presence around you


Give it up. For now.... Give it a month and see if he's capable of straightening his shit out before you put your heart in a relationship with drugs and hate and drama.

Okay, he's got a piece of your heart. Let him have that piece for now and save the rest of your heart for a guy who has less issues (AKA more time of his hands) to give you attention and love and dedication.

In the meantime, get a pedicure and spend the whole hour enjoying your freedom. From drama, drugs, and possible jail time.

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