about

im sammay, im seventeen♥.
i have a wonderful boyfriend♥
his name is ray allshouse♥
i love scuba diving♥,
and other outdoor activities♥.
i am a free driver also♥.
im also a rape advocate♥.
i have been raped♥,
in the past. so mostly♥,
i deal with rape situations♥.
im in college, i got my ged when♥,
i was well sixteen and been in college♥.
ever since i been sixteen♥.
getting good grades♥.
becoming a physcologist♥,
criminal and victim♥.
i think if i get both sides♥,
it would help alot more, with ♥
victims, since i could have more answers♥.
im going to be a rape/molested
phycologist, in my spare time♥.
appose of being a rape advocate♥.
i decided to choose this route♥,
because im always involved with ♥
situations that friends, family ♥
and people i dont know, get out ♥
of serious issues or problems♥.
i seem to do a better job♥,
then my school counselors♥.
nobody really went to them♥,
they usually just came to me♥,
or dropped a note in my locker♥.
told me where to leave the note back ♥
and left. I helped people ♥
who didnt want to be seen or noticed♥.
so if you need anyone, or advice♥.
i give my best! and havent had ♥
any complaints yet. i have been thanked ♥
and thanked time, time again♥.
i take special care of those in need♥,
and time and effort♥.
need anything, im here for you♥.

-Sammay ♥


advice

I know this guy. I think i have a crush on him.
but i dont know if he likes me or even wants to be my friend at all.

He's a consultant and talks extremely well when i ask him for advise on work.

However, he gets shy/uncomfortable, when i ask him simple personal questions for eg: Do you go for swimming. I think he has a problem of talking about himself to new people or just not that friendly.

So one day, i gave him some sweets via his secretary (i didnt really know him that well at that time in office) and he was quite startled and stared at me and waited for me to say something when i bumped at him at the doorway.
He had those puppy eyes..but didnt say word!.
I pretended not to appear interested in him becos i was too shy.!

He could have just thank me for the sweets but he didnt.

Later, i sent him email and was able to chat with him about work..and he responded quite well.

How do i get him to open up to me as a normal friend?

What can i say/should not say to him when i call him? Can i call him to say goodnight to him? I dont want to appear too invasive ...

Would appreciate your advice.


first of all the next time, you talk to him online. i would ask him, i would be straight up and say "why wont you talk to me as a normal friend?" and see what he has to say, i bet he has a reason, and if he says theres no reason what so ever or if there is, just tell him you want to be friends, and if its okay with him, and who knows he might open up a little more and respect that you asked him straight up what was bothering you and wanted to know. if he says it wont work being friends ask him why. i would just ask a bunch of question, not too many. but enough to get you what you needed out of him, to understand. but dont just like BLURT it out at the beginning ask him something you need help with and talk for about 5-10 minutes before you start talking about being friends type things. if he is shy or whatever, tell him he has no reason to be shy, because your a good person and you want to spend time with him, not just in the office but to go take lunch breaks with him and go get coffee. hopefully he will be excited and be like yea, deffinately lets do that. if not, then hes a big fat jerk if he just going to blow you off, which i really doubt he will do since you said he was a "shy" and "uncomfortable" type of guy. when you see him in person say hi, and see if he will respond. making conversations is a good thing, people respect people when they talk and have conversations, you can talk about the weather talk about a sport you play or you going to the gym, or the funniest thing that happend in work that day. also, make sure he is SINGLE too. Some men that are married go to work without a wedding ring. its a thing they have. but yea, just becareful. when he says its cool to be friends ask him questions about himself and then ask him to ask you questions and if he says he doesnt know any answer the questions you asked him. i hope everything works out, if you need me write me another note. thanks.

-sammay

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Yesterday I went to PacSun with my friend. I walked into the back of the store, because the hoodies were marked down. As we were browsing, an employee walked past us and sort of stopped. We both looked at him. He went, "Hey!" in the friendlist voice. I was shocked by his charisma, really, I haven't seen anyone so gorgeous. I said "Hi!" back, and we both laughed like little kids. He asked me if I needed any help, and I asked him if he could find a medium for me. When it was time for me to buy it, he looked at me incredulously (but still friendly) and told me he'd hold it for me while I looked around more. I told him that was all I wanted and he kept insisting. Then, you know how you're staring at something so beautiful everything the person is saying is muffled? That's what happened, when I heard him say something about my face. I know it wasn't bad, because he smiled, almost flirtingly. I gave in and looked around more. When I went back, I said that was all I wanted, and he was like, "Are you sure? I mean It's not really the season for hoodies" Please note that when I was talking to him, I was beet red in the face and I was showing all signs of nervousness. He asked if I was alright about 5 times. He was like, "Is it something I did?" I thanked him and walked out of there. A few questions: Do you think he wanted me to stay because he wanted me to buy more, or stay longer because he was attracted? I never asked him his name, and I'm so desperate, I called Pacsun twice, then hung up because a girl picked up! I thought about him and regret how I never asked for his name..or age. I'm 14 years old. I hope to death he is young because If I ever hook up with him, I don't want it to be RAPE! I desperately need help. Pleaseeee. I will rate 5's.
Plus, what can I do when I go back to the store? I want to come back and say something, but I need suggestions. Thank you so much in advance. Sorry for the length.

id would go back and see if he is there, and if he is ask him how old he is and be like i thought i saw you before somewhere, and if he is waaaay older just be like wow. nevermind thought you were someone else, and look around for a couple mins and walk out, if he is around your age, 15-16- maybe 17 then be like hmm, sorry i guess i was wrong, whats your name? oh really. im not sure if your the guy, sorry for bugging you. and then look around the place and then be like you have a blah blah in my size? and be like okaaay thanks, and if he seems intrested be like do you want my number? and if he says no, be like okaaay thats fine thought id be nice but i guess not, i thought itd be cool being friends. if he says yes give it to him and be like call me sometime, and leave. itll keep him guessing.

-sammay

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what do girls look for in a guy, i think i know but i wanna know more! rate high!

Girls like guys

who make them laugh;

make them feel loved.

and just can be themselves.

like farting,burping that type of stuff.

without being immature going EWWW GROSS!

but be like SWEET lol, and try and fart better.

But i guess that just how me and my best friend leah are i guess.

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