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Hi i'm 17 years old and me and my boyfriend (he is also 17) have been dating for 2 and a half years. I am so in love with him and I know that he loves me, but I think that since we have been dating for so long that he feels like he doesn't have to be romantic or say things like "I love you so much blah blah...you know the stuff that makes you feel happy really in love. Well how do I tell him that I miss it when he use to say stuff like that to me and how he used to treat me special. Now I feel like we are some married old couple I mean don't get me wrong everything is good I just miss that first time feelings of when he said sweet things to me. I'm sorry if this is really confusing ,but Idon't know what else to do.

my boyfriend and i were like that. we had been going out for a year. what i would suggest is to find something that first drew you two together and do that again or something. Like going to a concert or something.

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okay, so theres this guy, lets call him.. well, lets just call him boy. so last year, by friend really liked boy, and i thought he was adorable as well, cuz well, he`s the cutest thing ever, but i didnt know him. he was in high school, and me and my friend that liked him were in middle school. so my friend moved about half an hour away, so she goes to a different high school and doesnt talk to him. at the beginning of this year, we started talking and we hung out a bit. then he snuck me out, just the two of us, and he kissed me. but at this time, he liked another girl. like, really really liked this other girl, but that other girl went to a different school, so they didnt talk much besides online. the next day, after the kiss, i asked him what it was all about. he said it was just spur of the moment and stuff, but i really liked him. after that we kinda stopped talking. now hes trying to get over the other girl, and were talking again and stuff. today, when we were walking, he grabbed my hand and now im so confused and i dont know what to do.

I have been in this position. I liked this guy and he liked me he just didnt want to go out. So we would talk and hang out once and make out. But then he wouldnt talk to me for another couple of months. Then the same old again. One day I was just like forget it. So, my advice is to ask him exactly what he feels and then if you dont like the answer give up. Because any boy who plays with your feelings is not worth your heart. he will just abuse the unconditional love you would give him, and his love might be just to get some.

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15/f

Yup, you guessed it. I'm a girl who can be outgoing but who can also be quite shy. I'm confident but when a guy is shy I tend to act the same. This guy at school likes me and it is common knowledge. He has asked me to a movie a few times but I have always been busy, unfortunately. We see eachother sometimes in the halls at school but only say hi rather than full conversations. I was wondering if anyone had some good techniques to catch his attention during those brief moments or "excuses" to have a conversation.

Other info:
- I am thinking of inviting him to a party next weekend but before then I would like to talk to him more at school

Thanks! =)

Use the party to have an excuse to talk to him. Go up to him and be like hey whats going on? and then be like I am having a party on ________ and I would love it if you came. Then if he accepts then you can have a reason to tell him your address or number (if he doesnt already have it.)

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This is a long story, but I could use the help. First of all - when I like a guy, I like him a LOT, I never stop thinking about him.

In this case, I met this boy John from my friend Sean. A couple months ago at a football game I was talking to Sean and then John came up to talk to both of us, and I had never met him before. He was absolutely the best guy I've ever met - I swear! A simple 5 minute conversation and he was already one of my favorite people (we hardly even talked just between us though, we were all kind of joking around). I didn't like him yet though. I just thought he was really cool.
So since then it's just been every time we see each other in the halls at school we'd wave or say hi. He isn't in any of my classes and he is a year older than me. Soon after that football game though I realized that I had felt completely comfortable talking to him right away. I am usually pretty shy when it comes to new people. It was amazing how comfortable I was with him, like I'd known him forever, and the more I thought about it, the more I liked him. Now I think he's just the most adorable guy ever. I've talked to one of my good guy friends who knew him a few years ago and he can't say anything bad about John. Apparently he was one of the coolest guys he ever met also.
Recently I talked to another one of my guy friends, Brian, and he said he remembers one time around the week of that football game, he was at a swim meet with John. Brian texted his friend that he was mad at him because he almost made a move (on his girlfriend) but his friend ruined it. John read it and said "Who (my name)??", then Brian said no, and John said "She's pretty hot eh?" All according to what Brian told me. I flipped when I heard it lol.
Well, so far, it's been hi in the halls for the past 2 1/2 months or so. I don't want this to just fizzle out, but I don't want to directly tell him we need to hang out because I hardly know him and I never have the chance to talk to him since we only see each other in the halls.
Brian said he would try to talk to him soon and maybe that would help, but I just want to know if you have any suggestions as to how I could get John to notice me?

well what I would do would talk to him a little bit in the hallways. Between classes. Maybe snag his number and call him up sometime. or if not the number AIM or myspace even. But just start talking to him more often and be confident. But do not be overly talkative. Nothing is more sexy then some mystery.

EDIT MORE INFO: Well when you do get lucky and get a chance to talk to him for more then a HI, ask him how is day is going and listen to him. Ask him what kind of music or movies he likes. Just start with small simple topics. I get what you are saying about being a bad conversationalist, i am too, but i have been working on it. On myspace one day just message him and be like, "Hey what's going on? We haven't talked in awhile so I just wanted to see how everything was going." Chances are he will say something in the reply that you can keep talking about.

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my guy friend goes to a different school. he was supposed to go to the dance with this other girl but those plans fell through. i was thinking if he still wanted to go, i could get him a ticket. but maybe his plans fell through cause he didn't want to go??? i don't want to be turned down, but should i ask him anyways? i think it would be fun if he came. what should i say to him?

I would just ask him be like, do you want to go to my winter formal as friends with me? If he is your friend he shouldnt turn you down especailly if you make it clear you are going as friends.

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i just don't know what to do! i went out with this guy and we broke up. but everytime i see him at a party or text him or whatever he pulls me back into him. like i start to like him even if i like some other guy. its crazy i guess he just has something about him that i really like. the thing is, he pulls me in, it doesn't work out and we don't talk until the next party. what should i do?

What I would do, is I would stop calling/texting or partying with him. If you don't want to get hurt, keep telling yourself why it never works out with you too and then tell yourself something that bothers you about him. You just have to keep telling yourself that you are more deserving of a boy who it will work out with. I used this technique to get over my ex, and it worked well. Good luck.

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I just turned 16.
I am probably one of the most inexperienced people you know...
THe farthest i have gone is holding hands... with a FRIEND
I recently got my first boyfriend and we were "together" for 3 days... haha
but i really want to meet someone for REAL...
I see my best guy friend and how happy his girlfriend is and i just wish that i could feel that for once...
Im not desperate or anything i just wish that I could feel love from someone...
Ive lived almost 16 years as a single girl and i just wish for once I could have a reason to go to school other than my friends.
I am like one of the only people in my group that is single... and it hurts...
it makes me feel like im not worth loving.
My question is... do you have any advice on what guys like in a girl or a reason to give up or go on? Thanks so much
*madd*

Hey, I was in the same position you are a little over a year ago. I had the closest group of friends ever. We all got along and it seemed that everyone was going out with someone. When me and this guy started talking he was seeing someone else, but that was going down the drain quite quickly. Well we talked all night on Halloween. We went out trick-or-treating. We couldn't stop talking. It was great.

I found that It is best to be able to talk to a guy without freezing up or not being able to think of anything to say. Trust me its awkward when there is an awkward silence. (They creep me out.)

If you have a special someone in mind start to talk to him with light topics. You don't want to delve in too deep at first. Try these to begin:school, music, movies. Next time you two talk try family and friends and sports. If he is a sporty person, go to one of his games or meets and then tell him next time good job and keep the conversation going after that.
Once you two have become close friends try topics such as love, relationships, and the future. When you leave him, if he drops you off at home or you are leaving school, give him a hug. Leave little hints when you talk to him about everyday things about how you want someone (don't sound desperate though, it scares/creeps them out.)

any other questions feel free to ask me.

Rachel

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me and my x bf have been on and off for 2 years and even if were off were still kinda together...like holding hands..etc...and one day he went to a party and got with a girl..and he called me that same nite and told me that all my friends are going to be lying to be the next day sayign that he got with someone but its not true...well i found out its true and he admitted it to me...and i just want to know if i have a right to be mad..because he doesnt think so...

you definatly have a right to be mad. First off, you two were "still together" when he hooked up with antoher girl. And Another thing, who has the nerve to call someone they are seeing and say that their friends are gonna be lying tomorrow. Wouldnt you want him to tell you that he did hook up with someone, rather then pinning your friends as liars.

Rachel

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well im 14/f (15 in 2 monthes) and there's this guy that i like and he's 17 but im not sure he'd really be into me since he's 2 1/2 years older. people i didn't know have thought i was 15 or 16, because i just look older i guess, but i was just wondering if some guys out there (that are around 17 or 18) could tell me if you wouldnt mind the age gap or if it would make you feel uncomfortable?

I am not a guy. But I am going out with someone who is 3 years older then me (im 16 and he's 19). It depends if he is comfortable with your age.

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My Boyfriend and me just had a little fight , well the head cheerleader heard about it and now she's al over my boyfriend and were not even broken up , well we made up and she still wants him , she like bends down in front of him with her cheerleader clothes on or she trys to sit with us and well she drives me crazy , but the thing is my boyfriend dosnt like her and he's the star Quarterback on the football team, and he tells her to back off , is he the good kind of boyfriend every gurl wants? plz help

OMG!!! yea that is the greatest b/f ever. even if you guys fought and then he gets hit on but yet tells her to back off. he is oh so loyal to you and you should be so greatful for that

hope i helped

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ok well me and my boyfriend really love each other and like he made out wit anotha gurl once cuz he waz drunk so im like ok ill forgive u then couple monthz later he kissez my best friend!! but no thatz not it! there waz a dance and we had fun 2gether and after the dance i found out he made out wit her! he waznt drunk this time!! so we broke up and now i fogive him cus i really love him and no i juss found out he f*$# another gurl and she had all these hicky and i juzz found out it waz him who gave her the hicky...wat should i do now? we havent broke up yet, should i still be with him and give him annother chance or should i break up with him?

OMG!!! break it off with him. dont give him another chance. if he has cheated on you like that then you deserve better. i dont think he really loves you. i think he is using you as a safe place like if things dont work out with the other girls he knows you will forgive him and take him back. you need to learn how to just say no to him and tell him its over for good.

im sorry that hes an asshole. you deserve better. good luck!!

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hey im 16 years old/male

ok one day my girl friend came over to meet my parents. My psrents loved her till i mentionrd that she was my girl friend. They kicked her out of the house snd told me to never see her again.ONe night i snook out to see her and was caught. I just love her to much. HERE ARE MY QUESTIONs


ONe should i say forget my parents and go out with her?
Should our relationship go on?
WAt will i do if her psrents want to meet me

i would ask your parents what is wrong with her and hear them out. bring it up casually though. because if you bring it up in a "tone" then they will get snippy and they wont fully answer the question and therefor you will get mad and then that wont make matters any better. go out with her and why shouldnt your relationship go on just because of ur parents (im kinda in the same situation now) and if her parents want to meet you no biggie. just b/c ur parents dont like her doesnt mean that her parents wont like you. good luck

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Ok theres this guy lets call him,um, "todd"... well "todd" is in my science class..today he was like ur really quiet n i was like not all tha time he was like yeah i know i saw you at lunch today laughin n talkin n smiling n stuff..n we kept talkin..n then he was like "ur so sexy,perfect for me" i kno its a song...but he sings it everytime we talk...is he tryna tell me something? does he like me?
Sry its long ill rate good if you answer

he definatly likes you. but if you want to hear it come from his mouth just be upfront with him and ask him what he sees you as. ive done that and it works pretty well. i find though if you go through a friend either the answer gets mixed up or that they make something up. been there done that too. just be honest with him and you will get ur answer.

good luck with it all and hoped i helped

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