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Hello, My name is Sierra. I am a high school student. But please dont let that fool you. I've been through more in my life then a teenager should have to. But i've grown and matured from thoes things. I'm open and honest, I love to give advice. I'm a very nice person. I have a wonderful stedy boyfriend whom i love more then anything.

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I'm in my 20s. She said she was 20 and is actually 18 and a senior in high school.

Those are the very basic facts.

Now, I'm the kind of person who lying is a big deal to me. Trust overall is a big deal. And people who violate that... lets just say that I may not bring it up, but I will remember this.

I like her. I like spending time with her. But I dont know if I should heed the giant warning sign that is finding out she's still a high school chick (and lying about it) and walk now.

Shes not the only woman I'm seeing at the moment. And no, she doesnt know that.

Risk getting deeper or run away now? What do you think?

Well first of all, Its best you cut your ties with her because underage is never a good thing, Maybe with another year if you really like her. And think of it this way, If he gets mad that your seeing someone eles she could very eaily get you in big trouble.

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I need tips on how to be a better kisser!
Preferably from guys but girls are welcome too.
I always thought I was good then I got a somewhat mean comment not too long ago.
So any tips, that you know are good, would be great.

Well i know slower kissers are always better. But here are some tips.

I know my boyfriend likes when i suck on the tip of his tounge, Or if i very lightly bite his lip. Or maybe right before you go to kiss, Kinda (very sexy like) get really close and slowly pull away and then let him kiss you after. Or suck his lip. Maybe even try putting ice in your mouth and giving it back and forth while making out.

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I recently met a wonderful, mature guy in his forties (I'm in my thirties) and we spent a great night together and a long late breakfast the next afternoon in which we told each other quite a lot about our past relationships. I divorced four years ago after a marriage of seven years. This marriage was to my first boyfriend, my first sexual experience, and turned out to be somewhat abusive. I tried to get out of the marriage twice, first by simply telling him I wanted out. I stayed that time because I couldn't handle how much it seemed to hurt him to leave. The second time, I went off to an artists' colony for a month and actually cheated on him, the first time I'd ever done this before or after. I told him immediately and it was the end of our marriage. One of my friends thought the cheating was the only way my husband would have let me go.

So I told the new guy all of this. He had said something about my being mature enough to get out of the marriage or something that I thought wasn't quite right, wasn't quite honest if I agreed, so I told him of the cheating so he'd really know what happened and told him I suffered untold guilt about it for a long time.

Well now I'm wondering if I made a mistake, if my desire for honesty will simply scare him off instead. He took what I said very kindly, seemed to understand, but now I'm worried. Maybe it's just that I'm waiting for that call to see him again that's gotten me so worried. In any case, would you recommend this kind of honesty on my part in the future (on future dates, if this one doesn't work out)? Shouldn't I keep things open? Or am I just shooting myself in the foot.

Thanks,
handwringing

Well personally i think your very brave. We are only human, We mess up sometimes, But you told him and owned up to it and felt guilty, So dont carry that weight on your shoulders anymore.

But as for this man, I do belive that it might be a bit frightening for a man to hear this so soon. But here is the thing, You were honest, And that is a very good thing, Its smart to be honest right out, It sets you up for a honest realtionship. And if this man is right for you he will see past it and calm down and try to be with you. But if not, Then he was not who you should be with anyway. Its good to allow that person to know who you are and what you've been through. But understand that if there are things in your life that you dont feel confortable talking about, And that thing cant effect a new reationship. Then dont ever feel dishonest for not speaking up. Because its your life and whatever happened had nothing to do with that new man. I hope i can help.

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ok, i have a bf. but he never tlks 2 me. then this other guy came... i guess i fell in luv with him. and i luv him more than my bf!! the new guy always tlks 2 me, flirts with me, and all of that junk, u kno. but my bf doesnt. i dont wanna break up with my bf cause i dont wanna go breaking anyones heart... WHO SHOULD I CHOOSE!?!?!?! pls help me!!

Follow your heart and go with who you think you'll be happy with. No matter what, Someone has to get hurt, Its a part of life. And belive me, He'll get over it.

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hi my name is elizabeth. my question is about what am i doing wrong as to why can i get a boy friend? i have had some boy friends befor not many but some. all i can really remember was how happy i was when i had one. its been almost a year since my last boy friend and i HATE it i mean yeah my school has got a lot of good looking guys. i try to get there attintion but it seams like it never works. i mean im a nice girl,i get told alot im pretty,sweet,and caring so why cant i get a boy friend my longest relashonship has only been months and year sometimes boys message me on facebook or somthing saying thay think im cute and we should hang out. yeah some of them are my age but i dont like them like i dont think there cute. am i just being selfish and thinking about all myself or what? and all i am somtimes is sad when i hang out with my friends and thay have boy friends and im always all alone yeah it gets old and it starts to hurt =[and all i ever want is to just be happy again so PLEAS some one give me some advice.

All i can really say is that i know it hurts sometimes. But be patent. Honestly, Sometime its good to be single for a long time because everytime you get attacted to someone you give away a part of your heart and when you meet the love of your life someday, Dont you want him to have your whole heart? And while your waiting, Try working on yourself. Love yourself and become your bestfriend, Because once your confortable and happy with yourself, That shines through and atracts people alittle more. And you could never truely love someone and be happy with someone if you cant love yourself and be happy with just yourself first. And if your more then just a pretty face and a great catch, Then when you finally find someone that wants you You'll know its for your heart and brain as well as body, And then you'll know its more then just a crush. And when you do find someone interested in you, Dont just jump because you finally found someone. protect your heart and make him work for it. Because if he sticks around and works for it then you just he's worth giving it to. Ad if he does not stick around, Then you just saved yourself a heartbreak.

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Ok I have a question about girls and there bgf's dating. My best guy friend and i really like each other and care for each other. He can't date but we are kinda 'together' in a way. Like im totally single and can flirt with any guys I want but i think if i got a bf he would be hurt. i dont know anyway 1) how do i get him to show me he cares about me. he has done it subtly before but not as of lately and i know he does but i want him to show me.

2) is it weird when a girl and bgf start dating because he and i have liked each other for so long and he cant date so when he can if we date i think it might just be weird to actually date him after not for so long and all that. we hold hands occasionally and hug and we kissed once and it would be kind of weird to start dating. my friends all say we are perfect for each other and we are a lot a like and they dont care when we flirt cause we do it constantly. everyone at our church says they have known we liked each other ever since meeting us. we are both japanese so everyone always thinks were brother sister and then thinks were dating after we tell them we arent. haha its never awkward but i want more of his attention and i dont really know how to get it so ideas are welcome.

To recap haha:
1) ideas for how to get him to show me he cares about me
2)is it weird for two pple like us to start dating after everything? we act almost like friends with benefits but we have only kissed once and its more than that because we really care about each other and i may flirt with other guys and he flirts with other girls i know he doesnt like another girl and i dont like another guy. also tho i just transferred schools so we wont see each other as often and i do want to date another boy but if i did i would end up cheating on him because my bgf and i are just so close and stuff.
3)how do i get his attention?
thanks so much and i will rate all your helpful advice! ;)

Well maybe try and tell him how you feel. And also when you guys can date, If it feels right just go for it, You know eachother well so you have a better chance of lasting. Remember this,

"Love is friendship on fire"

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Although Im good at giving good love advice, for some reason I cant help myself. Everytime I like a boy and we start talking, I pick out something about them and lose interest. Why does that happen? Its just I get bored so easily I think, or they start to annoy me, but they dont do anything in particular annoying...I just dont understand.

This used to be my biggest problem. And personally i think it comes with matureaty and loveing yourself. I'm not saying anything about you at all, I know the person you are. But from my experince it was something i grew out of, Not with age, But with maturaity. And also when i not confortable with myself and everything about me, I tend to find things wrong with everyone eles. If you work on excepting yourself. You'll see it comes alot more easy to except other boys for thier little flaws too.

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so there's this guy in my class that i like and i was woundering how do i know if he likes me back.

I guess it really all depends on the kind of person he is. Some guys act immature (smacking and being mean) when they like girls. Some get shy, And some flirt alot. Look for any of that stuff and i guess just try to talk to him alot and see if you feel that click for both of you. Then maybe tell him how you feel.

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