hey i am going out with this girl and like its great and all...but theres this other girl...and she's really been on my mind....like at night instead of thinking of my girlfriend i think of this girl...she's amazing and i know because i've been talking to her and i've really gotten to know her...so what the hell do i do?
well its not really fair to your girlfriend for you to do that. so if your seriously thinking about getting with this other girl, break it up with your girlfriend now, she doesnt deserve to not know the truth
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first off. i am 13 about to turn 14. and I AM A GIRL!
okay so theres this older guy. hes really shy and sweet and nice and, by the way, gorgeous. we havent really got to talking or anything but i just cant stop looking at him when i am around him. the only thing that seperates me doing anything farther than flirting is his age. hes 17!!! what do i do? i know i want to become his good friend but because of our age difference and his shyness will he be too scared if i make a move? and if i do make a move what should i do?
ana:
ahhh okay. looks can be decieveing. i know 3 years apart doesnt seem like THAT big of a difference. but these days...its a HUGE difference. he is not only older then you, but he is also alot more experienced, and matured. i know it seems like he is like the most gorgeous thing in the worldd and he is all you can think about, but in the long run letting him go (for now atleast) because of yalls age difference is the best thing you could do. i know..not the ideal answer or atleast not what you wanted to hear. but i think you will realize it was the right thing to do:]
good luckk.
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why do we cry over a guy?
when i listen to a slow jam its always remind me of the guy i likev and makes me cry so much..... why?
mikela.
aw. well. the answer is not simple at all. in the slightest bit. you cant help it. its a girl thing. were oh so very emotional. and if this whole crying thing came up recently it could be because your about to start your..period. other than that. you cry because you love. or miss the boy. :] oh or want.
PS. anas at camp
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hey guyss.
well this is the first time i have askedd for anything here so yaa. well i know im prob going to end up telling yall laterr. i just wanna knoww wat ull say when you dont knwo its me. OK WELL uaslly i am ALLWAYS AGNSTED DATING GUYS YOUNGER THAN ME and i mean allways like im a friggin i donno but i mean allways and this...guy and me started talking lately and he was sooo sweet and nice and cutee and we seemed to kinda click rite awayy everything seems great rite? but...ya get thiss hes a 7 months younger than me and a whole grade lower!!!! wtf is that? gawd and now i dont knoww what to do..like should i go agnsted everyting i stood for and be a hypricate.? and honstly i cant really picture my selff like with him CAUSE HES YOUNGER THAN ME! ughh and like does he like me just cause he thinks hes cool cause im in a grade higherr? and GET THISS im still not COMPLETELY over this guy in a grade ABOVE me that i usted to be intrested in. ughh thiss is friggin crazyy!
HELP
oh and btw thats a cute pic of yall!!
ana&&mikela:
well. if you like the dude go for it. now a days people make huge deals about the age shit. but you have to let it go, shut out stupid peoples opinions and go with your heart. it might be tough at first, but if you reeeally like him i think its worth it. when your ready talk to us about it. we will totally support your decision =]
good luck=]
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So my best friend for like ever told me that all he wanted to do was to get in my pants. Now I'm scared that I might give into him and that would ruin our friendship.
ana&&mikela:
first of all, if thats all he is in this relationship for, or any relationship at all for that matter, you need to dump his ass. you need to get straight to the point sit him down and tell him how much you liked having him as your bestfriend and that yalls relationship means alot to you, but let him know if its all about the sexual shit...its not gonna work. dont be afraid to tell him what you think. if he is really your bestfriend he will back off && respect your wishes. i know you dont want to loose a bestfriend, but he shouldnt have to get in your pants in order for you to keep him.
good luck=]
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i have been thinking a lot about this, and i think i might do it. im not intereted in guys, if you know what i mean. i like girls(o and im a girl) im afraid that my friends will reject me and leave me. but i feel as if i really need to come out though. please help
ana&&mikela:
first off, i give you big props for trying to come out, it takes alot of courage and self confidence to do that. i wont lie, its a tough thing to do. you will always have people judging you, thats just the way our society is these days. but you cant let that bring you down. if they are truly your friends they wont judge you and they will support you and be by your side the whole way through this. you've got this girl, dont let anyone bring you down your better then the people that want to judge you.
i hope everything works out! IM us if you need anymore help. good luck=]
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well..my wifeey....i don't like it when she talks to other girls...i just wanted to let her know that i missed her and ill see her lator..
p.s. umm if you don't know who this is....well this is your wifey!! ☺
mikela.
nat. i love you too.
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So the other day the guy I liked admited he had sexual feelings for me. So he came over and we got it on in the pool. The thing is, he has no intentions of asking me out and has his eye on another girl. Worse thing is, I got mono from him. I don't know what I should do. Should I still have feelings for him or not?
mikela.
well. if you gave up your virginity to him. you will have feelings for him. but you should deffinitally stay away from him. i mean dont be the girl he just gets ass from. i mean your better than that. and theyre will be other guys. BETTER guys for you. ones that dont want sex. you know. its to late to change the past but you can change your future. drop that horn balls ass and move on. :] GOOD LUCKK
ana: okay. the guy the is looking at you as a piece of meat. he just wants his sexual pleasure then goes on to the next girl that will have sex with him. especially since he didnt even bother to tell you that he had mono. that shows that he has absolutely no respect for you or your body. dump his ass, and find a man thats worth your time. because you deserve better than a sleezy dog. good luck=]
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ok so this is going to be pretty long. by the way ima girl. well me and this guy used to "talk" like we likedd eachother but then he went out with this other girl and i was really mad but didnt show it and i kinda went on with my life the rest of the year.. well kinda see i never got over him and even when i would tell my friends and convince my self i liked someone else he was always in the back of my mind. and a few weeks ago he came over and we kindda messed around... it might not be a big deal to a lot of people but it is to me. well yeah we messed around me thinking if we did he would like me more which he doesnt he juss flirts with al thsese other girls and he only talks to me when he wants to come over and thats only whenn im home lone well yeah hes not a virgin and i am so its no big to him but i want to be in a love relationship before i do anything to crazy but now i think im more of a goal to him and he told some of his friends that we did stuff so know there callin me up the wall playing with my heart... uhhh i needa lot of help. and i juss want someone that will care for me and not think of me as a freakin peace of meat yuh know.
mikela thinks:
well. i went through something like that awhile ago. and i know you like him. but you are better than that and you knwo it. now i know it might be tough because you really like him but you have to remember HES NOT GOOD for you. he isnt interested in you. hes interested in your "va jay jay" as ana likes to call it. i mean i know he was your first person to mess around with but it doesnt change the fact hes no good. you DESERVE soo much better. like seriousely go look in the mirror RIGHT NOW. and repeat after me. [your name here] i love myself. i love my body. i respect myself i respect my body. no man can change that or lower my standers. wait untill you find someone who loves you doesnt care if you make out or talk. doesnt care if you have sex or watch tv lol you feel me.
:]] good luck
ana: wow. girl you speak tha truth. no girl should EVER be looked at as a piece of meat. okay this is guy is SOOOO not worth your time. i know its easier said then done, but you need to drop this hoe and find someone who repects you and doesnt use you for his sexual pleasure. once you find a great guy, your gonna realize how inconsiderate this last one was. stand up for youself, dump the whore and find someone that deserves you.
good luck, if you need anything else IM me=]
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ok. so me and this guy were talking. and he said he liked me, and i believed him! but now he is going out with some stupid girl, that i know he doesnt even like! it makes me soo mad! i just want to slap him! sorry. any help?
ana:honey. its simple, he is obviously a PLAYER. you can do wayyy better dont even talk to him anymore he isnt worth your time and thinking about it will make you even more mad. surround yourself with friends, and guys that treat you right. and drop this fools ass.
hope i helped=]
mikela:
well. you should deff talk to him. ask him whats up. i mean there is nothing you can to except maybe move on. forget about him if you can, and just start talking to other guys.
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well me and this guy have been talking for a while. and i really like him alot, and he likes me alot too. but i never get to see him, and recently hes been acting alot different. so do i stick with him and try to work it out, or move on?
ana:well if you both really like eachother that much, i would ask him if he still feels the same way about you just to make sure the two of you are on the same page . if yall still like eachother alot, talk to him about working out ways to see eachother more often. if he still likes you but isnt gonna try to get you...move on, im sure there are other great guys comin your way!
good luck=]
well. if you really like this guy then work it out. i mean talk to him tell him how you feel. but be nice about it. i mean im sure if this dude likes you he will change REAL fast. and everything happens for a reason. so if it doesnt work out thenn ya know oh well more guys will come.
keep it pimpin :]
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My stupid boyfriend keeps telling me he loves me. But he looks at girls too much. My friends tell me he has been cheating on me, but he has never confessed. I keep asking him, but he just ignores it. I think he really is cheating on me! WHAT DO I DO!?!!??!
ana&&mikela:
try asking him and talking to him about one more time. if he is still ignoring you, dump the whore. he isnt worth your time and obviously isnt trying that hard to contribute to your relationship. you need to find someone that respects you and and listens.
good luck=]
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Hi, I found out a few months ago that my boyfriend (he's also my best friend)is moving to Belgium, which is bad because I live in the US. My problem is that though 4th grade all the way through 7th I was a cutter. Now that I found out he's moving... I started again. He Knows what's happening and gives me all the love and support i need... That makes it worse. I love this guy more than ever, and we recently got sexually involved. I'm sooo scared.
P.S. I'm 14, I know young. For what you just read at least. I'm a girl!
ana: okay, so it seems like you realllllyy love the dude. but sometimes if you love somthing enough you have to let it go. considering your 14 there isnt nmuch you can do except keep in touch with him, and try to move on. but DONT cut yourself. that wont do anything but hurt you. surround yourself with friends and family until you get through this. it wont be easy, but you can do it. im sure you will find another great guy, and be just as happy, just give it time. and seriously, get some help&& stop cutting is doesnt solve anything and your wayyy better then that.
good luck, i hope everything works out=]
mikela thinks.
listen. theyre are other ways to deal with your problems. one of my friends use to cut and she got REAL help. your boyfriends great and everything but you need REAL help, professional help. listen there will always be tuff times but cutting yourslef wont make them anyless tuff. you end up just adding more problems on top of that.now i know your gunna miss your boyfriend but if you love him, you will work it out. and maybe hanging out with your other friends are your family will help ease the pain because time heals all and friends will always be there. but seriousely if your cutting yourself you might have other problems you didnt know about. but yeah another thing you can do is pick up a sport or hobbie to keep your mind on other things. i hope everything works out and if you need anything eles. you can im me. miikela says xx. oh ps. my friend sees a proffesional and she loves it and shes really happy now :]
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Ok well me and this guy met a few months ago and i have developed feelings for him since i met him. We actedd like we liked eachother and we did some stuff. but thenn he STOPED talking to me. and i was like ok well screw him. you know even thoe i secretly liked him i was truly getting overhim. then he started calling me the day school got outt and was being very nice and flirty. wanting to hangout with me. and stuff but im afraid he will hurt me again once school starts and i dont want to get back attached to him. him being all nice is only making it worse for me and harder. now im staritng to like him again BUTTT HE ALSO LIKES THIS OTHER GIRL. its pretty fucked i have to say. omg whatt do i do?
ohh and im 15 and female
ana:okay well this guy is obviously a player if he flirts with you then all of the sudden STOPS and he likes you and another girl. trust me honey, he aint worth the time. i know its hard because he is realing you in with his flirtyness and sweetness, but dont let him fool you. he just wants what he wants and isnt thinking about what he did to you and your feelings. try to shut him out and give him the hint that you dont wanna have anything to do with him. you deserve wayy better, dont waste your time on a dogg.=]
good luck!
mikela thinks:
yeah that deff is a problem. but if you worked so hard to like get over him it would be a shame to let all that go to waste, but what you should do is ask him straight up. why did you stop talking to me, and what possessed you to start back up again. just talk it out. you decide if its worth it. you know better than i do. but my nigger ana has a good point if i were you id ask the question then drop his ass.
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whos you twos favorite big brother?
ana&&mikela
JACKKKKKK!!=]
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ok so i like this guy...and we are really just friends do you know how to make him like me?
mikela thinks:
well. chances are. if he can listen to you yap he probally has a little something for you. and you cant really MAKE him like you. but you can deff drop hints. like flirt with him. tell him you like some1 but dont let him know who it is. haha thoses cheesy kind of things. but yeah deff flirt with him like crazy. talk to him. you know. if you think you have a chance why not tell the negro you like him. lol go for it! whats the worst that could happen?
ana: well, maybe you should try confronting him about it, i mean it works out in some situations, (it worked for me=]) but yeah i would definatley let him know you have feelings for him because chances are he feels the same way. dont act any different around him, be your self, and win him over with your personality. good luck=]
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im a good girl. i dont look like one. but i am. me and my friends are very good. but i let this guy finger me. and im pretty ashamed. and i dont know how my friends will take it. i dont even really wanna tell them. me and this guy arnt going out. but we really like eachother.
am i a slut or what?
ana&&mikelaa
okay. if they are really your friends, they will comfort and support you and give you good feedback. i mean thats what best friends are for.dont be afraid to tell them, just be sure to tell the friends you trust the most, even if that mean only telling one. and no you are not a slut. just dont make this a normal thing, and if yall really like eachother maybe it was worth it, but dont think that because it happened once that you have to go any further in your sexual relationship if your not comfortorable with it. and make sure that isnt all that your relationship with this is based on. so, tell your most trustworthy friend, and soak up there support, im sure it will make you feel alot better.
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My boyfriend is Constantly working so I never get to see him the last time i saw him was Thursday and I miss him so much im crying! yeah i know well he cant call me either because hes either eating, sleeping or working so I hardly ever get to see or talk to him. i only see him on his days off (which arnt that many) Im sorry if this is a hard question to answer but what can I do? I want to see him SO BAD!! he lives in a diff. city than I do (about an hour away) and I dont know where he works at either so I cant see him or call him because he doesnt have a cell phone and no work phone. I miss him so much what can I do? and im always thinking about him and it makes me cry because i miss him so much. and another thing is sont say something like "go hang out with your friends or family because my family is out somewhere and my friends are out with THEIR boyfriends so theres no where i can go to get him off my mind im stuck at hi\ome with nothing to do, noone to call, and all i have left to do is think about him and its making me depressed. and DO NOT say break up with him because i LOVE him. is there anything i could do? anything that would make me happier? thanks i will rate and leave really good comments!
Mikela thinks:
well. trying calling and leaving a message asking him to call when he gets the time and ask when his work days are. THEN. surprise him show up at his home and be like BABY I MISSED YOU!! i mean you sound like a pretty desperate woman. and despreate times call for desperate messures. but like even if that doesnt work out. meet new people. pick up a hobbie. like gardening learning to sew. i mean no matter what your going to think about him. but dont think about how you miss him think about hoe much fun it will be when you reunite keep a postitive attiude roll with the bad times. i mean its hard but this just tests your relationship and shows you how strong it is.
:]]
ana thinks:okay. so obviously you love this guy. this is deffinatley a tough one. but if you dont have a job, and you really miss him that much might i suggest moving in with him or yall buying an apartment together, i know its a huge change but i think it could make yalls relationship alot stronger. if that wont workout the only other think i can suggest is find out where he works and give is spiratic visits, im sure if they are from you he will appreciate them. maybe even try getting a job near him.
i feel your pain and wish you the best of luck, im sure it will all work itself out.=]
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I'm 17 and my boyfriend will be turning 19 soon. We have been together for several months, but this is the first birthday that has come during our relationship. I have no idea what to get him! I know whatever I get him should come from the heart & be sentimental but I was thinking things along the line of a few tshirts he likes, gift cards, a new wallet, cologne, things like that. Any ideas/suggestions would be great appreciated!
mikela AND ana think:
well, only you know what he really likes. if i were you id get him something simple like cologne or his fav band t-shirt and a mushy gushy handmade card. i think hell like ANYTHING you give him. another way to make sure you get him something he wants is to ask his friend or something. but like i said im sure he will like ANYTHING you give him. and the mushy gooshy card is like..putting a cherry ontop of the icecream
:]] good luck
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so ive been dating a guy for a couple months and he just recently said something really mean to my friend while she was working causing her to run of work bawling. i dont want a guy that talks shit to my friends. is it wrong to break up with him for it? please answer..
mikela thinks:
NO ITS NOT. your like a number 7 at Mcdonalds. your friends are the fries n coke. they come along with the package. he wants you hes gotta learn to deal with your friends. you should deffinitally tell him that its NOT ACCEPTABLE how he talked to your friend like that, like i said earlier your friends come with the package. if he doesnt like them he doesnt get the BIG MAC ;].
but that is a small bump to over come, you deff need to talk it out with him.
anaA thinks: well i wouldnt go and breakup with him IMMEDIATLY but, i would talk to him about it. tell him that what he said not only hurt your friend, but you as well. tell him you want him to treat your friends with the same respect that he gives you, if he doesnt agree..dump the guy. but hopefully you guys can talk it over and you can let him know that how he treats your friends is really important to you, and try to get him to clear the air with your friend and apologize.
good luck & i hope everything works outt.=]
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