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My boyfriend and i are fed up of just making out so we want to get touchy feely with each other.
I sed i would give a hj which i thought he would say yes to, but he sed he wont let me touch him anywhere unless i let him finger me and im not sure what to do coz he wants to do it while we are in the cinema and i dont know if i should say yes.
BTW i am 14 and he is almost 15 (link)
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Your ages aside, doing much of anything touchy-feely at a cinema is a bad idea. Doing things like that in public places can get you in some serious trouble if you get caught, and there's a likely chance you would. There are people there whose entire job is to make sure that these things don't happen in the theaters!
Also, I wouldn't trust a guy who wont let you touch him unless he gets to touch you first. Personally I think that sounds really suspicious.
I remember being 14, not all that many years ago, and forgive the mother in me that says you should hold off a little while before getting too sexual! You're young and you've got to give yourself time to be young without the sexual drama that comes with taking that step. Some people are ready for it at your age, some aren't. I won't tell you you can't, because it won't do any good to tell you what to do. Just remember, don't let him do anything you're not comfortable with - any decent boy will respect your boundaries and limits, and only push forward when you let him know you're ready.
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I have a boyfriend & he's bi , He likes guys more then girls but he likes me a lot , maybe even love but anyways , I'm worried that I can't turn him on because I heard it's harder to turn Bi guys on , What can I do to turn him on ? (link)
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People in general that are bisexual are with the guy or girl they're with because they want to be with them. There is less drama about "who likes who" and all that because if they don't want to be with someone, they just aren't with that person! A lot of them are very sexual people, and trust me when I say they are NOT harder to turn on! (Speaking from personal knowledge here, love.)
An easy thing to do that can get his mind going? Talk about guys. He'll like that you're comfortable with his sexuality and can openly talk about these things with him. I don't necessarily mean going and saying "hey that guy across the street is pretty cute, isn't he," (unless you're both comfortable with the fact that you'll both be attracted to other people in life). Watch a movie with him and talk about the sexy male lead, or the cute guy in the background. Get his opinion on some of them! One thing can lead to another, quite easily.
If you're bi as well, talk about girls too!
For the most part though, bi guys are just like straight guys when it comes to turning them on. They like attention; little innocent touches, devious glances, innuendos, and all that good stuff. Ask him what he likes! He'll love that you want to know, and it's the easiest way to find out.
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To start off, I'm sixteen and my boyfriend is seventeen. We've been dating for eight months. Whenever I go over to his house he's ALWAYS playing call of duty hahaha. And sometimes he'll tell me to come over and I do thinking we're gonna hang out but he already has a friend over and they just play and I sit there for a litte bit till he kicks him out... Like okay?? Haha he'll just be like "oh hey, come here" he wont even look at me just keep on playing and pat his leg to get me to come sit on his lap. I've kind of discovered a little trick. If I sit on his lap and *oops* I put a hand on his dick he'll kick his friend out in a heart beat hahaha. I mean, he'll eventually do it anyway, after abotu twenty minutes but it's just annoying!! I don't wanna be a naggy girlfriend that shows up and commands he stops playing video games and gives me attention. I also don't wanna come off as a physco bitch to his friend, like I wanna be a "cool girlfriend" and it's not a big deal really... but still! Haha should I just keep the same strategy?? I feel kinda guilty seducing him to do what I want but I want my time with him!! (link)
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Oh Call of Duty, the things you can do to relationships!
I'm going to tell you from experience that COD gets old fast for a girlfriend. Wanting to spend time with him outside of his system doesn't make you naggy or a psycho! If he is inviting you over, then he should make an effort to entertain you - that's just proper rules for having house guests, let alone boyfriend/girlfriend situations. He's got all the time he doesn't see you to play his games. Talk with him casually and tell him that you aren't hugely interested in sitting there watching him play his game all the time, and that you don't want to have to seduce him just to get his attention!
I suppose if you were interested, you could try your hand at the game yourself with him as well. That could show him that you're making an effort to do things with him that he likes and maybe he'd do the same sort of thing for you. Be the bold one and call him to go somewhere with you, out of his house where he can't bring the game. Trust me, you don't want to end up having a love triangle between you, him and COD. It's no fun having a man that won't pay attention to you because he's busy shooting pixels online (or offline, for that matter).
I'd say your best bet is to just talk to him about it and see what happens. You've been together long enough that he'll probably listen to you when you say that it's something you don't like dealing with - and it's perfectly understandable too. I hope this helps!
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so i had this boyfriend. we dated for a few months and then broke up. we have been friends with benefits i guess you can say since the beginning of summer. i like hooking up with him, but he definetly cares about me more than i do him. don't get me wrong hes a sweet guy but i don't have romantic feelings. my relationship before him was 2 years and i feel like i need to "experiment" with other guys and stuff. you know figure out what i really want in a boyfriend and eventually a husband. he gets upset when i hook up with other guys though. but i told him i didn't want commitment andi don't want a relationship right now. i've been hookig up with other guys but i feel guilty cause i'm keeping it from him even though i told him clearly that hooking up with other people is not cheating since we are not in a relationship. can anyone help me with this messy situation? thankss (link)
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I've been in this sort of situation before, and believe me when I say your best solution is to back out. Being friends with benefits with someone is a great way to figure things out about what you like and don't like when it comes to the down and dirty, but it's just going to hurt him more and more if you keep doing things with him. Depending on the guy, it may even encourage him to think you might want more with him again soon. I really suggest that you break that off with him so that he can move on completely. Then you probably won't have him quite as upset by it; and then even if he is that upset, he can't say a word about it because there's nothing between you that he can bring up to argue about. Let ex's be ex's.
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Hey guys, I'm a 19 year old female and my boyfriend is 21. We have been together for four year in September.. Everyone around us is getting engaged and we have been together longer than anyone of them. I dont know if im jealous or worried. I have said to him I want to be engaged, he said no. It makes me feel like he doesnt love me that much to marry me. He says he wants to marry me but wants to wait. I want a big wedding, huge dress ect.. I understand to wait for the wedding, but why cant we be engaged? He says he wants to be able to buy me a huge ring and make sure its beautiful, but I dont want/need that right now, just a small right so show hes mine.. Because of this I have decided to go away to school in the fall. Maybe to test to see if he is my "one" or just to clear my head and enjoy being 19.. Im not sure. What are your intakes of this? Am i right to feel "not loved" or do you all agree with him? (link)
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Trust me, 19 is not the right age to be engaged - I've been there myself (and all too recently, as I am 19 still!). It's always fun to dream about your perfect wedding, it's great to have something that says "yes, I am in fact taken, and this guy really loves me!", but there's nothing that says it has to be such a commitment as an engagement. So what if your friends are getting married? Do you have to schlep along like another little sheep and do the same thing because its what everyone else is up to? Getting engaged puts a lot more strain on a relationship for young people because you come to expect certain things of each other. You do things because you're engaged and not because you're with the man you want to spend your life with - the two are startlingly easy to confuse. "Oh well he did this so I must do this now." "She did that so now I have to do this." "This is what I should do because it's what all my friends expect of me." Don't worry about it! Other people should not be involved in your relationship or what you're doing with it. I got engaged at a (far too) young age, and because of that the relationship completely fell apart but we stayed together for a long time because "we were supposed to." "We're high-school sweethearts, we're supposed to get married and have 2.5 kids and get old together."
Everything in its own time dear. Don't push him into it, because pushing him will push him away from you. If he wants to be with you forever, then he will come to that decision on his own, in his own time.
Going away for school in the fall is a great idea in my opinion; not only will it give you two time apart to develop your own lives and persons, but it will make life far better for you both in the end if you do eventually get married! Go for it and enjoy being young! We only get so long before we have to take on all the responsibilities we can handle and then some.
Not wanting to get engaged doesn't mean that he doesn't want to be with you, and that's something that you should really try to think about right now. Take the materialistic aspects out of your relationship in your mind and see what it means to you then. He shouldn't have to buy you a ring of ANY size to make you happy. It isn't the only way to show you're his and he's yours! Heck, I wear a necklace that my mother! bought me because the stone in it (amber) makes me think of him. The necklace has nothing to do with him OR my relationship directly, but it makes me so happy to wear as just a little reminder of him, and everyone assumes its something he bought me because I wear it almost every day.
So, don't pay attention to what your friends are doing in their relationships. Don't worry about him "not loving" you - because he sounds like he does and you just want him to 'prove it.' Go have fun and get to school in the fall. See where life takes you, don't force the issue!
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