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14/f
My boyfriend gave me a necklace for my birthday a few weeks ago. I wore it to school, then took it off at the end of the day in the locker room so I could change for tennis. I thought I put it in my backpack but I looked and I can't find it anywhere. I checked all around my house too. So tomorrow we have a date and he asked me to wear the necklace. I really don't want to tell him I lost it! I don't know what to do! I feel horrible!

just tell him because the more you keep it from him the worse it will get and he would start to think something is wrong like maybe you never liked it so just tell him i am pretty sure he will understand

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I am a girl, 14. He is also 14, 15 next week.

I have a best friend that is a guy, and he goes to another school now that we've moved onto high school. We text all the time, sometimes even during school, when we can. We have nicknames for each other, we have "our song" that is only ours (two or three actually), we have favourite things we like to do together, and it seems like I'm getting close to liking him. I've liked him before, which turned out in a massacre, but we patched it up and look where we are now. We're closer than ever. I even get jealous when he talks to my other friends, which I know sounds unreasonable, but I don't know why, I just get jealous. So, what should I do? Act on it, or just simply carry out this really good friendship with him?

i say you tell him how you feel because he seems like he feels the same way or make him say it first ask him questions like who do you like? or how would you feel if i told i like you?

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So here's what I need help about... There's this girl at my faculty that I've been meaning to ask out for like 6 months. By the way, it would be my first time asking someone out... (lame, I know)! I think I've finally worked up the nerve to do it, but lately I've been reading about the so called "pity date" thing. We're not particularly close as friends and I have no idea if she knows I like her (I think she doesn't). She is VERY nice and kind to everyone without exception and I think it's a virtue... But that's also what worries me. How do I know she won't just go out with me because she's NICE? Maybe I'll take her for a drink (I'm talking apple juice) and she'll just be friendly like she always is... and then I do it a few more times and she just keeps going out with me because she doesn't wanna hurt my feelings...

I mean I don’t want to go out with somebody and be distracted the whole time thinking about why thery’re there!

Oh yes, and we’re both 20, for what it’s worth.

Any advice appreciated.

you should have some confidence tell her how you feel. Tell her that you want to go out with her and that your scared if she does its because shes too nice to say no. At first just ask her to hang out and trust me you will now if she wants to be around you or not

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18/f
my past relationships have ended suddenly because i have a nasty habit when it comes to getting close to someone. i'm very depression-prone. and usually when i'm with someone for awhile and i get depressed (for one reason or another) i start to push them away. press the right buttons, don't care about their feelings, act extremely distant and obviously sad, etc. i don't know why i do it, but i do. and i don't want to anymore. i'm with someone now and i really really love her. this is my first girlfriend. she's been my friend for years and so theres a lot of history there. anyways, lately i've been really down because of stress at work and with my friends. i took it out on her today and she started crying in front of me, and i immediately snapped out of my "fuck everything" mood and felt horrible. now, i know how girls work. i know you're not supposed to shut them out because they obviously think they did something wrong. she hasn't done anything wrong and it took me forever to explain that to her. i ended up buying her a balloon saying "i love you" along with a stuffed animal.
i don't want to make her cry anymore. she doesn't deserve that. we both have decent amounts of stress in our life and i don't want to add to hers. how can i fix the way i act in relationships? i don't want to chase her away like i did everyone else, since she's still my best friend and the only person i don't want to lose.

just stop thinking about what makes you stressed out and depressed when you feel that way go to a place where your alone or think of something that makes you happy

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