My name is Irene. I am 20 years old. For my age i have gone through my share of situations in life to make me grow. I am not a know-it-all but i do learn from every experience i have had. I am married, have been married since i was 18 years old. My husband is in the Air Force. And i also have a daughter, she is 1 years old. I promise to give the best advice i can give, because i know how hard it can be to not know what to do or who to talk to in life. Feel free to ask me anything you'd like :) together we can figure it out! I could only pick 3 categories, so i tried to be diverse. However, any relationship advice you need, whether it is about family,friendships or love, anything having to do with domesticity (parenting, babysitting,cleaning) or sexual health and reproduction (pregnancy, general sex questions, infertility,birth control pills) i am all ears!
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Okay so I'm going to make this short. I met a guy online. We've talked for almost a year and a half and we know everything about eachother. You dont need to lecture me about everyone is not what they seem, I know. Even though something is apart of it. Well at one point we were dating for at least a month and he thought this were bad. Which I didnt think so. Well he lied and said he was a girl all along. So after two weeks I was still hurt from it and I had sex with this guy who liked me at the time and tried to comfort me. And I told him, when I thought he was this andrea girl. Then a week after he starts yelling at me, confessing that he had his friend tell me he was a girl. And that he had a threesome...I dont know what to do it hurts when I think about it I want to cry. He says he loves me and I believe it but when I look back at it, I dont know what to do. Whenever I tell him what I'm feeling about it he always says im just trying to make him feel bad when Im not, Im telling him how I feel. He says the only reason he did was revenge on me for having sex and saying im no better than he is. But..he lied, so when I didnt think he existed I didnt think anything was wrong. But he had a threesome knowing about me...I dont know how to move on. I want to but everytime I think of it it hurts. Who would you say is right, me or him? SHould I forgive him for this? I planned on marrying this guy but dont think Im crazy cause we've skyped. Help my heart. (link)
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Hello,
i am pretty sure someone has told you this, but, this is also my advice. Even if this is a real person, i can already tell you that there is soooo much drama attached to him. I mean, you guys haven't met in person yet and it is already bad. You can only imagine how it would be if you did meet. Marriage, marriage is work and hard. And you want to be in it with someone you can trust. I don't think he is trust worthy. I know this sucks and i know this hurts, but the best you can do is delete him, block him and go out, get some fresh air. Hang out with your friends.
Hmmm...another thing, the guy you slept with that tried comforting you? Even though i do not believe that sex is the best option to comfort a person, kinda seemed like he was taking advantage of your fragile state, but still. If he was truly doing it to comfort you all i have to say is this : Sometimes us as females, we concentrate on what is sure to hurt us, when the right guy is standing right next to us whipping our tears away ;) You can do this, you are strong. He does not have the right to be mad at you after letting you go, lying to you and deceiving you. He is trying to make everything that he has done be your fault because he knows he is wrong. You can do it!!
:)
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Hi I, am 32 years old and had Anal sex for the first time. I am very concerned about geting an STD. I have been with the same man for the past 7 years; what should I do? (link)
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You can go anywhere from your regular gynecologist to your primary care doc. Hope i helped :)
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Hey. So I’m a seventeen year old girl, dating a seventeen year old guy, and were both seniors. In all aspects, he’s a pretty much perfect boyfriend. We’ve been dating for three months and the only complaint I have is about one of his friends.
For about three years, he’s been really close to this girl. She’s sixteen, a junior. I knew when we first started talking that they were very good friends, and I could tell in just the way he talked about her that she meant a lot to him. But he assured me it was strictly a brother-sister type relationship. And while I trust him, it’s still been hard to always see it like that. She’s absolutely gorgeous, and a really sweet girl. I know I’m not ugly but she just has this way about her… she’s very very small. And he is very very very protective of her. And I don’t know, he doesn’t get that kind of protective of me (shes one of those, damsel in distress type that all guys love to "rescue" all the time). He is always taking care of her… And while yeah, I don’t need taking care of exactly, it still feels weird. Basically before we started dating they would talk on the phone or text every single day, hang out every weekend, he took her to prom… they were inseprapable. And he has reeeeeally cut back on how much he’s been seeing her. And I haven’t had to ask him to do that, and I know he doesn’t like it, but he does it. And while he doesn’t’ complain about it, or even acknowledge it, I know he misses her. But honestly, I don’t know what to do. I’m scared he’s gonna fall in love with her or something. I want him to be happy but I don’t want to get involved in his friendships or do anything that might break us up. And I feel selfish and guilty because I know she needs him and I know he really cares about her… but what am I supposed to do!?
On a side not, this girl and me do no get a long AT ALL. It’s a long story but she basically hates me because of something that happened between me and her friend…, which… well it’s complicated. But I don’t necessarily like her either? Yeah… so me hanging around her is kind of out of the question.
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Hello,
i can truly relate to this on both sides. I have a friend who i call a brother. If for example i'm going to hang out with him i would tell my mom "i'm hanging out with my brother today." And although i am not a damsel in distress, he has rescued me from a lot of life threatening situations. I've also been on the other side of the table where my husband had a best friend. Ugh...lol..i really did not like her.She had that pretty little perfect barbie face and she is skinny and perfect. However, i did try to get to know her. The funny thing is i never even met her. She wanted nothing to do with me. You are lucky, and i'll tell you why. You did say he has cut back on talking to her. Normally that would not happen. Even till this day my husband knows i would do anything for my brother, because to me he is family and that is what we do. Your boyfriend did that for you, because he loves you. That is a big thing. I don't know if he's known her longer than you, but i am guessing their bond was stronger/bigger in the beginning, and he has sort of let it go for you. Friendship is really important so if they are as close as i think they were it must be a sting. My brother now is engaged, and when he met his at the time girlfriend i was in Japan with my husband (he's in the Air Force, we were stationed there.) Well, he would constantly tell her about me and funny stories that the poor girl was terrified to meet me. And when her and i got to talk she would constantly ask me if i am sure nothing between him and i has ever happened. It is hard, to believe that someone that has such a bond like that wouldn't. The best i can tell you is, he is obviously in love with you to try so hard to make things work with you by putting his friendship aside. And i know that you said that talking to her is out of the question, but sometimes, in a relationship/marriage we have to compromise.Put our own feelings aside and show the other person we care and are trying too. If you build a bond with her as well you wouldn't feel singled out or feel like you are making him unhappy.It will show him you are mature and as committed as he is. Have a sit down with her, let her know that whatever the drama is between you and her friend is another story. That you know she has a close sisterly bond with your boyfriend and wouldn't want things to be awkward because of any outside drama. If your boyfriend valued her friendship she must be a good friend. As time goes by, you realize, that all of that High School drama was petty, and you start to wonder if you could have done things somehow differently. And knowing that you can't is the worse feeling in the world. So whatever you decide to do, think about it first. Make a pros and cons list. I hope i was able to help you!
:)
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