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Hey yall, I'm Lindsey, 14, and i just want to help people so leave me some questions, i reply really fast! I love talking to people and hanging out with my friends and family(most of the time!) soooo I'm open to all kinds of questions but please only ask if its true, dont put fake crap in here! Love yah!!

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ok im at the mal w/one of my good friends and we run into one of my old guy friends from my old skool. so he calls me and asks me to hook him up wiht my friend and i did so now they r dating. ok well the problem is that i like the guy i always have and he figuered it out and told me that he likes me A LOT too and he always had but he didnt ask me out cuz he thought i didnt like him. so now me and him are getting closer again, but hes dating my best friend who doesnt even seem like she likes him that much and part of the reason she went out wiht him was bcuz i liked him. sry if that confusing but i tried to explain it... wut should i do? (14/f)

Hey girl, ok i totally see where your coming from and you should simply talk to your friend. If the guy likes you a lot and you like him there is no need for them to be going out when you could be! Apparently they arent right for each other and you and him are. Try to talk to them both at the same time like use 3 way or sumthing, but talk to them both together and work it out. hope I helped- let me know how it goes

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ok im at the mal w/one of my good friends and we run into one of my old guy friends from my old skool. so he calls me and asks me to hook him up wiht my friend and i did so now they r dating. ok well the problem is that i like the guy i always have and he figuered it out and told me that he likes me A LOT too and he always had but he didnt ask me out cuz he thought i didnt like him. so now me and him are getting closer again, but hes dating my best friend who doesnt even seem like she likes him that much and part of the reason she went out wiht him was bcuz i liked him. sry if that confusing but i tried to explain it... wut should i do? (14/f)

Hey girl, ok i totally see where your coming from and you should simply talk to your friend. If the guy likes you a lot and you like him there is no need for them to be going out when you could be! Apparently they arent right for each other and you and him are. Try to talk to them both at the same time like use 3 way or sumthing, but talk to them both together and work it out. hope I helped- let me know how it goes

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hey lindz,
Well theres this girl i really like and i no sh really likes me but the thing is she lives in a different state. what should i do? i dont wanna hurt her.
anonymous

ok, hey, I'm really sorry that this girl you really like lives in a different state. If you really like her I know it will be hard to hear this, but there is a high chance that it wont work out if you decide to go out with her. I'm just trying to let you know b/c ive had experience with this situation but it was only 2 hours away, not even a state, and it didnt wokr out. So seriously think about it before you make any decisions, hope I could help. Good luck and let me know how things go.

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Hi, Lindsey i am having mixed feelings about something and i keep hating myself for it. You see when i see a guy that most girls call cute i become aroused but it does not work when i see hot girls. I feel that i must come out of the closet but im afraid what others will think of me. I currently have a girlfriend and i dont know if i should tell her or not. What should i do?!?

-Bruse U. (14,male)

ok hey, i really hope that your kidding, and you probably are b/c you always joke around with me, but if this is ture(which its not) you should tell your girlfriend b/c its not fair for her. hope i helped, much love-Linds

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hey lindsey!! ok...well i have this bf, who's a year younger than me, and i'm gonna be a freshman next year and so well be in different schools. we've been dating a lil over 6 months, and i just think we need some time apart. we fight everyday and i kinda sorta like someone else...i know that's horrible and wrong, but i dunno what to do...he's so immature and rude to people too...and i dunno i just sorta feel like i'm married.haha, it kinda sucks...but i'm afraid that if i do break up with him that i'm gonna miss him SOOO much, and it's so hard to picture him with someone else...and i love him soo much!! it's gonna be soo hard to let him go!! what do YOU think i should do?!?!

ok girl! Maybe you should take some time off, and see how it goes, it sounds like you really like him, but it also sounds like you dont like how he acts...if you take a break and see what your real feelings are then maybe you will know if you need to break up or not. Two different schools would be hard also b/c you arent seeing each other every day and the other person could be doing things that you dont know about such as flirting with other people...so i would just take the break and see how it goes, let me know how it turns out. much love, hope I helped-Linds :-)

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hi, i have a problem. i have a great bf. anways the problem is that me and my bf have been together for 7 months and i love him like crazy but one of his friends hates me cause of it.cause she likes him and always has but never had the guts to ask him out ,but then he met me and asked me out and she hates me. but i want to be her friend. i dont like having enemies.. but idkhow to get this girl to like me and to accept that me and my bf are together. another part of the problem is my bf is going to high school next year and im staying in junior high.. (8th) idk if we should break up or try to stay together. he says he never wants to break up and wont this coming up school year. but idk what to do. please help.... Genie

well genie.. I think that maybe he is a little to attached. Try to take some time off in the summer and see other people or just not be together as often, see how that works and if your ok with it then theres ur answer, but if not maybe yall are meant to be together next year. It's going to be hard but if you really love each other than you'll get through it. Good Luck, Hope I helped- Linds

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Lindsey,
Ok, i like this guy like a WHOLE lot, but its almost summer. I don't want him to feel tied down or anything if we dated durring the summer, but on the other hand if we didn't go out.. well, I don't want him to be with other girls! But, if we did go out over the summer, i dont want us to not see each other much, and have a crappy relationship! So here's my question, should I date him over the summer, or wait till school starts again to do anything??

ok girl, I think that if you talk to the guy about this and tell him how you feel. He might be feeling the same, and if you could talk about when you could see each other and stuff like that. In this situation there isn't much you can do, just be patient and if he really likes you something will happen either in the summer or at the beginning of school! Hope I helped.

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i like this one girl alot but she i dont think she likes me and she wanted to go out with me but i was left heartbroken. wat should i do

ok hun, I really think you should give this girl some time. Maybe she is just really confused right now, and just needs you to be a good friend to support her and for her to lean on. Try to think optimistically, it may work out for you in the end!love ya!hope I helped~ Linds

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Hey, I dont know what to do. My girlfriend is about to move to somewhere very far away,and i really love her more than anything, and i really mean that, its not just words. The problem is that another girl likes me, and i think that it would be an insult to her memory to date her after so soon losing my other girlfriend. What do you think?

First of all, I'm sooo sooo sorry that your gf is moving, and I have had experience with this b/c I had a bf when I moved here b/c we decided to try to keep the long distance relationship. It was so difficult, and if you love her you dont want her to have something else to go through, I think you should break up, but try to keep in touch and be really good long distance friends. She is going to have new friends, new people, new places, she would probably have a hard time dealing with not being with you, so if you break it off before she leaves, then it will be easier and you wont have to do it later when it would probably cause you more pain then it would have if you had done it before she left. And about this other girl that likes you, I think you should stay single over the summer and just hang out with your friends and maybe think about going out with girls in the next year. You probably need time to get over your gf leaving too, so give yourself some time. I hope I helped and I'm really sorry about your situation~Linds

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14/f/fl

k ick im in a yuk situation... k i like this guy but my friend(we arent like best friends but we are friends..)really likes him and yeah i dont know hes kind of like off limits to anyone else...says her... so i have NO clue what to do?! should i stop liking him or what?!
-casey-

I would try talking to the girl and tell her that you have feelings for this guy, and if you really like him it shouldnt matter if she likes him to, and its kinda about what the guy wants to. hope I helped~

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okay... Im like in love with this guy but hes 5 years older than me Ive told him I liked him but the problem is he has a girlfriend but hes told me hes liked me too and he always jokes around about how were goin to get married and stuff I really really like him and I really can see myself getting married to this kid I just dont know what to do I dont know if he really likes me or if he just joking sometimes when he says stuff I ask him if he really means it and he says yes and other times he says jj but deep down I really think he might like me I mean hes even told me he wants to kiss me please tell me what you think about this ... Thanks

Maybe you should talk to him about breaking up with his gf, if he cares for you like that. I dont think you should go out with him before he does cuz thats cheating and its not nice. So talk to him about your feelings, and if he really cares about you like you think he does then he wont have a problem talking to you about it! hope I helped~ Linds

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this girl that i like is really hott and she is going out with this popular guy who really likes this other girl because he is cheating on her. i want to tell her but the boyfriend is really big and he'll crush and i think she likes me because she always looks at me! plz help me!

sean

try asking one of your friends to talk to the girl, maybe if u dont talk to her, then her bf wont get mad at you. so ask one of your friends to talk to her about it for you, to see if shes interested in you. if she is maybe she will realize she needs to dumb the cheater shes going out with and talk to you! hope I helped~Linds

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ok.. this might be long... but i have this guy friend who i like a lot.. we BOTH flirt a lot but there is this other girl who has him "off limits" and everyone can tell that he doent like it but he doesnt wanna say anything.. and i cant talk to him about it and i cant get my frineds to either... and i think he knows that i like him because my best friend told him..(some bffl) and he can do WAY WAY WAY much better than the other girl, and he knows it too.. i am just so confused.. and i dont know what to do.. please help me!

talk to the girl, and tell her how she is acting, if that doesn't work then ask some of her friends if they like her acting like that and maybe they can talk to her for you! hope I helped~Linds

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my girlfriend thinks im not the same as when we first started going out, she say i ahve been acting differently....she eve ask if i want us to take a break...(i said no)because i love her and i want to be with her. Also she keeps acting like she wants to break up with me but i dont kno if she thinks that or not..... help plz


anonymous

yahhh umm well maybe she just thinks you have changed or something, idk, im not quite sure how to help, just give her some space and it will turn out for the best in the end! hope I helped~

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hey.. well.. i have a problem.. i like this one kid.. and something has happened bfore(nothing bad.. just kissing) but there is this other girl who has him liek wrapped around his finger.. and he could do soo much better than her..( im not saying with me or anything.. im just saying he can..) and liek we will go on and off.. like i always have liked him.. but im not sure about him.. like he flirts with a lot of girls too.. but ppl say he does it with me the most.. but its on and off is the thing.. like we will talk for hours.. and liek when the other girl who is around..t he girl who has him wrapped around his finer.. well we act different.. and i cant talk to him about it because we are good friends.. and the girl who has him wrapped is one of my friends too.. and this other guy who lieks me wouldnt be too happy bc we are frineds too.. i just dont know what to do.. and one of my bffls is a flirt too... and she knows that i like him.. but she still flirts with him too... and she says she donet like him.. so that bothers me... im just really confuised.. and i dontknow what to do.. please help me.

yah ok, your question was kinda confusing but I think i understand. try talkin to his friends and see what they think and find out who he talks about and stuff, b/c if he talks about you then thats good but if he doesnt then he might not be totally interested in you. also, dont jump into things b/c relationships can ruin friendships! hope I helped~ Linds

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Ok, well there are these two guys that I like. One of them I have known since kindergarten and we went to the same school and we liked each other there. Then I recently saw him at one of my athletic games and we got updated and stuff, and then when he left the game, my friend from my old school(the one that he still goes to now) said that he still likes me and I still like him. Then there is a guy that I like at school and I know him a little but not as much as I know the other guy I like. I like them both but I dont no what to do!!! My friend from my old school said that he really likes me a lot and wants to ask me out, but if he does then I won't see him a lot because he goes to a different school and everything... I'm not sure what i should do!!!!
~Lacy

ok Lacy, I think you should talk things out with the guy from your old school, and see if hes really interested and talk about if things would work out, if yall dont think they do, try getting to know the other kid better and then maybe something will happen from that.Good Luck~ hope I helped~Linds

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ok heres the thing.. i like these 2 guys.. one knows i like him.. and he lieks me too.. like we both like eachother a lot.. and the other guy doesnt know i like him.. but we both flirt.. but the tihng is is that the 2 guys are good friends..and no one knows i like the other guy bc i dont wanna hurt the other guy..and i just dont knwo what to do.. please help me!

The only thing I could tell you is that you should definetely talk to each of them privately and figure out your feelings, if you really love someone sometimes you have to take a risk, most of the time your probably going to hurt someone whether you know it or not, just be open and tell them how you feel~hope I helped~Linds

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I really like this guy let's call him Joe and 2 of my friends also like him and it gets crazier than that. The first time I saw Joe the room seemed to melt away, like him and I were the only ones in the room. Then it happened again a couple months later. I'm so confused because I just started liking him recently! What do you think is happening to me? And should I tell my friends? Thanks! I appreciate it!

Definetly talk to your friends about him, your sooo falling for him and he needs to know so talk to him too!!! It could be love at first site! Love does that to you, Good Luck!! hope I helped~ Lindsey

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Ok, here's the deal. I have HIGH morals, and one of them is that i dont want to kiss a guy untill i get married. Well. theres this guy that i really like and he likes me. and if we go out i know that he'll wanna kiss me and i've been thinkg about it and i wanna kiss him. what do i do?? I am afraid if i dont then i'll regret it. And i think i'll regret it if i don't.

What do I do ??

Ok hun I have morals too, one is not to have sex until marraige and I've made that promise, but kissing isn't a huge thing and it's not going to cause you any harm so I think that you should kiss him if you want to and your comfortable with it.hope I helped~Lindsey

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okay.. im like totally in love with this guy seriousally in love... but hes soo much older than I am... but hes all I think about, I really dont know what to do.. I think he knows that I like him and I kinda think he likes me too but Im not sure.. what do I do...?

I would definitely talk to someone about it, it kinda depends on how much older and how old you are because of certain reasons, but if you truly love him dont let anyone stop you. Be careful and safe in ur decisions! hope I helped~Lindsey

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