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Q: ok well here it is i hadd sex 4 the very first time lyk 2 days ago and it hurt reeli badd...and i feel reeli gross...cuz im 13 and the guy lyk forced mii into doin it...wut should i do cuz i feel reeli discusted with mah self!!...and another problem is i want to become belemic cuz im fat and i hate mahh body its reeli gross every guy i lyk thinks im a cow and i reeli wanna break down and cry!! i feel so0o gross with mahh self

Dear "I have problems,"

What do you mean when you say the guy you had sex with forced you into doing it. Did he pressure you and you agreed or he completely forced you to have sex after you said no or stop. If he did then he raped you. If that's the case you should tell your parents of police immediately. Rape is a very seriousl issue. Also, you should not resort to making yourself throw up to lose weight. You shouldn't hate yourself instead you should learn to accept your body. If you want to lose weight the healthy way you should workout and eat healty foods. You should cut out junk food and fattening foods. Drink plenty of water. No one should make you feel bad about who you are of what you look like.

Good Luck:)
**Latina Gurl**

Q: Ok well me and this guy have been best friends since the 6th grade… im in the 10th now… We used to be so close… Everything we did was with each other and talked about everything… Well one day I get a letter from him (we used t write each other like every class) saying I think Im starting to like u again… I was like woah what do u mean again and I was so confused… Well we talked and he asked me out and I said yes… But going out with him was like umm dating a brother… And I broke up with him… He was so heart broken… But after that it was never the same… We never ended up being the same and it got worse and worse… We practically only say hi and bye now… Bu one day I was going through his folder and I found my pictures in the back flap of his folder and a four page letter saying how hurt he was and everything was about me… But its one of those notes that ur pretty much writing to ur self… And I was reading it and I was crying… But the other day I saw a picture of him and it brought every feeling I have ever felt for him back.. And its like haunting me… Everything I do reminds me of him and like in 8th grade I did like him a lot but I never told him and all this stuff is bugging me so much… And I found out he had a girlfriend I was so freakin jealous!! What should I do?

Dear "Confused,"

You really have to talk to him. In person not over the phone. You should really tell him exactly how you feel. Tell him why you broke up with him in the first place. As for the note of his that you read you should tell him that you read it. Even if you think he'll get upset. Honesty is really the best way to go in this situation. Also, since you were jealous about him having a girlfriend then you probably really do like him. Tell him that too. Tell him that you would like to have your friendship back with him and maybe even go back out with him again.

Good Luck :)
**Latina Gurl**

Q: ive been datin this older guy for 2 1/2 weeks....
wen we first started datin i was so excited..i really liked him!!!!!!
now i found a toatally different deppresed side of him....its startin to piss me of bc he trys and gets people to feel bad for him......
now evrytime we meet its always one of his friends on one of my friends is wit us..(i dont like to be alone wit him)its usually his friend brian who comes wit us
...ive known brian a lot longer than my bf and ive always had a crush on him....now spendin more time wit brian i like him a lot...and i just found out that he likes me...
but my boyfriend is odd, even if i cheated on him he'd neva break up wit me.....
i dont want to break up wit him bc he's so awsome and he's like my BROTHER (another reason i dont want to date him)...

how do i get him to dump me and stay friends...and dont tell me to tell him how i feel.....(it doesnt work!)pleeeeezzzzz help me!!!!!!!!

Dear "How do I break up with him?"

I think the best thing to do is for you to break up with him. You don't have to necessarily have to tell him how you feel but you could give him a general view. Either way it's gonna hurt him. You should definately tell him that you think of him as a brother. That would help him understand why you want to break up with him. You definately shouldn't try to make him break up with you.

Good Luck :)
**Latina Gurl**

Q: ok.. Ive been going out with this guy for a while and i just talked to his best friend and told me hes been cheating on this other girl with me.. I have heard her name b4 from his brother and i asked his best friend if that was the name and he said yeah, i really dont wanna lose him, but the bad part about it is i lost my virginity to him and he said he lost it to me, well his best friend told me out of the blue that he wasnt a virgin.. I don't know what to do, i actually fell for him and i know he is going to give me an excuse or make up a lie when i go and try to break up with him !! I dont know what to do!!!I will rate 5's for the effort!!!

Dear Confused,

I'm sorry to hear that your boyfriend lied to you. I think the best thing for you to do is break up with your boyfriend. Even if he tries to make an excuse for what he did don't listen to him. There is no excuse for cheating on someon no matter what the circumstances are. On top of that he lied to you about being a virgin, and losing your virginity IS a big deal. To me it seems pretty obvious that he probably only went out with you to have sex with you.

Good Luck :)
**Latina Gurl**

Q: Hey im Nikki and i broke up with my b/f about 3 months ago (this was an 7 month relationship) And i love him more then anything, idk if he loves me at all and he asks if i would want to go back out with him and idk how he feels buthwe acts like a complete jerk to me and jokes around like he isnt joking but then he says he is and makes me cry (boo hoo) so whats your advice..?

Dear Nikki,
I'm sorry to hear that your ex-boyfriend that you love makes you cry. Although you love him you have to ask yourself... is he worth getting hurt over? If he jokes around and makes you cry, and he acts like a jerk then i would say no. Even though he asked you if you would go back out with him you should move on a find someone that makes you happy instead.
Good Luck :)
**LatinaGurl**