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Q: Ok so here is what is going on I like this guy and well idk if he likes me back. Last week he walked me to class and we talked after school. But then Monday he was all plain again. Also he is flirits slot with all the girls. I have been friends with him since last year an I liked him last year too. But e liked one of my friends. What can I do to make him like me I want to stand out cuz I know that a lot of girls like him. This happens he flirits with me for like 2 days then it all goes back up to normal what is going on???? Pls help!

It sounds like he's a player. Or he could just be being nice/friendly. If he flirts alot with all the girls then he sounds like a player.
The best advice we could give you is to just forget about him. I know it'll be hard but you should get over him.

If he does come up to you and ask you out or whatever, you can accept and see how it goes but if I was you I wouldn't accept, because he'll probably only end up breaking your heart,

Good luck
:)

Q: 15/f
I just broke up with my boyfriend of 5 months. we've always been very on and off, but i think this is the end for real. Hes kinda a jerk and i need help telling myself im over him. I need some songs that will help me to remember why i dont want him.
I would prefer if they were indie/altenative/hard rock. and male singers would be cool. Sad somgs make me think of him so i need something slightly aggressive/angry. One i've been listening to is 'better off' by T.O.A.D.
Thanks a bunch guys
XXXOOO,
Lonley_girl

I'm not really into indie, alternative or rock songs but here are some good rock sort of bands that I like. And that I think have good break up songs.

My Chemical Romance
Paramore
Wolf mother
Green day
Nickel back
Jet
Pink

If you decide to give sad songs a go, try some secondhand serenade, mario and claude kelly. they're my faves.

Hope I helped

Q: So I was watching that movie today ^ And Joel made the best point ever that I've been trying to put into words for myself for the longest time. He was writing in his journal and asked himself "Why is it that I fall in love with every girl that shows me the slightest bit of attention?" This statement is true for me as well, -except for me, its boys, but you get the idea. So I've been wondering the same thing,but when it comes down to it I just honestly don't know. So I'm kind of hoping you guys know the answer? I'm stumped, but it happens to me often. Does anyone know why? Or is this just the poetic version of a pathetic question hopeless romantics ask themselves everyday? How do I change? Ah.. thanks.

I do the exact same thing as you.
And the reason that I think I do it is because, there aren't that many guys that pay attention to me, so when 1 random guy pays attention to me then I emdidiately think I've fallen for him.

But you have to ask yourself, do I really like the guy, or is it just because of the attention he's giving me?
Most of the time it'll turn out to be just because of the attention, so you just have to forget about it and move on.

Good luck

Q: There is this kid,who isn't hot at all..he's rather ugly but I seem to actually like him for who he is,not his looks.He's more on the un popular side,unlike me who is more popular at our school so i'd thought he'd easily be interested in me.At first,he seemed very interested in me,but he seemed like he liked all these girls and acted like he has a chance with all of them and would contstantly talk to them! so it made me have second thoughts,but he told me I'm on of the only people he likes..since he seems to "dislike" lots of people.We had like a week break where we didn't talk at all,and now he started talking to me again.We talked on IM for literally 3-4 hours until 1 am on a school night,so i figured he wouldn't stay up talking to me for that long if he didn't like me.But in the convo,we both talked about how we don't have bfs/gfs and how everyone else does and how we can be "alone" together,then he said that "if he gets a girlfriend,then i'm gonna be alone by myself" which kind of made me think he wouldn't like me and at first he told my friend that im "growing on him " and that he kinda liked me,then he told her a week later that he liked me a lot as a friend.I don't know if he keeps going back and forth with his feelings or what,or maybe he doesn't know I like him..even though we kissed one time.I don't know if he thinks he has a chance with me since i'm not in his "league" but i really do like him.
help!?

It sounds to me like the guy likes you but might be confused about his feelings.
Maybe he's just shy and is waiting for you to make the first move.
Either way you're not going to know how he feels unless you ask him.

Good luck

Q: I like this girl that goes to my sckool and stuff we have alot of classes together we talk and stuff and she invites me to go places with her friends but i always say no because im scared to go somewere with her friends and i want to know if i should go with her or what should i just ask her out pls help me

I think you should try and get to know her friends a bit first,
because if you start going out with her then she might ask you to go out with her friends and if you say no,
then she might think you don't like her friends and it might get a bit weird. Or she might feel like she has to choose between her boyfriend and her friends.
Just try and get to know her friends a little bit and if you feel scared invite one of your mates to come along with you.

I think you should go out with her and her friends a couple of times and then when the moment seems right, just do it. Ask her out. If she says no, then you can still be friends and maybe ask her out another time.

Good luck

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Hey it's Kat and Jess.
Ask us anything, we're happy to help.
We're both 15, and even though we're young, we give pretty good advice and have experience in alot of these subjects.
Just give us a try and I'm sure you'll be pleased.

Thanks
Byee
-Kat&Jess