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Q: hey yall...this question is pretty blunt, but im in need of it. What are some good flirting tips or a great way to get guys to notice you. ima nice girl, not ugly, but sumtimes it seems the guys always go for the bad girls. sluts...yeah but anyway it seems like all the guys id consider liking, i dont kno how to talk to them or let them kno i like them. any tips?

-thanks guys!

BE ABSOLUTELY 1005 NOTHING OTHER THAN YOURSELF! If there is one thing guys hate, it's fake girls! Also don't wear too much makeup. Try too be a little more social, but not too social.. it can get annoying. that probably isnt what you wanted to hear, but its the truth! i hope i helped!
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Q: My boyfriends gone away to camp for 2 weeks. He just left n its been really hard on me. Ive been really sad without him here. I must have cried atleast 3 times today. What should I do. My friends are all workin so its kinda hard to go out with them

whoah okay thats sortof strange that you cant go two weeks without your boyfriend... theres no need to cry - he'll come back! but hey, if you really do want to talk to him, try calling his mom or dad and ask them if theres an address you can write to or send him emails while hes at camp. most camps let you do that. well i wish you the best of luck with your boyfriend! i hope my advice helped at least a little!

Q: ok so I've liked this guy "cody" since september 2004 (its april 05 now) and it seemed as though he liked me a while back too. he would always talk to me. we'd hang out at school. talk on msn and he would basically just tell me everything about himself and ya, you get my point. in november a lot of people new I liked him however he didnt know who I liked so he bugged me about it on msn and I folded and told him I liked him. of course he liked "bethany" at the time so nothing happened (plus he was supposed to have asked her out but that never happened either) So when he stopped liking bethany things were still the same between us however slowly when february came we started drifting further apart and basically its gotten to the point where the only thing we do is make smart comments to each other. I really dont know what has happened but I still like him and my friends think he may like me a bit but I find that hard to believe cause he's more mean to me than he is nice. I'm wondering whether I should move on and forget about him. or re-tell him that I like him and see what happens. please help. anything you can tell me would be great. thanks!

hey! im sorry to hear youre having problems! well, if hes being mean to you, i dont see why you like him, but obviously you do, so thats not for me to judge. i think you should just try to talk to him: ask him why hes mean to you! i know that sounds really hard, but i once did something similar, and now me & the guy are friends again. listen, if you want him to be nice to you, just talk to him and give it some time. i hope i helped!!!
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Q: I have been going out with my boyfriend for a long time now. I love him so much and he asked me to marry him. I told him yes of course because I have never felt this way about anyone and he is flawless. But the thing is, I am only 16 years old. And latley, aka as of two days ago, I have been having doubts and it doesnt feel the same. Nothing happened between us, it just feels different. I want to love this guy again, because the love I had for him was perfect. I dont want to lose him for feeling this. What can I do to 'rekindle' the flame again?

Well, first of all, you shouldn't be getting married at the age of 16! if he erally loves you, he will be able to wait until you are out of collage. You see, if you get married now, you will probably not be financially stable for at least 10 years! and especially since you are having doubts about him... for the second part of your question, thinkabout this. In your life, things have probably gone wrong. Was your boyfriend there to help? did he make you feel like you were the most beautiful girl in the world? if not hes probably not the guy for you, but if he really loves you he'll really show you, so you should continue to love him. i hope i helped!
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Q: Ok see i like there two boyz and one opf them is my ex bf and the other is my best friend's ex bf but the 2 guys i like r friends and im not sure which 1 i like better? help plz!

well, since i dont know you, i also dont know the guys, but heres what you should do. a lot of times this can be really hard, but you have to be patient! Wait until you are absolutly POSITIVE you know which one you like more! and who knows, maybe neither of them will be the one for you! just play it out and follow your heart. i hope i helped!
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Q: ok... i realllllllllyy like this guy and he is in 7th grade and im in 8th and i heard that he likes another girl but if he gets to know me better then he would give it a chance...but i dont know!!

hey! ok, what you should do is this: start by just talking to him as a good friend. when you get to know him a little better, you can call him or ask him to hang out with you and your friends. if he starts to show any signs of affection, just tell him how you feel! i know that may sond like it would take a long time, but if you really like him, you should be willing to wait! i really hope i helped!
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Q: Ok...I've never met this kid in person but I talk to him online all the time. He's lets call him J's friend, and lets call him B. Well J told me that B likes me...I want to know if it's possible to like someone that you never met in person? I think I like him.

well before you answer, i think you should tell J that youd like to meet B. Trust me, I;ve gone out with i guy i hadnt met before and it sure didnt turn out pretty...! i hope i helped!
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Hey!! My name is Holly Lynne Brackin. I've gone through a ton of stuff in my life, and I'm still learning, but I think you can trust me! I love helping people out and I really put thought into my answers.