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Q: my girlfriend loves me but i feel like she's ignoring me so what should i do it would be great..

~~$brandon$~~

dont worry so uch... that says it all.

Q: my girlfriend loves me but i feel like she's ignoring me & she's beautiful but i can't tell her that in person its imberising what should i do

~~$brandon$~~

Well brandon. Have you guys talked? If you havn't then thats probably why.

Q: hey thanks for the previous help but like i dno maybe you could help me even mroe with some more info?

basically the girl has a bf and she hates me. she thinks that i am trying to steel her away from her even though i really am not, at least i dont think i am. our trust has been built on me helping her with stuff with her gf and stuff and i just feel like if i were to tell her anything then she would feel like i just "pretended" to be strait even tho i am not (or maybe i am? i jsut dont know) but i just cant figure out how to handle this.

thanks for listening to me ramble :)

Hmm... wow. Well you shouldn't really think of the negative... you should think of the positive! :) and did you tell your parents about this?

Q: 16/f

i have no clue at all what i am fealing lately. i have always noticed another girl to be cute or attractive and i have thought about girls in sexual ways but i always thought it was a phase. i started becoming attracted to guys but there was always part of me saying this is how it has to be boy/girl. i have recently made a friend and she is gay and i have been he;lping her with many issues in her life including issues about being gay and i now am fealng attracted to her on a higher level as well as many other girls. i feel like i shoud tell ehr this but i am afraid that she will think i was usuing her in a way to just get close to her, because all along i have been her straight, understanding friend

i dont know what i should do i feel like i am gay but i am jsut not sure

it has happend to many people before its probably just a phase

Q: SORRY ITS LONG!

Well first off I think I should start off with telling you that most guys around here are complete sleez balls. You know most of them want sex and all of that stuff so it takes a strong girl (like me) to not let them get in my pants. Now to the question.

Well the other day I was at this guys house who i`ve been trying to hang out with for a long time and he had been trying to hang out with me to. We were laying down watching t.v and we were looking at eachother talking when HE leaned in to kiss ME. so ofcoarse i kissed him. Then for the rest of the movie he had his arm around me and i had my head on his chest.

my question is.

How do i know if he likes me
or just wants to get some?

And if he does like me
I dont want to ask him out
so how do i get him to ask ME out?

I`ll RATE HIGH!

ok... you seem like you're really in need so i'll help you out! :) see...there are three signs of a guy liking you... he already did the first two so you prolly already no that hes definetly gonna ask you out. So you prolly need to give him some time and you should prolly say to yourself: "wht if he is thinking the same thing?" so let him no that you like him and the sooner the better!:)

LOTS OF LOVE!

Q: What are some things that all guys look for in girls? Like, that ALL guys look for. Um, i am looking for a couple things, not just one thing.

Thank youuu :]

Well, well, well, i say that guys look for sweetness, Hottness, and some want a girl to be very smart.

Q: I'm trying to make amends with my best guy friend. We could talk about ANYTHING and we used to hang out. I miss that so now I'm talking to him a lot more to get closer to him again. I've noticed this though.. Right before he goes to bed, I say "I wuv/love you" He really does mean a lot to me.

I have a boyfriend who tells me he loves me. But honestly, i don't love him. I take LOVE seriously. It's only been 3 months.. I've talked to him about this and I'll tell him when the feelings right ..when I'm ready. But this is my question: is telling some other guy that I "love" him.. bad?

My best guy friend.. we had a past together and we dated for over 13 months. My boyfriend knows about that.

Is this cheating of some sort? I'm so confused as to what it is..

No. its not bad cuz ahbviousley you dont mean that you love him and it like your mom saying that she loves uh... tim dunkan. she doesnt mean it.if you did like him then it is bad.

Q: ok so there is this guy i've liked for 2 years but he doesn't like me back (he DID but i blew him of) , and there is no way he'll ever like me again. how do i get over him??? cause i'm really in love with him and it hurts so badly.

heyy! usually you get over a guy by finding a new one, but if you really like this guy then MAKE him like you again. Find out wht made him like you and be wht he liked! if that doesnt work, then find a new guy, one thats cuter and nicer i garuntee that will work.

Q: so i am extremly in love with this guy who likes me back , but the problem is that his best friend also loves me. (he's like obsessed with me..seriously) so the guy i like ,letz just call him J never told his best friend , letz call him B that he likes me back because he knows B likes me. but J always chats with me and i'm like rly good friends with him , but i never rly talk 2 B. so B is kinda jealous at J and asked him 2 keep more distance. because J is like a real goodie goodie he doesn't talk 2 me anymore just because B asked him 2 EVEN THOUGH HE LIKES ME!!! so i am rly pissed at B coz he doesn't make a move anyway and because of him J doesn't talk to me anymore!!
what am i gonna doooo?????

ok so tell B how u feel and tell J too if it gets them both mad at u then you no that they rnt the right guys 4 u. :)

Q: I had a really bad reputation at school, until 8th grade, when I got "pretty".
During this year, I liked this popular guy, and he liked me back.
But, he was too ashamed to admit it. I'm letting him slide for this one, because in all truth, if the weirdest kid in school liked me as well, then I probably wouldn't put that out in the forefront.
He also made a lot of excuses. He went out with this blond, model type girl, that he absolutely HATED, because she was obsessed with him. And, when I asked him straight up if he liked me, he'd go "I don't want a girlfriend, because you have to buy them things".

Stupid crap like that.

Now, this year, things are different. I'm well-liked by most people (except his friends, who despise me.)

Earlier this year, he would try and talk to me, and become friends with me again.

Now, he doesn't really try. He just stares at me, and when I look back, he has this really hard look on his face.

I'm pretty sure he regrets his decision, but why won't he just say so?

I don't know why I still like him, after all he's done to me, but I do.

I just want him to talk to me. To say sorry. To tell me what's going on. This "issue" has been going on for two years now, and it's about to go into three if I don't do something soon.

Last two weeks of school.

Guys, what's his problem? What should I do, or say?

listen, almost all guys are like that. I would usually do the sme thing that he did to you bac, but indtead i would probably just take an easier route like making him jealous with another guy, but not just any guy, someone that almost all girls like, but if that only makes it worse, then brake up with the guy and tell the other what is really going on and tell him that u broke up with him because you really only wanted the one that you like.(do this only if the jealousey thing doesn't work out.) :)