im an 18 guy that has grown up with the most profound respect for women that a man could ever have. i see myself as part of a dying breed of men with chivalry. the only people that i have ever hated are those who treat women like crap. for this, most women find me to be very pleasant to be around. this has led to a lack of relationships in my life, because i dont think i could live with breaking a girls heart. so i started going out with my very first girlfriend a month and a half before i turned 18, and had my first kiss a month before. im still with her and i love her more than anything in the world.
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Alright, so there's this guy in my class, that I really really like. I've liked him for a while now, but I've always been too afraid to say anything to him.
The other day in class, kids from other classes were passing around questionaires for data and whatnot. Well, one of them was about sexuality. My friend had told me that she figured he was gay, because, he's got great style, he's got a gentle voice, he's an amazing artist, (I know, I'm stereo typing), and he's just interesting and whatnot. So, I was watching him as he filled the survey out, because I was kinda curious. The first part of the survey was like this:
"What's your sexuality?"
a)Straight
b)Homosexual
c)Bisexual
If you answered a, then continue on to questions 2-10. If you answered b or c, then continue on to 11-16.
11 and 16 were on the back, and he filled it out on the back. I have no problem with him being gay, but it's just that I always seem to fall for gay boys, and it feels like I'll never find a cool, straight, guy.
I personally wouldn't want to date someone who's bisexual, not because I have anything against bisexuals (a couple of my close friends are) but it would be weird dating one, because it's bad enough thinking that a guys comparing you to other girls, but to other guys? That would just be uncomfortable.
Am I being stupid? Should I just forget about him? I really would just like being friends with him, but it's impossible to talk to him because he's so shy. Please help.
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fliping the page over doesnt automatically make him gay or bisexual. i would have fliped it over just to see what type of questions they were asking. guys never take surveys seriously. they give joke answers and mess with the people taking them.
there is nothing to loose by asking him out even if you think there is a possibility that he is gay (and also nothing wrong with a girl asking out a guy) just go for it. if he is gay, the worst that could happen is he tells you so, no harm done.
you shouldnt be uncomfortable about him being bisexual. it just means that he is open to love in no matter waht vessel it takes.
if you want any tips on asking him out through nerves or shyness, go ahead and ask
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okay so I've been dating this guy for like well 2 weeks and i care for him with all my heart! and i think it might even b love! and i kno that he feels the same way i mean he tells me everyday how much he cares for me and stuff so im hoping he means it! well today my best friend just told me a bunch of stuff that i think is totally wrong about my bf like that he does drugs! and that he still is in love with his X! and ive talked to him about all this b4 and he told me that he would never do drugs and he loves me more that n e one! but then again most guys would say that right? so please help me! i dont know who to beleive (link)
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contrary to popular opinion, not all guys are out to just have sex with girls. some of them actually do mean it when they say that they care for someone. ok, the advice: gossip is a terrible terrible thing. watch out for it. do not trust what your friend says for face value, but do consider it. she could be bad mouthing your bf out of jealousy of relationship, or time taken away from the 2 of you; or she could be telling you what she heard that might not be true; or it could be true. just take what she says as a heads up. if he shows any signs of doing drugs, or being more than friends with his ex, then consider what to do from there. but for now, just keep your eyes open
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I have a guy friend that I really like, but he's shy and I kind of want to leave hits that I like him. Does anuone have any tips for flirting, but not coming on too strong? I don't want to freak him out or anything... Thanks! (link)
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something as simple as smiling at him can work wonders. the stare and look away when he looks thing is good too. after you know he at least knows you exist, (which by the way he probibly already does, but when YOU think he does its time for this step) ask for his AIM screen name. (if you dont have one, get one, shy guys will be infinately more open when they are typing and dont risk sounding like an idiot). if he gives it to you good. he will be shy and probibly avoid you for most of the -whatever reason you are in the same area- you will know with out a doubt that he likes you if, just before you have to leave, he asks you for your screen name. (but if he doesn't dont be discouraged, its hard to talk to girls). next time you see him online, talk to him, you would be amazed at how quickly AIM can break the ice even with the most girl-shy individuals.
f.y.i., i know from experience that this works. i was the shy one, and thats how my girlfriend got to me :)
ummm... if he doesnt have AIM, i dont know what to tell you....
good luck
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ok..
my boyfriend is like failing our grade and he cares but he just doesnt think he can do any better he always tells me he dont know how to study like his mind drifts and he said if he fails then he wants to just move to a differnt school...which would kill me!! because we wouldnt see eachother at all..so can anybody give me advice on what to do and help him pass some subjects (enough to pass)! please help! ill rate high! (link)
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time for some tough love. set up a deal where you study together for at least an hour (or set your own time) before you do anything (making out, cuddling, whatever you normally do). then study with him. its ok, to sit close to him, let him put his hand on your leg, kiss him(just peck kissing) a little bit, as long as he is actually studying. after the hour, if he hasnt been studying enough, be hard on him, keep to your word and leave (or tell him to leave). even if you do want to stay, if you love him, you will do what is best for him. and if you do end up leaving, next time he will believe you and study.
few extra details: make sure you keep enough time to spend with him without studying; just having fun.
dont make the study time too long to bear, i suggest at the max 2 hours at a time.
his actually learning something will put both him and you in a good mood, you will probibly enjoy the time you spend afterwards more than you normally would.
good luck
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I'm 14 and I've never made out with a guy, but I think something might happen with this kid this weekend. I don't really know what I'm doing so does anyone have advice? Is it weird that I've never made out with anyone? (link)
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first the age thing, no not at all. i didnt kiss anyone until a month before my 18 birthday, and im a guy, that is lame. you are just innocent, thats good, and i guarentee you that the guy likes that.
ok, the kiss. i recommend as little as possible. start with closed mouth and hold it for a while, remember to take your time. breath in deeply then relax your lips. open your lips, but not wide at all, very slightly, and close them again and pull back. then just stare into his eyes and think about how much you like him.
that should be enough for the first time. dont use your tounge, dont open your mouth wide, dont press very hard. all of that will come later, and very naturally, when you learn to feel eachother out. you will be surprised. in the future it will almost feel like you can read eachother and know exactly when its time to add more to it.
one last note: do NOT do ANYTHING because you think he wants you too. only do what YOU want to. if he likes you, he can wait. if he cant wait, hes not right for you.
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ok i like this guy and we flirt a lot! he has a gf though. i think i've caught him staring at me and he always is sweet and nice. he is not the most popular boy in the class, but he is also the most sweetest boy. when we flirt people always point out to us that we are flirting and we both say" no we arn't" he is one of my friends too. my friend told him" dont cheat on prism(his gf) when we were talking and flirting. and he said " i wont" what does this mean? i mean i like him an lot, i had a dream that we kissed.
what does this mean?does he like me??
*confused grl* (link)
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i see this situation every day *coughDaneTrisaLizette* im just gonna use these names (your Lizette) Dane is a fun guy to hang around, but really he is scum as a boyfriend. Trisa is devoted to him and loves him with all his heart, watch out for when she notices him and you flirting. she will get her army of devoted friends to make your life hell. but anyway, on to the situation. yes he likes you, but watch out, he is very suseptible to finding someone new and doing the same thing to you. my advice: take my girlfriends paperclip advice, but really learn to kill him at least 3 different ways with it. stay friends, but watch the intesity of the flirting (to avoid the whole life of hell thing) and DO NOT go out with him.
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what if I know this person and she was going to cheat on this guy and I was her bff and i ilked this guy but she just got asked to be his gf and I dont know what to do because she is going to play this guy and I want to tell him because he will be really sad, what should I do ??? I dont want it to ruin a long frendship
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ok, sounds like you do need to tell this guy, but dont tell him to his face. even if you tell him not to tell your friend, he will tell someone who will tell someone else, and eventually she will find out you ruined it for her and that will cause all kinds of crap. leave him an anonymous note somewhere.
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Okay me and this guy have been "together" for about 8 months now...well were not technically going out but were kinda friends with benefits i guess...he said that he wants to not have a commitment bc he is going through alot right now but he doesn't want either of us to hook up with anybody else...just eachother...so should i take that as were going out or as were just friends with benefits? and also should i say we can hook up with other people or no? thanx ill rate a 5 to nebody who answers (link)
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go ahead and consider yourself as boyfriend and girlfriend. thats what two people that are "together" without hooking up with anyone else are. he probibly just has some aversion to the terminology. its just like people who wont say "i love you" even though they do, they think its something really special and it will take time for him. so, in your own head, yes you are boyfriend and girlfriend. just dont use those words because it makes him feel uncomfortable. hope i helped, just sounded like you needed a guys opinion.
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