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Hi i'm Jessica and i'm 16. The love of my life is Nick and he's 17. We've been together for a year and some months. I love shopping @ abercrombie,hollister,ae,victoria secret,pacsun, the buckle,vanity and more. I love people asking me questions! So you can ask anything. Me and nick have had sex before so i'd love to help anybody with questions like that. I may be going to california my senior year so that should be fun!

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Hmmm well maybe in the middle of a conversation you could just be like I think we should hang out sometime if you dont have anything to do. Thats the best thing i know haha
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Okay, I have a problem. I started liking one of my guy friends, but we had never met in person even though he lives in the same town as me. Well I told him how I felt, and he told me he felt the same way. Well a couple weeks go by, and him and my best friend start to date and eventually go out (they knew each other before I knew him). Now everytime I see him and talk to him in person it is so akward, because I kind of have feelings for him still. Sometimes it seems like he has some feelings for me too, like when we talk and stuff (We actually hang out now) and I just need to know how I can find out if he likes me? Like some signs. Thanks alot =c]

I wouldnt go by signs to tell you if he likes you because those most of the time screw you over...i have been there =P. You know honestly the only way to know is to ask him straight out i mean how else are you going to know? I know its really hard to do but if you do it then you'll end your curiousity of wow does he like me or not? what does this mean? I'm sure you dont want to do that forever!! So i hope you do it=]
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Okay so I've had my boyfriend for almost two months now, and I see him every day in school, but we've only hung out out of school a few times. It's always been at the movies and I just get bored of that because all movies are good for are making out. Any ideas of what we can do together over the summer besides going to the movies or eachothers houses? Thanks Mucho

OH lets see so many odd things you coulf digure out haha! You could always go out and watch the stars. Here we have the country so we go out there and watch the stars and talk its soo romantic! You could always at night or day w.e i like night haha but you could buy fast food or any food and just go to the park thats like really special you get really connected! You could always have a nice night out going out to eat at a nice restuarnt but its hard when you have no money...me and my bf were experiencing that haha but now we both have jobs! woohoo! You could always go tping somebody's house together too haha! Idk i'm having a hard time thinking here...but just try to be creative with normal things that are around!=]

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hello there. my name is Nina and im 14 ive been with my boyfriend for over 16 months, and that is the deepest relationship ive ever had. well, all last summer we started getting sexually active (not actual sex tho) and then, at the end of the summer we began saying i love you .. well he thought that starting h//s wud tear us apart cus he kept thinking i would fall for an older guy who , hypothetically speaking, wud like me. well there were many guys who started liking me, and no matter how "popular" or hot they were , i kept my boyfriend. i never really cared about their comments, i mean yea i was flattered, but i let it go so my boyfriend wudnt get mad. so then we started having problems. serious problems. liek i was sick of doing all teh things we did, and my parents stopped trusting him .. things were pretty bad for a while, but we overcame it. but see wen you put in so much effort into a relationship it drains you, and things arent the same nemore, the magic is lost. well , lately ive been talking to this guy, who my best freind knows and almost went out with. hes just the kind of guy who makes you want to be with him, and i kno that may sound stupid, but liek, i want to be with him. i want to try new things and be with more than one person. the reason i wouldn't be able to is mainly b/c ive promised so many things to my boyfriend , and also because i dont want mark (the other boy) to think im like easy or anything. its really hard, and until now ive been talking to my best freind about it, but i dont get into detail telling her how much i want to be with him. its too hard to keep it in and i guess this is a good source for help. so thank you. *NiiNA

Yeah well ya know your young girl! I mean you need to go explore ya know if you think that magic is lost you cant be with him who knows you may come to find out that maybe you two should really be together ya know? I say go for it i mean you dont want to be in a relationship where your not exactly wanting to follow through with it anymore=] It may hurt his feelings but you dont want it to get worse anyway ya know? and i definitly know what you mean about it drains you with using so much effort=]

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Hey !! 1st off love your advice ! 2nd heres my question! Im 15 and have had a crush on this one guy for over 4 years now (on and off) Ive had boyfriends during this time period but for some reason I keep going back to liking him. We've never been extremely close but we are friends. He's extremely cute, good personality and plus he's my nationality and thats a plus in his and my family. We go to church together and everything. but for some reason he will never talk to me online, wby is that? He was at my friends Swt 16 and we danced and I actually thought he'd ask me out but soon I found out he wouldn't date me because im quote "beautiful and too perfect" and he wouldnt want to just use me for sex because im more then that and im one of his friends. Im flattered but in the pit of my stomach I cant stop thinking about him, should I go on liking him or just move on and maybe one day he'll realize what he has lost? Please help me, thanks so much ! xO

thanks so much!! Ya know i keep saying this over and over again haha. but you really need to ask him whats going on. I mean you dont really know whats going on. If it turns out he doesnt have those type of feelings for you arent the same way you feel then of course you can move on! But i bet he'd really like it if you talked to him about it and i'm sure you'd liek it too because then you'll know everything. let me know how it goes!

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okay. my name is cheryl & 14. so back in january, i liked this guy. we were friends, and hung out and stuff. at our winter formal, he really hurt my feelings, and i left the dance crying. but during our winter break in february, we hung out nearly everyday and stuff. one night at the movies, he was really close to me and holding my hand and everything, and i liked it. then at my friend's party, we were really close on the couch and stuff. but then he started going out with one of my friends for about a week. i thought i got over him, but i didn't. they broke up, and then i heard rumors from his best friend that he was considering asking me out. now me, being daring, in april, i was at the movies with my 2 best friends, and my friend called him up and said i wanted to ask him out (because i did). he said if we hung out that day, he would say yes. so we did hang out, and he said yes. so we went out for about 2 weeks, and it went alright. we talked sometimes, but not a lot. so then, at our spring dance about a month ago, he broke up with me. it was devastating for me, and i spent half the dance crying. he told me that my best friend completely drove him off the edge. i agree with that because she was really bitchy and stuff to him, and forcing him to do stuff with me. so i cried. a lot. then when i got home from the dance, he said he was sorry, and i was such a bitch to him and felt bad. so for about 2 weeks, we didn't really talk. then on may 18th, he asked me back out. he told me that when he broke up with me, he didn't want to do it. so i said yes, because i still liked him. since then, things have been pretty good. on our "senior trip" (im in 8th grade), we had a good time.. we hugged a lot at the dance. but on the 2nd day he was being a complete dick to me. especially on the train home. he would not talk to me at all, and ignored me when i said i wanted to talk. i wanted to tell him he treated me like shit and everything. but i didn't get to. because he ignored me. so 2 days later, i had a barbeque, and he came around 8 and left around 10. at 10:10, me and him talked on the phone, and i told him how i felt. the call ended bad, but i felt good. things have gotten a bit better. we talk alot and stuff. but i still feel like he's being an asshole to me. like, in the hallways at school he avoids me, and in the classes we have together. i'll come up and he'll give me a hug, but i still feel weird. and online, he always goes 'i love you', but i'm not sure whether he's being fake or not. do i need to talk to him or something? help? =)

Ohh definitly talk to him girl! I mean look at whats all happening and neither of you know what in the world is going on. i mean you never know he may be thinking some things that you wouldnt know of. I'm trying to get one of my friends to talk to her bf right now actually i mean...there was soo much mis comunication going on! but definitly do that ask him whats going on with him and tell him again what your feeling=]

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heyyy .. so i`ve been going out with my boyfriend for almost four months now .. and he`s always talking to me about his best friend .. who`s a girl .. and today i saw them holding hands (just jokingly) .. but still .. it hurts my feelings so bad when he does stuff like that, and i love him so much .. what do i do? ..
thankks
sam

Oh what in the world? Okay for me thats crossing the lines there! You need to tell him whats going on i mean he doesnt know that you are uncomfortable with this and dont like it. If i were you i'd just tell him straight up i dont like you and your best friend doing that stuff. and i'd ask him if he has feelings for her cuz this is going on with one of my bff's and i think its mean and you jsut dont go doing that and plus his best friend should know that he has a gf and she shouldnt be doing that. But tell him girl cuz you dont want it to be too late!
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Hey, okay so heres my story.
i liked this kid for 2 years now and last saturday me and my friend went to his friend and he had one of his friends over. so we all deicided to get drunk.. so turns out we went a lil far and i ended up giving him head which i said i wouldnt do unless i was going out with the kid. Now his best friend told me he likes his EX again and she likes him back and they will most likely go back out so i dont know what to do?

Unfortunatley you cant help other peoples feelings ya know? You cant really stop them from going out i guess. But maybe you should ask around to see if he likes you or even ask him whats going on between you too because thats unfair of him to just leave you hanging like that. But you really need to find out=]
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okay so ive been totally crushin on this guy for the last month, but i havent really talked to him! and tomrrows the last day of school, how should i show him that i totally like him and want to hang out over the summer without being wayy too obvious?? and i feel like if i cant show him how much i like him, cause i truly think that we are soul mates and are perfect for eachother, that over the summer he mite get a girlfreind and leave me heartbroken

You could always straight up tell him! but i know thats really hard to do. You could always write a cute note ya know? or email him=] but i definitly think that you need to let him know because you dont want to regret anything! So take charge girl! haha!
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i want to have sex with my boyfriend that i definitly love with all of my heart , im only 14 and i know it sounds HORRIBLE but i feel its right, the only thing is i am deathly afraid of getting pregnet , and yes i know there are condom's but what if it breaks or i somehow get pregnet? please help =(

oh dont worry there is no wrong time to feel that your ready when your ready your ready ya know? ya know i cant tell you to not get pregnant =P. Because i mean their are the consequences that it may break. i am on birth control pills and i also use condoms i really think that you should think about using birth control pills too. you could always tell your mom that you need it for your periods (because i do but i also need it for well birth control =P)

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Okay so I've been going out with this boy for almost two months, and we were really close friends before that too. And even like a week after we were going out, he started saying "I love you" to me and I don't want to say it back if i dont mean it. How do I get him to stop saying it without seeming like a bitch? Also, how do you know when the right time is to start saying it, like how long would you wait?

Honestly you should really just talk to him and be like hey i really like you but i think its too soon in the relationship to say i love you. You must talk in relationships=] There is no period of time when to say it its just when you basically have that emotion for him. You'll know when you do too=]

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okay well i met this extremly cute guy during swimming and during the season i talked to him and we were just friends, and once the season was over i started to like him, but now all of a sudden whenever i see him i loose my mind, like i cant think straight and when i accually talk to him i never know what too say and my heart beats real fast, like im going crazy, what should i do??

hey girl! no your not crazy! you obviously have a huge crush on this guy! i think that you should possibly get together with this guy and maybe tell him because we both dont want you to always be a nervous wreck around this guy everytime ya see him ya know? Because otherwise he may get mixed signals. hey you never know maybe he likes you back! but i really do suggest just having a time to talk to him and tell him about your feelings. i know its hard but take it into consideration=]
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Hi. Okay im 14 years old and i feel liek ive mad bad choices in the past. see ive had sex 5 times before and i kinda wish i wouldve waited until i met the right guy. i lost my virginity to a guy i hardly knew, and i will admitt that i let him pressure me into it. but after that i had a long relationship with another guy and we ended up having sex too. well, im in a new relationship and this is a new year, and i really want to hold off on having sex with him because i really care about my boyfriend and i want things to last this time and i kinda want to take things slow. ive tried asking a ton of people what to do and all they say is oh well what does it matter you know your just going to do the same thing again. they just dont understand. and i want to tell my boyfriend that i dont want to have sex with him until way later because i want it when its special for me and him, even tho ive already had sex. and when i tell him.. i dont want him to think that its his fault that im not wanting to have sex with him. i hope you dont think im a whore for having sex at liek such a young age.. i mean, whats it gona change.. well id really appriciate if you could help me out because you seem really good with this. try to answer asap. ill rate you high if that helps. ♥

okay finally it lets me answer your question! i totally understand! and it does too matter they just dont know what they are talking about lol! I think that you should just down right talk to your bf. i mean what harm could it do? Lots of relationships end because of bad communication. So dont let it be like that for you=] Ya know i know that your bf will understand (thats if he's a good one, which i'm sure he is!) lots of fights and things that bothered me and nicks relationship were from mis communication and i'm working on that right now=] Good luck and i hope that i helped!

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HEY JESS! i L0VE Y0UR XANGA

Aww well thanks! Well ya know i relaly think that you should talk to him about it. Thats what lots of people dont do and its really what you should do whether you want to or not. you definitly need to communicate. So i think you should talk to him and see what he has to say because you really dont know for sure if he doesnt like you or not ya know? Good luck!!

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im 14 and theres this guy and he was flirting with me alot and i liked him and i thought he liked me. we were at a dance and i was with my best friend who kind of liked him too. he walked over to us and he asked her to dance not me =[ .. my friend looked like she was upset and didnt want to hurt his feelings but she danced with him..should i be mad at her?

Ya know we all know that even if i tell you that you shouldnt be mad at her you probably will still be a little bit.=] It really stinks that you both have feelings for the same guy! I think you should talk to her about it though usually if she's really your friend she will understand and i bet you girls could work something out. Your good friends wont let you feel uncomfortable. But seriously talk to her about this. Hey and maybe that guy is just taking you girls for granted i mean he shouldnt be going around flirting with every girl ya know? I hope things work out!

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There is ths boy that i like but i never talk to him he has talked to me b4 but ever since then we haven't talked ...so how do i talk to him???i'm shy i have thought of my friends introducing us but that would be weird cause i kinda already know him

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Alls i can say is you need to have courage i mean i was shy before too=) You can always have one of your friends to like take you and just go and say hi and stuff. I used to do that. Then afterwhile i just told myself that i could do it. I started flirting with the guy i liked and then eventually led to talking. So alls i can say is that u need to build up your confidence=) He's talked to you before so go ahead and talk to him=)

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I took your advice with that guy...ever since he found out someone liked him he's been acting like he's better than me, like I'm some sort of loser. and now is ex-best-friend likes me. I still want to be friends with that jerk because I know him and I know he'll change back to his nice self but what do I do about his friend? do I take sides or try to stay neutral?

Sorry that my advice didnt go over well! but i really do try=) soo you still want to be friends with the guy that thinks he's bad ass now? =P So are you asking me what you should do about his ex best friend?? Sorry i got kind of confused in that=)

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how do you know when a guy really likes you and is into you enough to start doing things, without making youreself look like an idiot making a move you know? and should you wait for the guy to make the move or when you do it?lol please help

Hmmm well i always like the guy to make the first move haha! But if has been awhile and there hasnt been anything between you i suggest just a private talk. You should ask him how he feels and tell him how you feel. But i'm sure guys like the girl to make the first move. I relaly dont have that courage haha. But if you do then go ahead and do it=)

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I need some help, please:
this guy I really like used to like me back but since I didn't go out with him (long story) he kinda faded you know? so now he only likes me as a friend but I still really like him. I understand that it's not going to be the same and that unless we're hooked up then I can't expect him to not run off and like other girls but he treats me like crap. so inconsistent, and you know that feeling you get after hanging up the phone after talking to a much treaured person? he just makes me so happy. my friends think I should get over him because he's a jerk but it's SO hard. he also knows that I still like him and takes me for granted like I don't matter? I still really like him so it's not going to be easy to just be like "screw you I don't have to take this" like my friends think I should do. plus, it wouldn't work anyway because he's not the type to come to me, I always make the effort to see him you know? so what should I do? ps-you're really pretty!

sorry i have taken a lil while to help ya! Been quite busy with soccer and thanks for the compliment! But n e who back to you! I just helped my friend through a similar situation as you do today! Girl you should really know that its not good to go with jerk guys. I mean you'll think that they make you happy but theres no place for a guy to be a jerk. I dont want you to be treated badly and this guy sounds like he just thinks he can get whatever he wants from you. Dont let it be that way becuase lots of guys are like that. You can still like him but maybe you should experience with some other guys ya know? go on dates hey you never know you may find some guy that you like and he lieks you that treats you wayyy better than that guy right now=) happened to me=)
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hey you are really pretty first of all....well i have a big problem me and this gaem named anthony went out for almost a year and he broke up with me over something someone said about me that wasnt true and so we have been talking agan and he says he wants to go back out but he wants to make sure everything is right so everything will like be almost perfect for us no drama or anything but hes been telling me we are gunna get back together now for almost 3 months and like sometimes im not even sure if he really cares anymore because hes always talking about these other girls he gets off the phone with me for other girls and calls me abck and falls asleep and like i told him that made me upset but he just gets mad and says why cant he have friends i guess my question is ... what can i do to tell him and make him believe how i feel about him and that i really love him and that i really wants us to be abck together now ? thanks sorry so long

JuLiE

thanks for the comment! sorry its taken me awhile to get to your question! Oh and dont be sorry this is what i'm here for! Alls i can say for you is to just tell him straight out becuase i dont know how else he'd figure it out. (guys can be stupid sometimes lol) You can explain to him everything. You should tell him that you have to have a serious talk to him about your feelings and that i dont want to wait anymore on you ya know? If he's a jerk then you should just dump him because you dont want a guy who doesnt have respect to listen to a girl=)

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