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I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?
Thanks 15-Female (link)
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Confront him. Even if it mean going to his front door and banging hard until he's forced to answer.
What he did to you was completely unfair, even if it was his dad that forced him into it. You two need to sit down and talk, and he needs to tell you straight up whats going on.
If he still ignores you. Forget him. He's not worth your time anyway.
I know it's hard to let go of someone you feel so strongly for, but obviously something is wrong here, and if he is not willing to work it out, than you shouldn't waste your breath on him.
Hope i helped.
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Here’s the thing I am 15/f and I’ve never had a boyfriend. Now there is a guy who is 2 years older than me and I see him every summer and I’ve liked him for the last 5 years and I was really crazy about him last year. The thing is we’ve never talked and we live on the same street during the summer. Now, last summer I took a picture of him from his cousin (my best friend who is 15/f too) and I drew a portrait of him (I am very good at art). He wouldn’t think I am a stalker because their whole family knows I am good at art and I come up with some crazy projects every now and then. The thing is he is really shy around people he doesn’t know well and he will be really embarrassed when I show him the picture and then I will be embarrassed because I am really shy around guys and especially around guys I like. I’ve also asked his cousin to help me but she wants to stay out of it and doesn’t want to get involved in any way even thought I’ve begged her to help me, because she doesn’t like the whole matchmaking thing, but she does give me information about him when I ask. I can’t pick up a conversation with him because he never hangs out with us and the only way I can talk to him is if I run up to him when I see him on the street which is out of the question because it will be too weird plus you can’t really start a casual conversation this way. The other thing is that I am pretty (at least that’s what many guys have said about me) but the guy I like is very attractive and he has had girls chasing him since 3rd grade so he is used to that, but he is not a player and as I said he is shy (I know all these things from my friend). So I don’t know how to get his attention, we don’t talk, we both act really cold when we are around people we don’t know. What should I do to make him notice me and pick up a conversation without letting him know I like him or at least without letting him know I’m crazy about him. (link)
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1st off, not having a boyfriend by 15 is nothing to be ashamed of. Lots of people don't even start dating until college. You've got plenty of time on your hands, so don't rush yourself. And definatley don't use this as an excuse to feel insecure. You've got just as good a chance as getting this boy as anyone else.
Now that that's out and overwith, on to the guy.
Before you do anything, I think you should sit down and ask yourself some serious questions. What about him makes you so crazy? What are your motives if/when you to ever hook up? Are you looking for a relationship, or just a summer fling? Once you're clear on what direction your heading, you're good to go.
I would start off by doing research. Find out what his hobbies are, where he hangs out, and who he hangs out with. Even if your cousin is reluctant to play matchmaker, I think she may be able to give you a few details on him.
Then, try to get into those same things. If he likes to skateboard, maybe give it a try. It's a good conversation piece to start out with.
Now comes the hard part. No matter how shy you may be, you are never going to talk to him by sulking in your house. Get out there. You say it would be weird to run up to him on the street -- not neccessarily. Start small. Try to make eye contact and smile when you see him, maybe even work up to a hi. Let him familiarize himself with your face and your routine. It may not be such a bad idea to take a jog around the block everyday. It's good excercise plus it gives you an excuse to see him. And make notes. If you see him polishing his car every week, brush up on your knowledge of automobiles.
Finally, once you feel confident enough, go for it. Just casually say something about how you've lived across the street from him for 5 years, and never said a word. Take it from there, and just start talking about your common interests.
It may take some time, but i'd say this plan has at least a 70% success rate if executed properly.
And as for the picture, i would keep that under wraps until you know him a little better.
Hope i helped
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Does anyone know any good websites with heartbreak or love quotes?? Beside firehoquotes.com.... (link)
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google it
hasn't let me down yet.
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sorry this is so long but i am really confused and i would love for any advise from anyone!
ok here is goes. me adn my ex boyfriend (josh) we out all last summer and he cheated on me so we broke up and havent talked since. well the other day i was on the phone with his best friend (anton) and josh was over there so me adn josh talked and we are cool now. well i like anton but anton is a huge player. he has cheated on almost every girl he has went out with. he is also not a virgin .. me i havent even tounge kissed a guy before. well anton told me that he is actually ready to get into a serious relationship with a girl. i really wanna be that girl, but im so scared for anyone to know that i likw him. im scared he is gonna cheat on me or hurt me just like josh. me adn anton dont talk alot adn we dont know each other really good. i really like him and i dont know what to do. i even dream about him at night. can anyone please give me some advise on what to do?? thanks if you do!! (link)
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Before you go any farther with Anton, take a step back.
Try getting to know him a little better. It seems a big issue with your pending relationship with Anton is trust. You are not sure if you can trust him to be the boyfriend you wish he would be. If you talk to him a little, maybe you can get a better idea of exactly who he is. And go from there.
If you do this, and feel that you would like to continue your relationship with this boy, I think it best that you try not to judge him by his past. People change. And if Anton says that he is ready to settle down and start a real relationship with someone, it just might be true.
At the same time, keep your priorities in order. You mentioned his experience is a worry to you. Don't focus so much one what either of you have or haven't done. Just enjoy it, while at the same time not letting him pressure you into something your uncomfortable with.
Hope i helped :-)
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would you continue to hook up with someone when they just want to have fun and not settle down but your getting real feelings for them?
do you think you would try to continue to have fun (because the guy and i had a lot of fun kissing) and try to keep the mindset of no emotions..just friends? what would you do? (link)
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Friends with benefits almost always end badly.
Making out with a guy isn't exactly going to help smother your feelings for him.
I would try talking to him. See if maybe your feelings are being reciprocated. If they are, lucky you! You can continue your fun on a higher, and ultimatley more rewarding level.
If not, than you should break off any kind of contact that isn't purely platonic.
I know it's hard, but ultimatly, talking about it is the only way to truley resolve something.
I hope I helped.
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