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Q: Alright so I used to have a boyfriend named Drew but, I broke up with him. I`ve really been regreting it lately because I feel like I really didn`t give him a fair chance. The thing is he hangs out with these really slutty girls now that aren`t part of my group. I`m with the more popular girls. I want to tell him I regret breaking up with him and I wish we had another chance but I`m afraid he`ll just laugh at me. I have no idea what to do. Please help me

Well if he just laughs at you then he wouldn't be a good b/f.I think that you should just ask him anyways and you never know it might turn out better then you expected!

Q: there is this guy...his name is max and he lives a few streets away from me and i really like him. I have a feeling he likes me too because he always talks to me, and is so sweet and generous to me. I need some advise on how to make him notice and how to get him to ask me out. HELP!!!

Well i would start off by asking him if he has a girlfriend.if he says no then ask him if he would be intrested in having one.Then you can say in a joking way but not to much *so when are you gonna ask me out* but be laughing about it when you ask him.this is exactly what i did and i know it sounds like it won't work but it worked for me!
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Q: 1)okay so this girl first asks for my email add then my phone number,then one day i waved at her in school and she was absolutely shy and looked down the whole time.Now we are talking on msn.so does she like me?or is she just naturally shy and wants to be just friends?

2)But what i don't get about girls is that you know how some girls are outgoing and super friendly?So she may talk to you a lot and like you or maybe just talk to you cause she is just being friendly to you as she is to the other guys.So is their a way to know?I mean,if a girl talks to a guy a lot,does that mean that she's interested in him?cause it doesn't really make any sense for a girl to talk a lot to a guy since girls mostly mix with girls and vice versa, plus girls mostly talk about girls stuff which guys know nothing of,unless he's gay.

I think that this girl really likes you but to find out this is what i would do.Ok so you said that you had msn,right?right.so you can start out by asking her if she has a boyfriend.then if says yes then you can back off.but if she says no then you can ask her if she would be interested in having a boyfriend.Yes:you ask her if she likes anyone if she says yes then you ask her who she might tell you who but probably not if it's you she will just say that she can't tell you and then you should ask her out!
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Q: me and my boyfriend were talking about being romantic and he said he would like it i were to be more romantic well ima girl and i dont know who to do that, any ideas?

Well i know a lot of people including me that have been in very good relationships and to have one you and the guy both have to do your part.Usually people would say that the guy needs to start things like holding hands or kissin or w/e but maybe you could try asking him to hold your hand or callin him baby.Or even make dinner reservations.But he also has to do his part!
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Q: well im overly jealous, like words couldnt explain. and i want to stop it. My boyfriend has tons of girls that are friends, and he talks to them and stuff, and i just dont want to be jealous any ideas on how to make that feeling go away? Because i know guys dont like it when they know a girl is a jealous person.

Well you could prove to your boyfriend that you are not jealous.
ADVICE:If you call while he is talking to is friend thats a girl.Just say ok well just call me back when you get through.Or something like that.
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Q: I am a singer for a band and we have played quite a lot of shows,so lately I have noticed two girls who are looking at me but they both have boyfriends.So are they looking at me because they like me?or are they looking at me because they recognize me form the band?
So basically, is it just fame or something else?

And another thing, is possible that a girl who alredy has a boyfriend and is really in love likes another guy?

Well there are a bunch of slutey(sp) girls out there who will try to turn you on even though they have a boyfriend.You have to relize that they are the ones who are doing the wrong thing.I know this may sound like something an adult would say but really i'm in high school and I know your situation!
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Q: 14/f. i really don't want to come off as full of myself or anything because i'm definitaly not. but i've kinda started to notice that a lot of guys stare at me (in a good way lol), or check me out. like at the beach two REALLY hot guys were checking me out (and its not like i have a really good body or anything like that). even my parents noticed them checking me out. and i've been noticing this going on a lot lately. but the problem is that nobody even notices me like that at school. i think it is because i'm shy.

so my question is...do you think that the guys at my school don't notice me like the other guys do because they actually know my personality and they know that i'm shy? if so, what can i do to get them to notice me like other guys do?

Thanks

Well i think that maybe if you wave at them in the hallway or maybe smile or even say "hi" to them they might see that you not so shy after all.
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Q: A day before Easter, this guy said he wanted to be more than friends with me, but I had a boyfriend, so I told him we could be friends with benifits, and we
were pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend, we did everything together! So, eventually I dumped my boyfriend for him! So then, we were pretty much really boyfriend and girlfriend. But recently, my friend Jessica, she's like, my bestfriend, asked him out, and I guess he said yes, so then, him and I became friends with benifits again! And that was okay with me, except for that he told me he doesn't like Jessica, and He only wants me in his life, he told me he is in love with me and he is going to dump Jessica for me! I told Jessica everything, I mean EVERYTHING! She wasn't mad, only upset! She is a good friend, and she understood that she couldn't be mad because I had him first! But in my school, I'm really popular, and she is kind of a Geek! Nobody likes her, and she hardly ever gets any decent boyfriends, and I get whoever I want, whenever I want, pretty much. But since she finally has a really hot guy, i don't want to hurt her but taking him from her, but really i had him first! but he's gonna dump her, and i want to go out with him, not only be friends with benifits! and he feels the same, but she is in the way of everything! him and i are in love, you could say, we both love each other, and he dosnt have feelings for her like, at all, so what do i do?!?!?!?

you might consider sitting down and talking to jessica and tell her that her first good boyfriend should be someone who really likes her and then tell her how your "boyfriend" doesn't like her.Then also you should sit down and talk to your "boyfriend" and ask him why he said yes to jessica if he doesn't really like her.

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Erin(fARGO)

Q: Here's the situation, me and this guy have been going steady for 4 weeks, we've been on 3 dates he lives 30 minutes away we met on myspace and I guess you could say that we're both "interested" in eachother. The problem is that I feel like I want this relationship more than he does. It seems as if i'm always the one who makes plans for us to go do something and I feel that he holds no initiative when it comes to us. It is both our first time in a male-male relationship and yet I feel like i'm more ready for an "us" than he is and when I asked him where he thinks this relationship is going all I get are "idk" and "wherever 'we' want it to go" which I think is very cliche. Also, i'm out to most my friends and family and he is getting there he just hasn't told his mother, however, some parts of his immediate family like his older sister and brothers want to change him and make him "straight." Amongst that whenever I want to come over to his house when he's feeling down he won't let me and keeps me at a distance and it just bugs the hell out of me. Also, we talked last night on AIM and it basically killed me talking to him because I'm just so confused about "us" so I told him that I was depressed (which I was do to him and just pondering about "us") and I started to cry... well I told him that and just ended the conversation by saying," I can't take this I just can't." Then I signed off and cried myself to sleep and he knew I was crying and still he didn't try and call me to cheer me up... All he did was just message me on myspace and was like, "I know our last date didn't turn out very well, but me and Stephanie were planning on watching a movie on Thursday and I was wondering if you wanted to come." I just don't know what I should do because everytime he plans a date it's always with one of his friends and it makes me feel just like another friend. So the question I keep asking myself is whether or not the only reason why i'm keeping him is because I like the idea of saying that I have a boyfriend as opposed to actually having a boyfriend... if that makes any sense. Thanks if you can help me out and sorry this quesiton was so long.

Even though you have tried to tell this guy how you feel and he didn't respond the way you wanted him to, maybe you could try to tell him one more time and if he doesn't care or seems like he is putting you to the side then maybe you should just be friends and search for a better relationships and people who like the same things in a relationship as u do!

~Erin (fargo)

Q: would it be wrong to date a guy a year younger than me. the thing is he lives in my neighborhood and me and his sister and others all hang out. would that be wrong.

It shouldn't matter how old this guy is as long as you really like him it should be just fine,but before you make your move you might want to make sure this person fels the same way about you!

~Erin (fargo)