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Q: My ex Boyfriend and I walk home from the bus everyday and today, we were talking about what we used to do.. (I gave him a handjob) and then when I got home I got a phone call from him and he was saying that do you want to be friends with benefits and I want to.. because I dont know if we could be in a relationship but i really like him and I dont know if I should or not because I feel like im being used but I want to be more than friends but less than a relationship. Because if I do this I have 2 guys that I'm friends with benefits with.. And this is my first time ever having guys that are friends with benefits.. but me and this guy have known eachother for 4 years and have gone out a lot but im physically attracted to him and he is to me.. so please help me.. My options are I should do it and have fun or not do it and not know what im missing but may save my self from hurt.. not sure.. because when it comes to this guy there is a lot of physical attraction but we always are friends in the end..

THANK YOU TO ALL THAT HELP!!!

;-)

I'll rate 5's

being friends with benefits means the guy gets everything he wants...pleasure with no strings attached and a good rep aroound school...all it gives you is...yeah some pleasure but a bad rep around school and possibly hurting you if you develop stronger feelings for him...i dont think friends with benefits is a good idea... :]

Q: ok so does anyone have any good questions i can ask my bf? like even if they are uncomfortable ones, you know? because im trying to think of some good ones and he said he wants me to ask some uncomfortable ones lol
we have been friends for like a year and we have been going out for a month if that helps. so questions like whats your favorite food wont help me much
thanks 5's for everyone

if you could go anywhere in the world, where would it be...have your parents ever walked in on you doing something they didnt want to see...when did you stop believing in santa claus...whats the funniest thing you have ever done with your friends...etc. i guess... :]

Q: there is this guy i met last summer at camp, and my group which was a co-ed group consisted of him. and he's really annoying me like on myspace when i put the bullentin boyfriend application a couple of days ago he said he was attracted to me/liked me and another application i posted a couple months before he said he liked me, and im #3 on his top 8 friends, but on his bday a couple of weeks ago he asked me for money hes like k if you want to give me anything give me money cause if you don't mind i want some money for my bday and i thought it was completeley rude, and to tell you the truth he's not that attractive and personality wise he is obnoxious and annoying. i haven't spoken to hiim in a long time which is good for me, but his headlines on myspace are also strange like "She's so hot" etc and i want to also ask him why he has these weird headlines by sending him a message but do you think thats too rude. But what should i do about the other part.
note- at camp he was stalking me everywere i went grrr.
thanks
~*~Brianna~*~

if you really are annoyed with him you could just take him off your friends on myspace...thats what i would do because he sounds really wierd.. you could message him but it prolly wouldnt be a good idea because if they are not about you that would be akward or he might think that you are maybe a little interested and curious :]

Q: Hi Again

What does it mean when someone is relentless about seeing a pic of you.You finally give it to them and u ask for a pic of them an they give you an excuse like when we finally meet you can take all the pics you want of me What's Up With That?

i would be a little cautious with this person...1. they could be somebody different than you think they are 2. even though its mean, they could be really ugly 3. or they could just be nervous you wont like them...it sounds like this is over the internet and i dont think it is too safe, make sure you dont ever really meet up with this person

Q: I have a HUGE problem it all started on New Years.....well my mom and aunts and cousins all went out for new years eve and me amanda and a girl named katie from Iowa stayed at my cousin kristies house and she didnt tell her mom (my aunt) she bought some vodka for us and us all three got wasted and stoned off our asses and katie called some of her GUY friends to come over to my cousins house and one of our girls was left out (amanda) and katie and i got the two guys and i got the 17 year old and she got the 16 year old and they were sooo hott especially the 17 year old and i feel really bad because i cheated on my boyfriend but the thing is we barely even talk or communicate so it doesnt even feel like we are going out......i dont know if i should break up with him or stay with him because i REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY LIKE the 17 year old and he asked me to be his girl and i said YES....Please anyone tell me what i should do..because i did stuff with the 17 year old.......

P.S. im 15 1/2 (female)

it sounds like you would rather be with the 17 year old so i say go out with him...if you and your current boyfriend barely talk there really isnt a point to be going out with him anyways...i say move on to the 17 year old, but it wasnt too great to cheat

Q: what exactly does it mean to be friends with benefits? like what is different about it than being b/f and g/f? thanks

means you are physically active with each other but are still considered single and free to do what you please...the only problem is that almost always one person begins having feelings for the other and that creates problems...it sounds fun and simple but often becomes more trouble than its worth

Q: I like this one guy, & he flirts with me. But he is also a huge flirt with other girls. [ He has alot of girl friends] & Everytime he says something sweet to me, I fall harder for him.Does he like me ,or is he just being nice?
I know this may sound stupid, but advice would be nice

some guys tend to play the field and flirt with a bunch of girls to increase their chances of finding one that likes them...let him know you are interested...if he continues to flirt with all the other girls, ut him loose...you want a guy that appreciates you

Q: Is it weird that my boyfriend comments all of my friend's pictures on myspace, yet doesnt comment any of mine? Backround info : He really liked this girl last year. However, he is a great bf and we have good chemistry together.