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18 f
Okay, I will make a long story short, or try to. I'm really close with my best friend who is a guy, let's call him L and I've been dating this other guy, let's call him F.
I've been close friends with L for quite a few years now, we always hang out together and we have fun and he is a nice person. My bf on the other hand, I've been going out with him for a year now, the relationship isn't going anywhere and I've actually thought of breaking up with him for a while although he is a good guy, he has hurt me enough for me to want to give up on him.

To the point, L told me that he has been in love with me for the past year or so and that he has been trying to win me over for ages. This came to a shock for me, but I really want him as a friend because he is a great guy and I don't want to just go out with him and then break up, but he is having a hard time dealing with the fact I turned him down so I don't think our friendship will be so strong anymore. My relationship with F is useless though, I know in my heart that L would appreciate me and treat me 100x, F never takes me out and L has been in love with me for so long now without me even realizing...

What should I do?

If L would be such a good bf, and your friendship with him, and relationship with F are both pretty bad, then why not? If there is another reason for not dating him besides the fact that you want his friendship, maybe you could go for it.
Obviouisly, you should break it off with F if your already haven't, but either think twice about saying no to dating L, or try talking to him about how much his friendship means to you, and why dating him might ruin that. If he's such a good friend like you say, I'm sure he'll understand.

Good Luck
Elise 15/f

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isnt it good when a guy youve been talking to lately is always keeping it real?


but where is line that he crosses when you know it will never be the two of you because he's too much.. of a real guy.. like you know if your talking to someone you like and likes you back dontchu think that sometimes its good to lie for good because YOU WANNA TRY TO COME OFF AS A GOOD GUY OR ADORABLE ETC, you get my point.. but what if.. this guy starts to say i gotta go poo or like something like that.. hes being "too real" and that means youll never be together coz he doesnt even bother making up an excuse for his "i gotta go" moment like why cant the guy just be like "i gotta go wash the dishes" or something like dat





so my question is

IF A GUY ACTS LIKE THAT, DOES IT MEAN THAT HE DOESNT LIKE YOU?

or he does but he's just really like that.. [but dont peole wanna come off as like a good person or humble??]

That may just be the way he is.
It's true that he is obviously getting more comfortable if he's saying things like that, it may actually even mean he does like you, he may be trying to make you laugh.
If not, he may just be the type who sees nothing wrong in that, and it may have no reflection on his feelings for you.
There are other ways to tell, but I don't think that specific point can tell you how he feels.

Good Luck
Elise 15/f

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14/f
So,
i met this guy at this dinner party for my parents, and he is as old as me [ i could tell ][we were the only kids there, other than some 2 year olds] we didnt really talk, but he was SO GOOD LOOKING!! anyway, he kept trying to make eye contact [i did sometimes to though] , he would always turn towards me and then "look at the sky", so, if we met again, would there be hope?? like by the way he always tried to make eye contact and im talking always! so, yeah, could this mean anything?

Ha, something like this just happened to me recently. Definately hope! I would agree that next time you see him to try and chat. whats the worst that could happen? Either way youll get to talk right ;) If just walking up and saying hi might be hard, then try to find something to complement or ask him about, his clothes, hair, shoes, anyhting... just to break the ice!

Good Luck
Elise 15/f

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