My name is Alana. I'm here to help so if you need it, just ask !! (: Hope I can help you with your problems. Any question is allowed.
Gender: Female
Location: Pelion SC
Age: 18
Member Since: March 29, 2011
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I am married in my mid-20s and have been with this person for 6 years. I love them with every breath i take. However in the past year, this person started an emotional relationship with someone else and almost left me. a couple months later he became obessed with a web cam girl and was making plans to meet her. and in november he posted a add for sex on craigslist. I thought i was over all that crap but a month ago i kissed a friend. I realized that i was no inlove with my husband anymore. Our sexaul relationship is gone. it is like living with my best friend. to make thigns worse, this person i kissed i really developed intense feelings for. I took action on these feelings and now im very confused. i am afraid i have fallen for him. I dont know what to do. I told my husband i made out with this person, but i didnt say anything about my feelings. I feel like i want to run away. I dont want to be tied to anyone, even this other man. Id like to keep them both in my life but not in a relationship. i want to be able to figure out my self. I am a good person and i have never cheated on anyone before. This whole thing has confused me soo much. my friends yell at me and tell me to stop talk to this other man, but i cant. My feelings run deep with him. I am not sure what to do and i feel so depressed and guilty (link)
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if you dont believe that your marrige will get any better and just keep going in a downward spiral like it is, then i dont think you should stay with your husband. you can can love someone but not be IN love with them. if he almost left you once and replied to that add on craigslist than he's not serious about being with you. and this other man, your friend, he shouldnt have kissed you if he knew you were married but if you have strong feelings and feel great when your with him, i think you should go for it. the heart wants what the heart wants and no one, no matter how much they want or need to, can change that. but your young and im sure your very pretty, so you should have no trouble at all finding someone in the future. if you dont want to be tied down theres no reason you should have to be. listen to your heart, it will guide you in the right direction most of the time. i hope i helped atleast a little. if you want to talk somemore just find me again. good luck and please let me know what happens.
~Alana*
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well , hello im a female early teenager . So there's this boy name kyle, when i first met him i only thought he was cute but than things start tn change about two weeks ago . You guys might say this is childish but im so confused right now . So just last friday i went to a party and he was there and he was there so toward the end me the party people start to leave . So me and my friends start to talk to him and a group of his friends that was your real first conversation with me and him, but people came tn ruin the circle . So later i asked him to dance and he was like no i don't dance that's what his friend said but i could tell he wanted to .. fifteen minutes Later i left not because of him just because my mom was there ..... Soo today i seen him au school i walked right past him && nothing happened ... So this weekend there is suppose to another party and what am suppose to doo ... i really like him , he also does NOT know . (link)
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im gonna jump right to the point;; you gotta jump right in and tell him how you feel. i know that being young you may feel scared or embarresed to tell him but trust me- guys LOVE it when we (girls) take charge. if nothings happening between you two now then it cant possibily get any worse right ? just be honest and make it clear that you have srong feelings for him. hope i helped (: && you should tell me how it goes !
~Alana*
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a couple of weeks ago i posted something similar to:
"16/f. same school, same classes. He's kind of shy.
~in the morning he hugged me and put his hands tight around my waist and as i was pulling away he kept his hands on my sides and we were just kind of looking at each other for a while.
~he asked for my number because he said he wanted to talk more
~while i was with a group of friends during a class he asked me if i can "help" him with his work, when i sat with him he said he just wanted an excuse to talk to me
~people, including him, usually hang out in the parking lot near my school when school's out. he didnt know i was going with a few friends.(he left school before me) as soon as i got there, he saw me and left his friends to talk to me
~it was raining and super cold so we were veryy close and he decided to hold my hand and while holding hands he was like rubbing my hand"
after that day ^^ he didnt go to school for a week but a couple of days ago he asked to hang out so we were at the park and it was really good. he was leaning on me and we were cuddling while we talked for hours. today he came back to school and he barely talked to me, i said hi to him and he smiled and said hi but that was it. idk what to do at this point in time (link)
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so maybe something bad happend while he was away, a family tragedy or something like that. ask him if he is alright and ask him if he is upset with you for some reason because thats how you feel. just be 100% honest with him and let him know how much you like him. dont be scared or emberessed to tell him that you really like him beacause, trust me, guys LOVE it when you take charge (:
hope i helped, you should let me know how it goes !
~Alana*
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So while my boyfriend was in another state, I went to a party and ended up very drunkenly cuddling with another guy - my friend that likes me but I have NO INTEREST in him, in his bed all night, with my panties off. I told my bf everything the next morning and also told him I think we might have kissed. There is still one thing that is eating me up, I am pretty sure that at one point I was touched down there, the thing is I don't exactly remember if I touched myself or if I pulled the guys hand to touch me thinking it was my bf or maybe I just wanted it, but I remember as soon as I felt it getting touched I stopped it. Now we talked about it twice and he is over it but I feel like I am lying to him if I don't tell him this one thing-
should I just let it go because it might not have even happened and I'll be worrying him for no reason and possibly break up and it was just a dream (I have very vivid dreams) or should I tell him and risk losing this amazing relationship? I'm so torn right now... I don't want to lose him but if I don't tell him I feel like I'm lying but maybe it didn't even happen! AHHH what do I DO??!?! (link)
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ok, it sounds like your stuck. 2 possibility's ;; one- he could get over it or two- he could be VERY upset and something bad could happen to your realationship. you have already breached his trust by telling him about being in the bead. i think it would just hurt him more if you told him that as well. and even if you dont break up, it will never be the same. the trust will be gone and he will think about that when you are with him. trust me - ive been there. so i wouldnt tell him because your not even sure it happend, BUT, if you continue to feel guilty about it your probably gonna have to tell him. this situation is a very big very difficult one and i hope i could atleast help a little bit. let me know how it goes; best of luck.
~Alana*
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Hey guys, Im a 20 year old chic. There's this guy i find myself falling for more everyday, and he says he likes me and can't stay away from me. He told me a FEW MONTHS ago that he doesn't want to be just "friends" cause he doesn't want to lose his chance with me (he's leaving for basics in 2 months btw).
we're together as much as possible, and love it. But the boy STILL hasn't asked me out. What can I do to get him to commit?? I don't want to be pushy, but this is getting a bit rediculous. We've known each other for 4 years - so what's holding him back? (link)
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well, maybe he just doesnt want to get into anything to serious before he leaves because then you two would just miss each other more and it would be even harder to be away from him. if your sure that you like him alot and you know that he likes you, just be happy with spending time with him. he'll be ready eventualy- even if it takes longer than you would like it to. you know it takes a piece of sand almost 10 years to become a desent sized pearl. at least you dont have to wait that long right ? (: hope i could help
~Alana*
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