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this may be long. sorry but i need help..
my phone got stolen a few weeks ago so I have been using the house phone to talk to my boyfriend. well the other night he was out to dinner with his friends so i went and got my moms phone to text him. She has about 300 unread emails, and she got a new one. I didn't want the LED light to be flashing since I was using it to know when my bf texts me. So i was gonna open then close the email.
Turns out it was from her "lover."
This isn't the first time I have "caught" her. When I was in about 7th grade, I opened up her email thinking it was mine and read some stuff. Showed my sister, she talked to her whatever. I was young.
Well this time, I showed my sister, and she told me to reply to it. So I did, saying "this is ___ daughter, you better pray my dad, sister and I never find you."
We decided to leave his and my email on her phone so she can see. The next day she came and said "you sister thinks im cheating on your dad?" and i said we read the emails blah blah blah and that I'm the one who emailed him back. She was shocked.
The emails weren't anything sexual but she did say she "loved him more" and that they should meet up.
Turns out he works where my mom does. My mom cleans offices (as do i, at the same place) and she "ran into him."
shes lying. the one email said "i want more of your sweet kisses" from him. her excuse "he gave me a kiss on the cheek."
the emails never said "i had fun with you" ect. She told my dad she had a "crush" on him when she worked somewhere else a few years ago. so it might be true that she "ran into him" and hasnt been "seeing" him long.
So, idk how I feel. Its no surprise that my mom is unhappy. they fight and she use to tell us "when you guys are both 18 im leaving your dad" well im now 19 soon to be 20 and my sister is 23.
Like my sister is all upset and cant believe this is happening, as to where I am just like "okay." I haven't cried, yelled or anything. Tonight both my dad and sister were "yelling" at my mom and I just sat here. I haven't called her names, the only thing I said was "i don't want to talk to you" but I love my mom, i'm a mommys girl.
I don't know if its just not hitting me yet or I have a better control of myself. she left the house tonight, wont pick up her cell, probably bc im calling from the house, and I have no idea where shes at. I'm worried.
Do you guys think something is wrong with me bc I "dont care" about her cheating? yes, its wrong and she shouldn't have. But at the same time im like whatever....:\ (link)
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Unlike the other answer, I am not going to tell you that you were wrong for reading her emails, I am not writing to express my feelings about that as that isn't what you were asking.
I think people react differently to different situations whether it be about family issues, someone passing away .. anything. No two people react exactly the same, so your reaction shouldn't be anything to worry about.
I do think however, your mum is wrong for saying she is going to leave your dad when you and your sister are 18. Parents split up all the time but dragging something out and potentially messing around behind someones back will only end in tears. If your mum is unhappy, you and your sister should support her AND your dad regardless. They are your parents, after all.
I hope this helps.
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Alright so this might be a weird question but I don't know really where else to ask it... My girlfriend and I aren't what you'd call kinky but if we do get outta the box, there's one thing we probably enjoy the most. She likes being... dominated I think is what you'd say. She's a confident, strong, amazing girl, but in the bedroom she is extremely submissive. Which I'm okay with. She likes being held down, tied up, and loves the naughty schoolgirl/evil teacher thing haha ahhh... But I'm very careful with her, shes pretty tiny so I don't let anything get out of hand, no worries. Yeah anyway so she's been kinda hinting at wanting me to get rough with her, which that, I'm not okay with. Thinking about hurting her turns me off instatntly and I told her that, she gets it completely but I was wondering how can I give her those same feelings? In a different way. Or something we haven't been doing, something new. Just wondering if you guys had any ideas, thanksss a bunch. 19/M (link)
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I'm 18 F and, even though I am not interested in this sort of sexual activity myself, I understand and respect that some people are.
I think you have to sit and talk to her about it, ask her to define what she actually wants. If she wants you to do something with her which is totally not acceptable to you, tell her. You never know, you might be getting the wrong vibe about what she wants you to do.
If she is a decent person, which I have NO doubt that she isn't, she will understand and respect your views and opinions. After all, it's something that you both have to be happy participating in.
I hope this helps.
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