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There's this guy who's been my friend for 2 years now. This past year, I've been talking to him more and we see each other everyday because we have one same class together. We give each other friendly hugs every now and then when we see each other, but lately, it seems like he hugs a bit longer (than usual?) I don't know if I like him.. yet. But his past relationships haven't been that long and my friend told me that he views girls as "toys," last year at least. But people can change in a year. He's been starting to hold my hand and walking to me to my locker, but it's not "official" that we're going out. I don't want to get myself into a relationship that won't last. What should I do?
-Female/15 (link)
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first of all find out if you like him or not. You dont want to go any farther if your not sure. Once you figure that out the rest should go like this... I think if you've known him for two years, you know him pretty well. Do you think the relationship will last. The fact that hes holding your hand in public and hugging you tells alot. Give him a chance. Enjoy your teenage life while it lasts! Date him if it doesnt work out move hun, if it does thats awesome. But just enjoy it:D
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16/F dating a 17/m for over a year.
Today, I had plans to meet up with my mom to go look at prom dresses after school.
I told my boyfriend, "I'm not waiting for you after school" because it takes him a minute or two to meet up with me after school. But when I don't have to wait for him (I've always waited on him unless he's absent), I can get out of the school pretty fast and manage to beat the school traffic. He gets upset and starts to ignore me.
A few minutes after telling him that, my mom sends me a text message telling me she was going to check me out an hour before school dismissal. Of course, I told my boyfriend. He still continues to ignore me.
After I got home, we were IMing each other back and forth with this conversation:
Him: :-\
Me: what?
Him: what you said when i last saw you
Me: what? that I didnt want to wait?
Him: yeah, that was stupid
Him: saves you a minute and a half at the most
Me: no no, 4-5 minutes
Him: it takes me 4-5 minutes to walk about 150 feet?
Me: no, but have you seen me walk fast? Yeah, I do that when I dont have to wait.
Him: just shut up
Him: even if you were going to save time, big deal
Him: what did you need to rush outta there so fast for?
Him: that dress might sell out before you get there?
Him: doubt it
Me: to look at dresses?
Me: to beat hellacious traffic?
Him: you're ridiculous
Him: the whole thing was stupid
Him: waiting on me wouldnt have made you any late
Me: even your friend said it made sense
Him: he didnt care
Me: he said, "It makes sense", Andrew.
Him: and uh, i dont care
Him: forget what he said, it wouldnt have made a difference if you waited on me
Him: and it was ridiculous that you would argue with me about it and completely refuse to wait for me
Me: you're the ridiculous one who is currently overreacting. It doesn't matter anymore, Andrew. I checked out at 1:51.
Him: no, it doesnt matter that you checked out
Him: YOU WERE REFUSING TO WAIT FOR ME
Me: okay? So I could get out of there.
Him: that's stupid
Him: you're f***ing dumb as s**t f**k you im done good bye
He signed off at 7:42:29 PM.
What should I do? (link)
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ok well first off, i think you were wrong. U could have waited for him. He's your boyfriend right and any time u spend together is precious. A minute or two isnt gonna kill u, and y do you like getting out of there in such a rush. I know my ex was like you and basically ran out of the school like he didnt want to be seen with me or something and the face that he didnt wait was kinda hurtful. Now...the fact that he called you those names i totally disagree with! he went over the line there. Maybe he was mad. I think what you should do is calm down and let yourselves have some breathing time. Tommorow i would talk to him. Admit what you did was wrong but tell him that you dont appreciate him calling you those names, and that it was stupid to fight over something like that. Thats what i would do hun! Hope i helped and best of luck with that and on prom! :D
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Hi, you might have seen my post before about how I didnt know how to tell my boyfriend that I dont like it when he flirts with other girls and hugs them. I told him last night online how i felt and hes like oh ok im sorry and i wont do it again. and hes like oh well its a good thing that you get jealous because then that means you love me. so today when he came in the class room to drop his bag off, he went out of the class, i kind of followed him and he was talking to someone and then when the bell rang he hugged her! and then i hear this morning that he was flirting with my good friend. I already told him how i felt. how do i tell him again without trying to sound like a freak like he cant do anything? Thanks! (link)
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You should really ask your self if this guy is worth it. I mean it seems like he's a typical guy- loves to flirt. If its a casual flirt then i wouldn't get to worried about it, but if its getting to friendly, really ask yourself if hes right for you. Hope i helped.
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i am 14 i really like this boy and i think he likes me too. Yet he has a girlfreind .i think he really likes me though we always make eye contacts and he treats me like a boy who really likes a gurl sometimes i wonder that maybe he went out with the gurl so he can get rid of all the gurls who are all up on him and save the best for last. But i see him but he never answers my emails i'm to nervouse to call him . Now his brother also seems like he likes me as well . What do you think what can i do. (link)
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It seems like your taking his reactions toward you to seriously. Try not to analyze everything, he's maybe just being friendly towards you. The fact that he has a girl friend tells you alot. Stop right there, and wait till this girl is out of the way. Till then don't do anything, let their relationship come to an end if it has to. If he really does like you, he'll leave his current girl friend and show you more signals of him wanting you to be the girl in his life. Hope i helped, goodluck.
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Hey all, this is my first question (among probably many) that I'll be asking on this site! Ok now that that's over with, where are some fun places to take your date on? I just started dating (this is my first time ever) (I'm 19) (and she's 17) and already going to the movies is kinda boring. I mean, the whole point of being on a date is to be with the person that you like, and spending an hour or two (or three) staring at a silver screen and *not* talking to the other person seems kinda... strange. We do talk, mainly to make fun of the movie we're watching, but still, where could we go where the activity actually encourages us to talk or play while we're there? thxxx, and i heart all of you :) (link)
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ok a list of places that you could go that will encourage talking would be:
-any kind of mini golf
-go and get a coffee and talk
-go for a walk (the colder the better)
-skating (its even better if she doesnt know how cuz then she'll fall on you lmao :P)
-go for dinner
-since its christmas time right now go xmas shopping
-sleding
-tubing
anything that contains both of you doing something you enjoy would be great even if its watching TV cuddled up at home or playing Video/board Games. Amything you do with one another you both shuld enjoy. Good luck and have fun. Merry X-Mas:D
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so there is this kid... lets call him bob... and ive been hanging out with my friend lately. we will call her jane. now jane and bob went out for like 8 months. and then they broke up but they still act like they are going out. so i have been hanging out with bob and jane a lot and im starting to really like bob. but i think jane would get mad at me if i told her even though she is REALLY into this other kid. i think she is just using bob. do you think i should tell jane that i like bob or no? (link)
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Wow i am going through the same kinda thing! I would seriosuly think about how important or serious ur friendship with Jane is. If your not really good friends then i would tell bob how you feel, but remeber that Jane might not be happy with it. You could also talk to Jane but that might be harder to do. Good Luck and I hope it works out
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