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i have been with my bf for 4 & a half years and we have a baby together. our whole relationship has been a lot of fighting. he gets so jealous and he will rip my clothes, sometimes hit, and he calls me a bitch and a slut when he is pissed off. i am 20 and he is 22. i feel i am too young to deal with all of this, even though we have our good times. i have attempted to leave him several times but am scared of change and i never go through with it. he will also put me down in front of our friends and family to make himself look good. should i finally just give up or should i stick with it for my son? and if i do decide to leave how do i do it? (link)
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Let me tell you something....I have been there. I know that in your heart you love this man, and you probaly can't see yourself living without him, but you have decide if you want to continue looking and feeling like a fool.
This man sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do, I'm pretty sure you have heard this before, and he is insecure about himself, therfore, he is just trying to make you feel like you are less of a woman, because he knows that he is not fully equipped to a real man.
You have to stop thinking that you are stuck! You don't have to feel desperate for a man to love you,(I'm speaking from personal experience).
He is jealous of you because he knows that you are a real woman taking care of business and he knows that you are a good catch for another man; that is why he constantly degrades you to make you feel unattractive.
Go get your nails done, get your hair done, take a course. Do something that will get your mind off of him, at least for a few hours out of the day. Consume yourself with making a better you and gaining some self-esteem so that you won't feel obligated to accept this trash off of this guy.
REMEMBER TO LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!!!!!!!!!!!
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me and my friend amanda have known each other for a little bit over three months. within these three months i went out with her best friend and she went out with mine. but 2 months into our friendship we fell in love with eachother. i broke up with my g/f not just cause of her but she was one of the main reasons. but anyway she is still goin out with one of my bestfriends, and me and her have already gone out on "dates" if u will and i have kissed her. but 2 weeks ago she said we cant be friends. well we became friends and fell in love again and went on a "date". she is still goin out with my friend though. she says she loves me but idk if she is just makin it up or what. me and her are always on the phone at least 2 or 3 hours a day. and i love her more than anything. i dont kno what to do about all of this. please tell me what to do. (link)
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I beleive that your friend/girlfriend is undecided on what she should do. I beleive that she see's qualities in you that she desires, but she also desire's qualities in this other guy too. You have to make up your mind as to whether or not you are going to tolerate her behavior.
You mentioned that in 2 months the both of you fell in love. I want you to ask yourself this question....If she really loved you, do you think she would have ended your relationship that way that she did?
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