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Q: ok so normally im good at knowing weather a guy likes someone or not but i have this friend. we're good friends, not best friends but i've been able to cry on his shoulder a few times. ok so all year he's been in a relationship so i never really looked at him as more than a friend because im not the type to steal a boyfriend. ok so me and a few of my friends were at his house the other night and we were in his hot tub and he put his shoulder around me. and at first its like oh ok w/e because he's just a friend but then he started pulling me closer and telling the other guys in the hot tub "now this is how you be romantic" and when he'd leave he'd say "dont miss me too much" and flirt with me and stuff but then he says that he's finally free from a relationship and loves being single so i dont know if he likes me or not, i like him a little but if he liked me then i would like to start a relationship. oh by the way he liked me back in 7th grade when we were 12. im 15 now and he's 16. oh by the way he's got a smokin body. lol so i dont know what to do

If you like him then go for him he seems into you flirt back and see what happends, hey and on the pluss side hes old enough to drive so you would have a ride to places lol

Q: i apologize if this is really long.
my boyfriend and i have been going out for almost ten months, and we were best friends before that. everything was going really good and we even declared that we were in love with eachother. now before we started going out, he was a REALLY super nice guy, people would take advantange of that and be rude to him, but he'd always take them back. he'd always come to me with his problems and we'd sort things out. this continued for a good chunk of our relationship.
now since about april, hes changed, and says "he doesnt care about anything because he got tired of people walking all over him". which i understand, because anyone would get sick of being treated like dirt.

but now he doesnt say I love you anymore, he's always with his friends and barely asks me to hang out, and i've mentioned this quite a few times and he says that he knows hes changed, and he doesnt like who he is now, and he knows hes an asshole to me. i asked him if he doesnt like me anymore, and he swears that he does

so what do you think i should do?

I just went though the same exact thing you did,
see dont let him keep you wondering if he loves you or not and dont let him ditch you, trust me i let my boyfriend do this to me. Dont let him have any controll cause whenever you ask him if he loves you or if you dont oppose to him hanging out with his friends then hes going to think he can controll you and show you around like a trophy. If hes treating you like dirt then kick kiss ass to the curb, i know how hard that is but you will feel better and then hes going to relize that he screwed up.

Q: ive been talking to this guy for 5 yrs. but weve never been together and he lives in flordia right now. Well he just asked me to marry him,i really love him....but i don't want to get married, ive never wanted to get married. I don't know what to say.

HELP
-twiSTed

If you think your old anogh and you realy know him and love him and want to be with him for the rest of your life not dating any more guys then well thats your disision!

what ever your heat tells you, i hope i helped!!!

Q: Hey !! Im 15 and have had a crush on this one guy for over 4 years now (on and off) Ive had boyfriends during this time period but for some reason I keep going back to liking him. We've never been extremely close but we are friends. He's extremely cute, and has a good personality. We see each other out of school sometimes, but for some reason he will never talk to me online, wby is that? He was at my friends Swt 16 and we danced and I actually thought he'd ask me out but soon I found out he wouldn't date me because im quote "beautiful and too perfect" and he wouldnt want to just use me for sex because im more then that and im one of his friends. Im flattered but in the pit of my stomach I cant stop thinking about him, should I go on liking him or just move on and maybe one day he'll realize what he has lost? Please help me, thanks so much ! xO

i think you should make the first move then see what happends and if he dosnt like you then find an other guy because if he dosnt like you then hes not worth yoir time!

Q: You know how everyone will tell you " do it when the time is right " well how do you know when the time is right?

its not somthing u can ask out of the blue its very fragile its magical once it happens then you know youll be scared and worried like (is this a joke)BUT if u feel like the time is ready then its ready.1 time i was saying the same thing as you like oh no what do i do? but that person liked me and i realy liked him and well then it just happend we were on the beach wathching the sun go down holding hands and it happend!!!!!!

the best day of my life EVER!!!!!!

Q: 16/f
i am going to camp this week, and my ex boyfriend will be there.
we broke up in april and we haven't really talked since.
he came up to me at chruch once and apologized for what he did, but i don't think he really meant it because he still acts like a jerk towards me.
my question is, how can i have an awesome time at camp without thinking about my stupid ex?
thanks in advance

well when your not sure a guy said what he meant then take it SLOW!!!! dont get to involed into talking and if you get nervus then remeber what you did tourds him to coulm you down!

i hope you like my adivce!!!!