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ok hi im jenny
im 15 years old and i have been having a terrible 5 months.
ok so i dated this kid who is 2 years older than me for 2 years. He also lives across the street from me. I also would like to believe that we were in love once or so I thought. He really seemed to love me and i sure as hell loved him. Then after about a year and a half of dating i felt like i was kind of getting tired of him and so were my friends, so i broke it off. I dated another guy that was his age and it made him terribly jealous. He would still call me every night and I would talk to him. Every night he would tell me he loved me, even when i was dating someone else. But the bad part about that was i told him "i love you" back, because I really did. Your probably wondering why I did'nt just break up with the boyfriend I had then and go back to dating the one that I really loved. Well, I thought he wouldn't take me back and that he was just messing with me. So I dated that one guy for a few months making my ex jealous and then I finally broke it off. When i told the guy that i like that I broke up with that one guy he seemed happy, but that was it. After that we didn't hangout as much as I would have liked to and he didn't call me every night like he used to. I was so depressed. We kept talking occasionally and sometimes we would hangout, but rarley. Then one night I was going to introuduce my friend to him so we went outside and met up. He was acting VERY strange..he didn't give me a hug or even say hi to me, he was in a terrible mood. So my friend and I were not going to stand for it so we went back inside. I was SO MAD! I stayed up all night waiting for him to call me, but he never did. Then the next day he called, but being stubborn I did not answer thinking that i would call him back later. And yes i did call him back way later that night, but no answer. I kept trying and he never answered, so then i knew something was wrong. Now on this very day I still love him and want him back, and it has been 4-5 months. Oh by the way he has a new girlfriend that he is in LOVE with and he wont talk or even look at me. I REALLY NEED ADVICE and im sorry if this is confusing or too long but please read it all.. i want advice. just answer me back or email me if you have any questions. BUT PLEASE DONT TELL ME TO MOVE ON..TRUST ME I HAVE BEEN TRYING BUT HE LIVES RIGHT ACROSS THE STREET I SEE HIM EVERY DAY! (link)
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the only addive i have for you, bcause i dont wanna say move on, cuz i know thats hard. but the best i can say is that i have a similar problem, and from what the guy finally told me (after he stopped calling every night and ignored me) is that he needed to try to get over me, because he felt there was no chance nemore. i talked to him about it and he relized he cant be stubborn. instead of constnatly calling him becuase obv he dont answer, try going to his door so he kind of has no choice. or if you see him outside go outside and be like i just want to talk for a second. explain to him how you feel, and atleast still want to be fr4iend.(then move to more then frienfds). good luck, sorry i couldnt say nemore.
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I loathe reading super long love complications on this site so I'll try to keep this as short as possible.
I'm 16/f.
I think I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend who has moved to another town but I still see him weekly. We've broke up about a month and a half ago but still frequently have had a sexual relationship since then. I honestly can't see the difference between when we were going out and now. Anyway, one of his best mates is in love with me and he's told me and he's just so in love with me it's crazy. I've had sex with him but I just don't feel anything for him at all. My ex is angry at him for having sex with me. He said he wants to kill him. :S. Anyway I was talking to my best friend in the whole entire world 17/m tonight and I said I might make up a fake boyfriend so my ex's bestie will stay away from me and it won't hurt him as much as knowing that I don't like him at all in that way. Anyway, my bestie said to me that to be honest he would go out with me but he doesn't want to lose me if anything goes wrong in our relationship coz he's seen it happen. I do love my best friend a bit more than I should lately and I don't know whether it would be the right thing to go out with him. Would it get my ex out of my head and would it keep my ex;s bestie away?? Does anyone have any thoughts they want to share with me of what I should do or advice?
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dont just rush into a relationship. you seem to still like your ex if your haveing sexual relations with him. and by you havein sexual reltionsion with his best friend it, may have led him on a bit. i think u need to be honest with both of them. if you dont like your ex tell im tings need to stop between us becuase i vant keep doing this just for fun. and you need to explain to the best f4iend of ur ex that you have no feelings for him in that way at all and need him to try to get over you. now for the best friend of you, being best friends and havin a reltionship is kind of tough, but i think if you guys are best friends and have a lt in common it may work out. but just dont go out ewith him to get the other 2 off your back. dont hurt your best friend. if you really like him andfeel its right, tell him you wanna give it a try and if it works out then your all set =]
good luck, hope things work out.
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okay so i've been in relationships before, but none like this. i broke up with my ex boyfriend chris about a month ago, and we were together for 2 and half years. however about a year ago i started seeing this guy around the place i work.. and he always caught my eye. now i find him attractive of course but its like the eye contact and stuff, i dunno i just feel so happy and excited that i saw him. well it went on about probably 8-10 times since i first saw him. i wanted nothing more then to talk to him! well one day in may, he saw me, i was getting food to go from where i work, and he had just finished eating there, so i was outside and he stopped me. he said hi and we talked for just a few minutes and ended up exchanging phone numbers. well he calls and says "oh we need to hang out sometime" and i was so EXCITED! i cant even explain!
well the whole month of june, just about, it was off and on texting.. but i felt like i was sort of bothering him.. you know i would say "hey you (: whats up?" and i'd get "nuthin" im like "thats cool.." and then he wouldnt say anything back.. "then im like are you okay?" (after about the 3 time he'd done that to me" and he said "yeah im just busy" so i was like alright then thats cool. well apparently he was trying to straighten things out with this girl.. who he had been talking with for awhile and stuff. so hey thats cool, i was in the middle of breaking up with my bf, but it didnt kill me so much because it was something i've known for awhile that i wanted to do.
anywayy. so we get into this texting deal just about everyday.. the whole "good morning beautiful (:" etc.. he told me it felt like we were meant to meet eachother because we both had that happy feeling.. i always saw him looking at me before too. anyway. well he doesnt have his license yet, supposed to but his parents wont let him cause he kinda got into trouble for always arguing and stuff, so he cant drive to see me. he lives about 20 mins or so away.. well its cool you know i see him when hes by my work, which is about maybe once a week, i talk to him everyday so why be complaining you know?
well were still talking and he told me "i honestly like everything about you, and its not just looks, your so unique and i actually feel happy. i dont know why i didnt see it before (:" and i was so unsure on what to say back. i mean is that good or bad?! ha. so we keep talking and i tell him that i too really like him hes different then all the guys i've ever dated and i need change in my life. theres just some conection honestly.. and he apparently feels it too. however.. this phone call issue has sort of gotten to me.. he will say "okay im gunna call you in a bit (:" then two hours go by and he calls for like two minutes.. and that time he says "hey whats up?" i said "nothin getting ready for the concert" and he said "oh cool cool" then i said "what are you up to" and he said "oh im gunna go to this youth group thing in (blank) with one of my girlfriends, known he forever shes like me sister is that okay?" and im thinking.. i cant even get him to come see me 20 mins away, but hes gunna go through my city, to get to another town with this girlfriend of his, but yet he likes me oh so much? but i cant tell him no.. so i said yeah sure go ahead.. then he rushes off the phone and thats it. doesnt call til later that night.. becuase i felt worried.. i mean he says all this stuff but yet i felt like i was nothing to him.. so i asked "where do i stand with you honestly?" and he said "you stand really good, someone i can see myself with. honestly i know you like me for me and thats one thing that most girls dont do..i always get the "your so hott" instead of it being my personality"
occasionally he will mention "doing stuff" and i told him i dont just hook up with random people.. its someone i like and am in a relationship with.. and he said oh thats cool, well im not random (:.. and im thinking so what you just want some from me now? then he says how he likes to be single but if he finds that right girl he can be a boyfriend to someone too. well we talked last night for like 4 hours and i asked him why his last relationship didnt work out.. and he tells me.. he really loved her but she had a boyfriend and they're was so much drama, he just realized it wont work.. but then he also said how he called her yesterday to see her in person and talk about stuff.. i just dont understand..
i did see him the day before the concert and he came into my work, while i waited for a friend so we could eat there.. and he came in to say hi and gave me the biggest hug. he told me i looked beautiful and i was so nervous and happy.. and on his way out of the door, he was nervous and turned around to look at me.. he pushed on the wrong side of the door handle that he couldnt get it open.. haha.
so what do you think? does he like me, or no? one minute it seems like it.. then the next i feel like he's just being a sweet talker ya know? i thank you honestly for reading this.. i dont know how to make it any smaller lol.
thank you (:
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guys suck in other words hun lol. but to me it seems like he is not basically a 'playa' but likes the single life alot, and sees u as more then a friend but kind of a friend with possibly beniefits. he deffingelty doesnt seem liek the boyfriend type, or he would have gone to see you alredy. he is def a great sweet talker from what ive herd so far, but i dont personally think hes a boyfriend material kinda guy.i hope things turn out for the best hun =] good luck
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during the school year i had this amazingly hot guy in my math class. he's 17 and im almost 16 but im in advanced math, he didn't fail he's pretty smart. anyway he's blond and has the most amazing eyes. i liked him during the school year and now we're in summer school together. i swear i can get horny just looking at him but that's besides the point. he's a really cool kid and when we're at school we talk constantly.he's the type of guy who will look straight into your eyes when you're talking and will listen to every word you say.he flirts with me a little i guess. i want to flirt with him alot but i guess his age intimidates me. well that and he's the most popular kid in the school and he could have any girl he wants. my parents would love him because he's really respectful and caring but he deffinately knows how to have a good time. how do i flirt with him without being obsessive? i would screw this guy in a second if i had the chance....he's that hot. ladies you know how it is, help me out a bit. please (link)
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deffinetly go for him. you guys alredy talk alot and obv have alot in common. dont worry about his age or popularity becuase if he wanted any other girl he wouldnt be talkin to u =] he obv wants you. just try to talk to him like you would with any other guy. o yeah and aobut the age? just think of him as being your age, hes only a couple years older, no biggy. =] good luck
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I like this boy and he is so cute. He is Italian and I am too, so I really want to get to know him but I seem to not be able to talk to him. I could talk to other boys but not him. Even the boys that I like the other years I was able to talk. I guess I want him to come to me. Well, I mean I did talk to him a couple of times because we got partnered up but very small words. Such as: 50ml, no, yes, and small words. When we pick our seats I want to sit next to him but I don't want to. At the begining of the year we started starring at eachoher, it was weird. How do I know if he like me too? Should I stop liking him? What should I do next year. (link)
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typical boys!! so hard to figure out these days. hun, all you have to do is be confident. theirs multiple ways to get his attention. you can find a cute outfit and wear it around him one day, seee if he compliments you or atleast dragg his eye on you. also, study him (not strangley) but just see what hes interested in. possibly a sport? or drawing or something. then one day just start a conversation wit him about it. or you could compliment him on something, trust me guys LOVE to talk about them selves lol. tell him you like his shirt. i hope things go well, have a good day =]
- ask_blondie
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My boyfriend and I see eachother every day and talk on the phone every day. I am 18 and he is 21. Sometimes we get naggy or fight about stupid things. He always has to be right and he sometimes says hurtful things not meaning to hurt me. I was wondering how we can strengthen our relationship so we dont ever fight and we are happier together. I love him so much and I love spending time with him. We have sleepovers sometimes and we are intimate. We have been dating for 3 months but we moved really fast. (link)
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hey hun
one of your faults would have been moviing so fast, its not a bad thing, but i do kno that by takin things slower would have helped things last longer. 1stly you need to sit down with your boo and tell him how you feel. let him know what hurts you and explain to himm you realyl liek him but dont like how he treats you sometimes. possibly sugest goin on fun dates, like amusement parks and walks on the beach or maybe a bike ride or something were you gusy can get along. try to keep busy with him all the time and spend time together. if that dont work try to spend less time together, maybe monday-with him; tuesday-freinds; wednesday-him; alternate days. itll make him wanting you more and more; means less fighting. =] good luck
- ask_blondie
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okay so basically i like this boy named matt. we always cuddle and hold hands when we're at our friends house but the only problem is theres another girl.. he has been basically in love with this girl kelly for the longest time. matt & i live in new jersey and kelly lives six hours away in a different state. he said he's seen her 5 times in the past 3 years..so nobody really thinks it could work but they both like each other. my best friend megan said he talks & acts different around lauren & i as opposed to other girls so how do i get him to like me more than only a bestfriend? are there suddle things to do? any advice would helpp =) (link)
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long distant relationships never normally work out. you need to sit matt down and tell him how you feel. i know that sometimes its hard in person, so maybe on the fone or in a letter or something. just tell him that you realyl liek him and explain that long distan reltionships dont work out well. i wish i had more addive for you but the best i can tell you is to tell him how you feel for him. i know how you feel, i have the same problem. =]good luck
- ask_blondie
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