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hey yall! whats up! well my name is haley, i am 13, i go to ctms, which is a pretty awesome school bc i have really awesome friends to help me through everything! my best friend moved tho, waAaAaAaAa, and i miss her like no other, but we still hang out all the time and are still like sisters! i am pretty tall, '5''6, brunnett hair, dark brown eyes, and i'm pretty much everyones friend, at least thats what i think, but you know i could be wrong! i have a boyfriend that i love more than anything in the world! and well yah, i hope that you'll let me help you with your problems bc thats why i'm here!
love yall bunches!
xoxoxoxoxo
Haley
p.s.- please please PLEASE rate me, whether its good or bad, i would love to know if i helped or not! thanks if ya do! if you dont, well ok i guess thats fine too, lol! thanks yall!

advice

I have this friend named Emily. She has recently just liked this guy named Justin. Well a week ago she decided she didn't like him anymore. Last night they were talking online and Justin told Emily that he really really liked me and he was going to ask me out and if i said no then he would like be at da point crying. I don't like him and i don't really want to go out cuz i like someone else but my friend wants me to go out w/ him... what should i do?

well you shouldnt go out with someone that you dont like, that would just be dumb! sometimes, even though they're trying to do the right thing and help out, they're really not! i mean come on, we've all done it at least a few times! just tell her that you dont want to go out with him and if she still pushed the situation and he does end up asking you out just tell him no. you really shouldnt tell him yes just because you wouldnt be being fair to you or him. if you friend doesnt understand right away then dont worry about it! she'll eventully get it!
~Haley~

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How do you know when you're in love? And I mean really in love, not lusting after something you can't have, not loving someone, IN love, with 'the one'. How do you know?
Thnx,
Hallie

when your in love then feel like that one person means more than anything else to you. you would do anything for them, ANYTHING. you dont care what other people think about yall, as in like together. its a tricky emotion and it sometimes takes time to fully understand it. i hope i helped!
~Haley~

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I love this guy so much. His name is Ryan and he lives in Florida, I live in Texas. We talk to each other on the internet and on the phone and we've gotten in alot of fights and he would tell me sweet things like "Molly, you're so perfect I love you" and my friends tell me not to feed off of his words but I can't help it! He's in love with another girl but she lives far away too. I love him sooooo much and I'm in love with him but it's stupid cause I haven't even met him. And I know he doesn't love me back. Please help!

if yall really really do love eachother, than distance shouldnt really matter! **love is stronger than 1000 miles of rough mountain road** but you do kinda need to find out about this other girl because that might be a lil problem! hope yall work out!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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i have been going out with this guy brandon,brandon has an ex gf thats very jealous and wants him back shes made a huge deal about it she threatened me, my friends,shes been saspended.brandon said he would never go back out with her that shes stupid shes gotten so many people in trouble and upset.I kno the only reason why brandon ever went out with her in the first place is becuase he wanted sex,she did everything for him she did his hw,shed sleep with him whenever,just everything.he called me and told me things werent working out between us and he wanted to break up i agreed are relationship wasnt as good as i thought it was i wasnt upset about it i didnt really care until my friend karina called and told me he was hooking back up with his ex gf.I think thats so fucked up its really bothering me and i dont kno how to face it school starts agian monday and i have to see them both i kno someones going to mention something and ask me why he is with her i dont kno what to do help

people cant always controll their feelings for other ppl, so yes you have a right to be really mad but dont take it overboard, ok? if that happens just tell them that things didnt work out and yall broke up, its the truth so just tell it! i'm sorry that he did that to you bc he shouldnt have, but hey, it did happen, so you just gotta go on, right? right! lol! never give up!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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ok well im goin out with this guy and i like him so much and i dont wanna jeaperdise our relationship so i wanna take things slow. my friends keep eargin me to do things like hold his hand kiss him and im not comfortable with that kinda stuff and especially cuz one of my friends that does that has never had a bf so she doesnt know how it feels! what should i do to get my friends to stop?

tell them exactly what you just told me. dont let them presure you into stuff, bc its not worth it if it doesnt come naturally by-itself. if they dont understand then just tell them to back off and that its really none of their buisness anyways! i mean after all, its your bf, your relashonship, and most importantly YALLS decision, not your friends!
best of luck and lots of love!
~Haley~

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so. my best friend introduced me to a guy she dated about a year ago.He ended up falling for me, and then he got me to fall for him. and..we were in love. Seriously. The feeling is just to hard to explain. We basically did everying except sex, and oral sex. I look back on it, and it makes my skin crawl. So, he ended it with me about a month ago, and he let me down pretty hard. It hurt so bad, but then I found out what an ass hole he was. (He cheated on my best friend) I'm finally over him, but the problem is, sometimes, when I'm alone I can't stop thinking about him, and it makes my cry so hard. I just can't forget how he made me feel. I hate it because I'm dating someone else now, who is so great, and treats me so much better. I feel unfaithful almost. What can I do to forget him!? I'm 15, and a girl...obviously. Rarr! I can't handle this!

you loved him, and he loved you, your going to feel kinda bad about everything, beleive me i've been in your shoes before. you just have to think about your bf now, and about how great he is and it will be ok! if you need anything then just im me!
good luck!
~Haley~

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okay.. me and this guy have been "talking.." like.. we like each other.. and me and his ex girlfriend DONT like each other.. well.. she IMed me last night.. and she was like.. " i just wanted to tell you im sorry and i dont hate you.. im just jelous of you because you have the one thing i want.. " and then she was being super nice.. well.. today.. he came over to my house.. and she called his cell and was telling him all these lies about me... ( she didnt know he was at my house ) okay.. so i got on the phone and i was like.. "um.. hes busy.. bye!" and then she wrote my advice column saying all this stuff about me.. and i dont know what should i do? should i end things with him?

dont let the lil bitch get to you, she's just jealous, that part of what she said isnt a lie. and remember, if you really like him then you shouldnt just give up bc of his ex! i mean it is his ex, so it shouldnt even really matter! hope yall work everything out!
x0x0x0x0x0x0x
Haley

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ok ...
well i am like..idk prude and i really dont have an interest in kissing or making out or anything, but most of my friends aren't prude and it like this little joke we have about how prude i am..but its not funny to me. i mean i dont want to be prude but i just AM...i feel uncomfortble when they are like talking about that kind of stuff too...what should i do?? ive tried laughing it off, but the feeling in my stomach when they talk about and do that kind of stuff doesnt go away.
its getting to be a big problem!!

their your friends, you have to be honest with them, and if you cant be then their not really your friends now are they? just tell them, or maybe not even tell them, just slip them a hint or 2 that saying that your prude really hurts your feelings. there are alot of ppl like you out there that are uncomfertable with making out and stuff, but just dont worry about it. when the time comes you'll be fine. oh and 1 more thing, if they dont stop then tell me who they are (if i know you) and i'll *talk* to them very *calmly* (yah right) and we'll *straighten out* this lil situation!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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On tuesday, my boyfriend broke up with me. I was really upset and then today I met up with some friends and he was there. We all decided to go back to my house and my ex and I were flirting quite alot. Then, one of our friends said: "Look, you both obviously fancy each other, go back out." So my ex asked me out and I said yes. The thing is, do you think it is worth giving it another try? The reason he broke up with me was because we didn't really talk enough or anything but can that be fixed? Should I bother trying again?

talk to him more then! if yall have gone out 2ce then there obviously must be a reason! just try and make it work this time and if it doesnt, then its just not meant to be!
~haley~

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ok im 13/f and my bf always asks me do u wanna make out and hell yea i do but i dont know how how? i mean idk.i really like my bf but i am kinda prude and i wanna atleast make out so this is kinda a stupid question but how do u make out with sum1?
ok i need advice asap bc my bf is starting to get annoyed bc i keep saying not right now not right now...any1 have any ideas? im afraid he may break up with me?

come on! if you cant make out with your bf then thats kinda sad, just playing! ok but yah, it happens to alot of ppl so dont stress! it just comes natural, i promise! and dont worry about him breaking up with you, just make out with him and he'll (hopefully lol) be satisfied. guys only think about 2 things at this age, video games and gettin some, lol, so you just gotta work with them! lol! so hope i helped!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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Well hi um im like a really paranoid person i guess or something.. and this is going to be kinda long so please help me on what to think.. well my boyfriend hasnt called me and i havent seen him in two days.. well its driving me crazy not knowing whats going on cause i dont know if he is breakin up wit me or what, or even if he left somewhere for the holidays but i would think he would tell me.. but then i think one his friends that like me told him something because ever since i got wit my boyfriend his friend has tried what ever he could to break us up.. so im also wonderin maybe he told my boyfriend something.. i jus dont know and i keep crying.. but ive tried callin his house and ask for him an they jus say he not there real fast and hang up.. so i dont know if he has got em to lie or if he is really not there.. so please help me on what you think id understand if it was hard to help... thanks LADESSA!

dont worry, i think it happens to all of us a time or two. he's probly just really not there, but next time you call say somethin like 'do you know when he's gunna be back?', or 'do you know where he is', and if they hang up to fast then just call back, yah it will probly annoy them a lil but who cares! i'm sure that they're annoying you! right?! but ya, dont just aatomaticly assume that he's gunna break up with you or that somethins wrong, bc i've done that before and it doesnt help and then you feel like a dumb ass for thinkin it! so yah, just chill out a lil bit and it will all be fine!
good luck!
~Haley~

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There's this guy at my school that I really like, and think I am in love with (I have thought this for YEARS). But I'm afraid to start anything with him because he has kind of been the center of many jokes between me and my friends, and he's not exactly the hottest guy on earth lol. He is kind of short, in fact, I think I'm taller than him. But he's kind of cute in a way and I really like his personality. I know I could probably get a hotter guy, but for some reason I feel like he is the only one I could be happy with. But I am afraid of what my friends will think if I tell them I like him. So what should I do?

if he's good enough for you than thats all that really matters isnt it? i mean if your friends are really your friends than they should support you no matter what! find out if he likes you and if he does then go for it!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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haley i need ur help and ualways give it to me

he wont answer my calls he ont call me he wont look or talk or talk to me but i really like him and i dont really know y so do i break up with him or not?

wow, hard thing. well what i would do is make him talk to you, and by seeing how much he really loves you. what you do is call him and if he doesnt pick up then leave a message saying that if he doesnt call you back in 10 min. then its over. if he calls, he calls and you ask him what his problem is and talk things over. and if he doesnt, well thats kinda self explanitory. if you just arnt going to break it off because you still love him then uh uh, no. if the feeling isnt mutual then it doesnt matter at all.
love ya lots!
~Haley~

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well ya see...i like this girl and like im not sure whether just to go for it or not because i mean like it seems everytime i go for it, it seems to not go my way, and this person i have liked for a long time and she has been kinda on and off but now she is like more on than ever. and then to top it all off, since her friend is like so nice to me, i think i like her too. so i mean like what should i do or not do?

well i think that first you need to figure out who you like. i mean yah, its normal to like more than one person, but if your this serious about it then i think you need to sort out your feeling first, and then decide what to do. write me back when you COMPLETLY know what you feel!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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What is the best way to break up with a boy if you are going to. Should I call him, write him a note, E-mail him, or IM him?! :-/

-Worried

i always say face to face or note. with the note then i think that its like the seconed best thing bc you have to give it to him in person, idk why but i have a thing with breaking up when its not face to face. one of the worst things that you can do, in my opinion, is im bc i think, idk that its more sencere in person. i've tried the phone thing, and i've tried friends doing it for me, but that makes me feel even worse about it! so idk! theres my advice!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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ok i like this guy and he knows i like him and ive heard that he likes me bak. and so that made me really excited but hes not doing anything about it. its like hes afraid or something. but i really like him and like when he gives me hugs and stuff it makes me feel good what do i do to kind of give him a shuv to do something?

hmmm.... well, what i would do, is just go up to him and be like HEY!!! DO YOU LIKE ME OR NOT!!!! lol! well thats what i would do! bc i'm not a very shy person so thats my best answer! and then i would be like, if he says yes, then be like so what are you going to do about it! lol! i'm kinda hyper right now so sorry if this isnt my best advice!
lots of love!
~Haley~

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I've had this crush on this girl for quite some time. It's gotten to the point where I'll buy stuff I don't really need, nor do I really want, just to talk to her. She always seems happy to see me and always gives me a big hug before I leave. The problem is I have no idea how old she is. I'm not the type of guy who judges people who date younger or older people, but it seems to worry my when I'm involved. I'm 20, what if she's only 15 or 16. She looks and kind of acts young, so I'm worried. What do you think the dating age limit should be for someone like myself?

The other problem. Earlier today, I saw scars and cuts on her rist. It doesn't look like something an accident would have caused. I know she can't really die from cuts on arm, but the scars aren't exactly good for her either. How should I go about asking her where they're from? Is it even my business to ask such a question? What if she obviously lies to me about the scars origins? Should I just drop it then or what?

just plain out ask her how old she is! i mean if you really like her, and it seems like she likes you too or at least thats my guess, then age shouldnt really matter unless she's like under 16 bc that would be a lil to much. about the scares thing, i wouldnt just ask her about it as like a random thing. after you find out how old she is, and get to know her a lil more, then maybe she would be comfertable telling you. i mean it could be from like something funni and simple, and you never know it could've been an accident, or it could be something serious like she's a cutter or used to cut. but yah, dont bring it up in simple conversation, something tells me the outcome wouldnt be that great!
hope i helped!
~Haley~

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At the school dance the other night, i danced with one of my good friends who i found out liked me..and he's going to ask me out. I like him a lot as a friend and i think that I would like to give dating him a shot. Trouble is, my best friend really likes him. He doesn't like her in that way, and my best friend is a great friend to me and everybody else...now people are telling me that i shouldn't have danced with him because it was a mean thing to do to my best friend.What do i do about this whole situation?

short answer this time! FRIENDS FIRST! dont feel bad about the past, and if she's not mad about it then just leave it alone! friends will be there forever! guys wont! gf/bf's break up all the time, but best friends dont! i mean sure you get in fights but you almost always work it out!
hope it helps!
~Haley~

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So I'm 16 and I haven't even had my first kiss yet. I have alot of guy friends but they are all what it sounds like "guy" friends not boyfriends. I'm not a tombboy or whatever..Am I missing something here.

honestly i bet that alot more ppl than you think havent had their first kiss yet, and that means that once you do it will just make it all that more great! just dont go and kiss a guy if your JUST doing it to kiss someone, like i said, make it special!
hope it helps!
~Haley~

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hey, i like this guy a whole lot, and he likes me 2. we are really close friends, so we dont wanna go out cause it may ruin our friendship, but we still like each other. what should i do? its kind of driving me crazy, but i dont wanna go out w/ him either! thanks, hope this makes sense!

well honey, you know what, you cant just sit and wonder about what might come to be, you have to actully do something about it and see! your not being fair to yourslef or the guy if your just not doing it bc your afraid of what might be. plus, even though unfortunetly some bad relashonships do ruin friendships, if yall are THAT good of friends, then with time if it doesnt work out then i think that yall should be fine!
hope it helps!
~Haley~

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