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Hi I am the teen helper. I stumbled on this website while on google it really caught my eye so I read on and though this is just what I really need ( but not exactly what I was looking for on google). I have been told I'm really good at giving advice to my friends and I always wanted to make a difference. I am mostly focusing on teens because not only are teens going though a lot of crazy stuff at the time and just really need someone to ask or talk about problems but I am a teen myself.
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Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.
I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.
Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.
On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.
Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants.
No it\'s not pathetic. It\'s a normal first relationship but you two need to talk more about feelings and encourage him to do the same. I know, guys don\'t like doing that but with a little encouragement it will be easy. And just start the conversation and try to keep it going don\'t worry bout being annoying or saying the wrong thing. If you continue to talk you should understand what will annoy him and how to talk to him with out going over the line. And just ask him if he wanted to ask you out or if he wants to be with you. Don\'t waste your time playing relationship chicken
Why when you love someone so much and you and this person have been through just about everything together do they just expect for you to just give up so easy bc they did? How do you give up on the one person you love most?
I know how you feel. It's hard but the best way is to find something that amazes and helps you so much that you completely forget about it like books, movies, parties, or maybe a friend or someone that you always forget about things. I know it's hard but you need to try something. Caring is the hard part but make yourself self distant from them
well im a female, 18.
me and my boyfriend broke up around 3/4 days ago, well he ended it :'( he ended it cause he says he don t trust me any longer..
we were dating for like 1 year :(
the reason he ended it with me is because i forgot to mention one detail that happened to me when i was 14 ... he says he cant trust me anymore that im a liar.
well my point is , when a guy shows he doesnt care anymore , is that when he still cares the most?
+ im his first love, like inside me i know he cant forget me , and i honestly dont want to move on , when my heart feels something like this for him..
we all make mistakes and choices.
ah this is so harddd:'(
Keep your head high. When he calms down try to talk to him face to face (It will mean way more). If he loves you he probably so confused right now about you. He probably is upset but yet he misses you and wants to undo it. Try not to talk about it at the wrong time it may go the wrong way. If he loves you he will try to understand and take some of the blame. You also have to understand how that may have hurt him and take it into consideration it will help the conversation when you talk. If he does try to make it work he is either still upset or even more confused. Don't wait to long or he will get a set idea that it wasn't meant to be. But if it's the way you say it is he will try cause he loves you and all the great memories of the time he spent with you are there with him and wants to go back to the way it was. If He is not at all forgiving about it after that then he be in love with you because unlike him you tried to make it work cause you care and you love him.
So, 13/f and I met this dude. 16/m and I haven't really met him offiicially or seen the guy. I just try to imagine him. Lets just say his name is Mike. When I think about his REAL name the thing that comes to mind is blonde hair blue eyes and let the rest fall in place. Well, we talked over the power of the internet and he sounds really nice and harmless. I don't know who he really is or what he looks like we met by chance on this really cool website and happened to hit him up about it. I think I like him, he sounds pretty harmless to me, but that's just the internet, he might be some homeboy trying to get a life. Who knows he might even a 50 perverted year old dude who is lonely and stupid. So, how do I get to bring up the subject of what we look like in a convo while chatting?? Is 3 years older than me way out of my league?? I mean, IDK if he's in a relationship wit someone, but I want to get some ideas. Can you guys give me some please?? Thanks so much.
First things first you are 13 and meeting someone on the web is really pointless because you have a whole field of guys out there you could meet. It maybe accident that you meet but it really shouldn't mean much because people can say things easier when it's not to your face.
Second he is three years older, trust me not good idea. I hate say that I been there but I have bad idea at this age. I was like you and was just considering then I started thinking clearly. It was really stupid of me at the time. I understand it's alluring but the more you think about it the weirder it will seem. Important thing i learned from it. Trust me bad idea.
Third and final: huge safety reason there. Like I said before it is so much easier to say stuff when your not looking at the persons face this could be very dangerous if ends up not being the person he claims to be don't take the chance.
Listen to everyone else who are commenting they are right
My parents are worried about me but i don't care bcoz i suffered a lot when i conveyed my love life with my lover to them. they dont even cared to listen to me.
Iam having 10-12 large of whisky daily to get sleep
I had tried even with call girls to get satisfied but it doesn't work. to forget my love life.
Holla13 is completely right your life just don't end because of the girl. You have your life in front of you and the more you get wasted, your life gets wasted. Get your mind off her or try to understand what happen but in the end you want to feel good about what you are doing. Don't do anything you will regret you really need to understand it will give you an ease of mind. Drinking could cause a lot of trouble for you both your health and later on in life. If you have a record of drinking at all you lose any scholarships and a chance to be on the A+ program and these days you really need things like that. I know you are hurting but you are gonna be hurting much worst after its all though.
ok, i like this boy but i get way to nervous around him. i start sweating, stuttering, and i cant stop staring at him. i really dont know what to do and i cant avoid him because he comes over my house sometimes. someone please help me?
Don't worry picture him just a friend and when he talks to you act normal when you talk to him. if it is to hard to look at him while talking then try to look off just a little bit not much or else he will get the wrong impression. If you want him to like you then give little hints that you do like him but don't make it odvious or it may give the wrong impression. Then when you start talking more and open up to each other tell him how you feel about him.