Hey...
I am a 14 year-old girl...and I love giving advice to anyone, about anything. I am a role model to ppl**luv all of you sistahs**, and one of them told me that I should start my own advice column..so here I am! I am an outgoing, fun, friendly, nice person...and I will always help ya, no matter what! Just ask a question, and I'll reply as soon as I can! Thanks!:)
Age: 14
AIM: sunshine2240
Member Since: March 11, 2004
Answers: 23
Last Update: July 25, 2006
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Hey, this is Terence. I have a huge question. You see I like this girl. A lot. We are pretty good friends. I want to take it to the next level but she doesn't. I want to know what to do about it. Also, we don't talk that much to each other other than on the internet. I'm trying to reverse that, but she isn't helping as much as i think she should. I want to know what to do about all this? (link)
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Hey Terence...
Well I think it's always important to be yourself..I mean she should love you for who you are..not for someone your not..You don't have to go all out of your way to talk to her...just talk to her when the time is right....don't force it...She will talk to you when she feels like it, I guess..is what I'm trying to say. Girls need space and have other people to talk to as well...Just always follow your heart and you never know.
~*StArLiTeStArBrItE08~*
Oh, and keep talkin to her..friends is a start.
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Hey this is Zach. I like this girl alot. We are good friends, but I want to be more than that. I think we have a good relationship, but im not sure. Should I ask her out? Maybe to a movie? (link)
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Hey Zach..
Thanks for asking a question in my advice column! I think first you should talk to her and find out how she feels about you..to make shure you are on the same level! A movie and hanging out is a good way to find out more about each other and build your relationship. If you both feel the same way about each other after all of that, then you can try pursuing a bf/gf relationship. But be careful that you don't rush things since you were just friends not too long before that. Take things at the pace she wants to go. I hope I helped! Plz rate me! If you ever need advice, jus come ask me:)
Let me know what happens!
Good luck dude!:)
~*StArLiTeStArBrItE08*~
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i dont want to say my name but lets say my name is Lucy My Bff's is Tina and the boy is Darnell ok me and "tina" r best friends and we both like Darnell but u c i like darnell more then tina and darnell like tina more then me and sumtimes it feels like she replaces me 4 him or sumtimes fronts around him ( u no act different ) but i try to let it go but a lot of ppl like lets say her name is loraine she likes to make me mad at darnell by makin up fake stories jus cuz he dont like her so wut should i do??????? I'm 14 and im a female (link)
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Hey..
Thanks for asking a question in my advice column! I can relate to how you and your best friend like the same guy...that happens a lot these days! It's not like you can get her to stop liking him or anything...because you can't change someone else's feelings for someone else. I hate the feeling of being "replaced" too. It's not a great feeling at all...I hear ya! When someone tries to act different around a guy...u know that you need to talk to them right away. She's your best friend because of how she always was...not because of the other person she's trying to be just for him! That's good you try to let it go. I'd suggest talking to your best friend and letting her know that you miss the way you guys always like hung out...how u know you were closer....trust me this has happened to me before! I had a heart-to-heart conversation with her...and now everything is so great. We are closer than ever! I would also suggest that you talk to your other friends about the stories they make up. That's not a very kind thing they are doing and if you don't like it..I think you should also talk to them...and let them know. They will never know how you are feeling unless you talk to them! I hope this helps. Please let me know what happens and how everything turns out!
Thanks...and please ask another question in my advice column whenever you want.
Katie:)
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Will you go out with me katie? (link)
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I already go out wit u!
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Dear Starlight,
I have a big crush on this girl. Should i ask her out?
- Matt A. (link)
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Hey..
Well if you like the girl enough and you have "sparks" and things in common..(getting along well is important too)..then I'd say go for it..Just make shure you have a good enough friendship first...and that you know this girl really well. This will help you both have an enjoyable relationship. Thanks for the question.
StarliteStarbrite
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Ok well I have a bf and people say he is shy at kissing but wants too...what should I do? cause i want to with out feeling stupid (link)
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Hey...
Thanks for asking me a question in my advice column! You go gurl on having a boyfriend in the first place!!(LOL) I'd suggest that if he wants to kiss you and is shy....and you do as well...that you have to take the initiative and talk to him about it..then he may feel more comfortable. You can just ask him why he feels so shy about it...and maybe he will open up and tell you. Then you could tell him there's nothing to be shy about and you know, just comfort him. Then, after you talked to him, if he was still shy, you could again take the initiative and kiss him first(start slow though) I hope this helps...tell me what happens please:) Thanks! Whenever you need advice again, just come and ask me:)
Katie
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My bffl is like so totally going out with this guy that she really likes and he totally likes her. they have been wanting to go out since like the 3rd grade and finally like 5 years later they are. But the problem is, is that like 2 of my friends, and me like so totally hate is guts! He calls us bitches and is always extra meen to us at recess and lunch. He purpusly spills our stuff.
Another problem with her relationship is that my other freind totally likes him too. and she thinks that my other friend should break up with him so that she can go with him. but I think that they should both break up with him and nobody go with him because he is a total bully. But, if my friend loves him.....I want the best for my friend. Every time I try to talk to her she acts like I'm ruining her love life! What should I do!?! I need serious help! (link)
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Hey!
Thanks for asking a question in my advice column. I'd first like to say that you are on the right track for talking to your friend about it...and wanting the best for your friend. Of course, it is your friend's decision on her own love life, you also may be part of it in a way..if you all hang out together or what not. If they really like each other, they will find a way to work things out. But, I do think that it is wrong of your friend to still go out with him when he calls you bitches and all...cause face it ....that's just plain mean. It would be a different story if he came clean and didn't talk that way to you guys after your friend and him started going out. Unfortunately, that doesn't seem to be the case though. I do not think you are ruining her love life...just because you care so much about her...that is why you are helping her. I think that since you have already tried to talk to your best friend, talk to her boyfriend and tell him how you really feel about the whole situation...then hopefully he will talk to her about it and things will get better...Also, keep talking to your best friend...in the nicest way possible....and let her know it's all going to be ok..that things will work out for the better. I wish you all the best:) Please ask another question when you want! Also, it would be nice if you told me what happened!!:) Good Luck!!
*~KaTiE~*
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Im in 5th grade, and i like a boy in 6th! he was on my baseball team...but now hes not! I dont kno how i can get him to notice me! i really like him but he doesnt even kno i exsist! HELP PLZ KT! Love you SO Much! ~*Nicole*~ (link)
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Hey Nicki~
I would suggest that you try talking to him, or finding out if he has a screen name or e-mail address in which you guys could talk, and get to know each other better. Of course, you don't have to go all out just to get him to notice you. You're a great person, and he should notice that himself. It is, however, a little bit hard when you are in different grades. Don't worry though, because if you follow your heart, which tells you that you and this guy may have things in common and like each other, then go for it. Just be yourself, no matter what. If he doesn't notice you then, he is missing out on A LOT! So, I would say you could start by trying to talk to him, or if that's not possible, then try saying hi or smiling to him in the hallways. That way, he knows you are thinking of him or are a kind person because of that. I hope this helps ya! lulas! ~*KT~
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Katie~
Ok here is the story see i like this boy, and he says he likes me, but he tells every girl what she wants to hear at the time! cuz today in class he was talking to this other girl and he said "I like you the most out of ALL the other girls!" So i talked to him ater saying that he told me he liked me and no one else. and he said he was jk-ing to her! and how do i no when other people ask him if he likes me, he isnt saying he was jk-ing to me?!
And then there is this other boy who asked me out and i said no...but i still like him but i just don't want a bf right now....and now whenever he sees me by another guy he gets all jealous and gets mad and says do you go with him? or he acusses me of likeing every single guy i talk to! I like this boy too but he is driving me away by doing this...what should i do for each boy and what should i say to them? HELP PLZ!!
LYLAS
~confuzed** (link)
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Hey~
Thanks for checking out my advice column, and asking a few questions:) I am always happy to help ya! See, the thing is with guys, they can lie and deceive you. Although they can be sweet, sometimes what they say to you may not all be true, only partially. If this first boy who said he likes you, and tells every girl what he wants to hear...I would suggest talking to him..as you did already for what he told the girl...Ask him what's going on between you two? If he feels uncomfortable answering, just tell him you are just wondering because lately it feels like he is flirting with every girl and you are wondering where you stand on his love life scale. If things work out between you two, great! If not, there are tons of fish in the sea:)
You know when other people ask him if he says he likes you...and he isnt saying he was jk-ing to you..well that's just a matter of trust. If you trust the boy you like enough, you will forsure know in your heart that he is not lying to you. If you are unsure, then ask him yourself...if he is telling you the truth. It at least can't hurt to ask him...
For the other boy....I think maybe just try to talk with him too as you do with other guys, trying to make the conversations as normal as possible. Somehow, I think this would help him from becoming so jealous that you talk with all these other guys, and not him. He should understand that you don't want a bf rite now....and hopefully he'll catch on that you want to just be friends for RITE NOW. Maybe....just maybe..later..something will come of the whole situation..let him know nothing more rite now. (gently though lol)....Every single guy you talk to definetly does not mean you like them. Guys can be your friends too....and you know in some cases...more! If you do talk to him and he feels more comfortable and happy this way....then I believe things will be better for the both of you. Does he know that you like him? If not, it's really up to you at this point whether to wait and tell him....which I say you do...because that way he won't be all like" Well, why won't you go out with me if you like me?" This way, you can give him some time(and you as well)...because you both need your own space for the moment.
I hope I have helped in some way or another!!
Feel free to come back and tell me what happens, or if you need advice on boys or anything else!!
LULAS!
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Will Alex go out wit me??????...lol (link)
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Hey...like I answered this one before...just do what your heart believes is right..follow it and trust it...no matter what...if you really like him...then tell him how you feel. No matter what...he just has to accept the fact that you like him(if you still do)...and you can go from there...depending on how you connect and things like that. Good luck!
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Will Alex go wit me??? (link)
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Hey Becca..
I think maybe if you get to know Alex better...and things like that..he will maybe go out with you..You never know. Life is surprising...it brings new surprises each and everyday! Just see what happens...and be shure to let me know...just talk to him and see if you guys have many common interests...and things will start to pull together.
Cya..and thanks for asking me a question!
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