My Name is Sean, and it's nice to meet you!
I am a genuine, sincere, down to earth young adult with many good things to say.
I can help you out with almost any situation, and I pride myself on doing just that.
I am a high school senior and plan to attend a TX 4 year university in the fall of 2008.
I plan to get my PHD in Psychology and become a therapist to young teens :)
Oh, and just an FYI all the questions asked on my profile before July of 07 were when I did this thing for fun, and I was much less mature than I am now. So please, kindly disregard all advice prior to July of 2007. :)
So without further delay, think up those questions and fire at will! :)
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Alright this is probably the most random format I've ever gone about choosing to try and fucking get some help from an oustider who may actually see the situation more clearly then I do.
My first love and I dated for a year and he has a pretty serious drug problem and recently he moved away to Egypt to live with his dad and go through rehab and such, and so I was under the impression we were over atleast while he was gone (even though we've been strained for a long time and the relationship hasnt gotten any easier I'm still very much so in love of him, or I LOVE him maybe not in love.)
So anyone when I was driving him to the airport he made it clear that he knew i was going to want to live my life the way I would if he wasn't a part of my life because its easier that way while hes gone, and so I thought we had an understanding and I agreed to do so but to be completly honest.
So hes been gone for about a week or so and I'm already "hanging out" and getting relatively close to this other guy, hes totally the opposite of my prior boyfriend. He doesnt do drugs, is very goal oriented and follows through..although I'm not overwhelmingly interested in what he has to say alot of the time but he does make me feel good and he obviously wants to help me with my fucked up shit. He seems like someone who could take care of me which is really what I need, and he was clear from the beginning he didnt nessesarily want a "relationship" so is it so wrong that in some respects he feels like a space holder for my ex and i'm just waiting for my ex to get back. I dont honestly think thats how I'm going to go about things and in some ways I dont think my ex is coming back so I'm just trying to ease the blow when I finally find out.
I dont know.
Fuck. (link)
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Well my dear, that most certianlly sounds like a delimea.
I'm sorry to hear about your boyfriend, I imagine that has to be really hard for both you and him alike. I know this might sound extremely out of place but I think right now, that might be the best postion for both of you.
Think about it, he's in a more conservative environment receiving the help he needs (because people involved with drugs do need it, trust me, I have friends who have gone through rehab and it does work). Drugs are no good to anyone. They hurt not only himself but the people around him as well. Plus, this gives you some time to clear your head, see other people, and live a life free of that problem for awhile. :)
Now, in the matter of your new boyfriend. From an outside perspective, this guy does seem very genuine. It takes alot of mental patience to tackle a new relationship, especially one involving a previous history of drugs. He sounds very admirable, and you should feel lucky to have a guy like that around to keep your ahead above water.
Now, does it seem like this guy is a new love interest? It depends on what you want it to be. Think about it. Do you honestely feel your ready to start a new relationship already? Unless you really didn't want to be with your old boyfriend, I think not. It sounds to me like your not quite ready to let him go, and just using this new guy to help get through this time a little easier.
Is that ultimatley a bad thing? No. Because at lesat its giving you a positive outlet to release your thoughts and emotions. You also said he initially said that he wasn't looking for a rel, which is good because it means you 2 are on the same page. He isn't wanting you in that way, and you don't either. So as of now, its perfectly alright!
Now what the future holds can be a different story. I think what needs to happend is for you 2 to sit down and ask yourselves, how far do we want this to go? Tell him your not ready to move on just yet, and would prefer him just as a good friend until your ready (if you ever do decide to pick him over your ex), that way he knows how you feel and you can decide how to move forward together.
:) Hope that helped!
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So I have this friend who I might possibly have feelings for, but I don't really know how to tell him. But also, if he doesn't feel the same, I don't want things to be weird whenever we hang out.
How would you recomend to tell him? (link)
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Excellent question!
Alot of us go through somewhat of the same thing all the time. Trust me when I say, i've been in your position before, many a times. So fourtunatley for this topic, I do have some prior experience.
First off, we need to establish how good of friends you are. Is he a good friend? If so, do you personally think that in some form or fashion there might be some sort of connection? This is important to understand because how good of frineds you are can be a big factor in how this whole thing plays out.
If he's a pretty good friend, I would suggest you do this. Call him one night and start up a conversation, anything at all. Just something to get the blood flowing.
Then, causually bring up the topic of his love life. I might suggest something to the nature of "So *name*, who you got your eye on these days?" or "So *name* anyone in particular you've been interested in lately?" See how he reacts. If its shaky or no one, then your in good shape. That means he's open to anything at the moment. If he brings up that there is someone in particular, poke some gentle fun at it. See if you can't pry it out of him without being to forceful.
If he's not so good a frined, more an aqquatiance, I would suggest something slightly different. Wait it out a bit, let life run its course and see if things don't happend on their own. If the chemistry is there, it will as long as you do your part right. And your part is this, be interested but not too interested. Show him you are a great gal to be around, ask about his life whenever the oppurtunity arises, but dont under any circumstance be clingy. Guys hate that, trust me.
So bottom line is this, be yourself and let things happend on their own if its someone you don't know to well.
If it is, gently try to pry a little info out of his head, then work from their.
:)
Hope that helped!
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aight so sean, there's this girl that likes me. well, actually there's 5 . let's start with girl 1. girl 1 rrrrrreeeeeeaaaallllllly likes me, and the thing is... since i didn't know noone else liked me... i told her i liked her back. a lot. and i've been saying stuff liike aaaggghhh i miss you and i wanna be with you. but i don't like her and i don't really wanna get to know her cuz she's kinda weird and chubby and not my type at all. girl 2, i just hung out with and she likes me... i don't know if i like her but i'm having strange feelings for her. and since i "hung out" with her, i feel really guilty for doing that to girl 1 although i don't like her. girls 3 and 4 both like me but girl 3 likes my best friend, and girls 3 and 4 are best friends and kinda my best friends too... girl 5 likes me but i don't know if anything would ever happen, so umm scratch that. but, whenever i find out that a girl likes me, i freak out and i'm like oohhh i like you too... just because i don't wanna deny them and say like, i don't like you at all!!! i just can't live with that guilt. what the hell do i do?????
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Wow, sounds like someone's mister popular! :P
My advice is just to go with your gut feeling on this one, it sounds like your more partial to girl 2 then the rest with the whole strange feelings thing, plus its not a good idea to date your best friends, trust me i've learned from experience and nothing good comes out of it.
While it is best to date someone you have a good connection with, you don't want to be too close before the relationship actually begins. This can cause for much un needed drama.
But in any case trust your own decison in this one, Think long and hard about what you truly want.
:) Hope that helped
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14/f__ i was just asked out last night by the guy i liked...who obviously likes me back. he asked me 'wanna go to the movies on sunday?' i said sure. and you kno how everyone puts like 'guys name 1/2' - something like that to signify that they're going out. well, my question is: what would i put in my profile? like do i put the day he asked me, the day of the actual date, or do i wait until more dates? like i dont kno since...well...its my first. yes u can laugh. hahahaha.....and also if we stay together for a few months or what ever...how do you kno what day the '# month anniversary' is? i would ask my friends..but i dont really want to. haha
ok. thnx soo much.
ur rock my sox (link)
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Make sure you clarify early wether or not the date was intended to be just that, a "date".
Some guys see things much differently than girls do. While the girl may think its a date, the guy may think its nothing more than going to a movie with a friend. Make sure this is cleared up before going any further dear.
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hey sean. well. i'm 14. i like a guy & there's about 4 years of a difference in our age. he gives me more hints that he's intrested then those of which he's not. then one day we were sitting in the hallway and he had a few of his friends while i had some of mine. and he asks me a question & i answer it & he cracks one of his odd jokes & one of his friends but in and say 'is that the girl u were going on to me about?' and at the same moment one of my friends told me she was leaving (we were all waiting for rides home). the guy i like said 'yea..' & said some other thing i didnt hear, back to his friend. then he laughed..and his friend started cracking up too. so.... idk if they were making fun of me or what.....i also have my eye on another guy who's a year older than me..so....i'm not sure if i should stick with the guy 4 years older than me...or...if i should start getting to kno the guy who's a year older than me instead....but i also wanna kno if the 4yr older guy may have intrest....because honestly i'm not too sure of this whole sitch
thnx!
love YoU oooo0ooDdles!! muah!!!!!!!!! ♥ (link)
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honestly i think youd be better off wiht someone with only a year on you
the less age difference, the better trust me
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Hey..
You see, during the begining of the school year and the end of summer, I started talking to this kid..we'll call him "Tim". Well, Tim and I would stay on the phone for hours at a time, and he told me he liked me.I asked him out, but he had broken up with his girlfriend a week or so after we started talking in the summer. So, he wasn't ready for another elationship. After that, we still talked, and I got hugs everyday in school from him whenever we saw eachother. I asked him if he still liked me once, but he said not as much as he did before.
My friend liked this one kid, "George." He happened to be Tim's best friend. I started talking to George and now I like him.
He likes me, well, that's what I think, and we hang out every so-often.
But the thing is, is he hurt me twice- emotionally - by dating these girls. I asked him out once, as a joke though, and he said "i'm not ready for a relationship." It makes me so mad, because he went out with two girls after he said that.
I still like him..a lot.
But i don't know if I should?
And I'm starting to like Tim again, but I don't want to...
Sorry it's so long..but thanks for the advice. (link)
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hmm
well ok, i know this sounds jerky, but when a guy tells you "i dont want a rel"., and then goes out with someoone else, it means they dont like you :\
sorry to say i dont think the george things gonna happend the way you talk about it, and tim doesnt sound to much more of a great catch, but if you really REALLY like george stick it out, other than that keep it with tim
see what happends :)
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ok so i have this friend, and he's like my best friend. but the thing is... i like his sister. we've been talking on aim for about a week now and i like her and she likes me. but i don't wanna go behind my best friend's back and go out with his sister. my friend is in 8th grade and his sister is a junior and i'm a sophomore. we haven't told my friend that we have a "thing" going on... should i tell him? should i keep liking his sister? what do i do?!? (link)
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keep liking her dude, but be sure to tell him wahts going on
best do it up front and before hand, i know from expereince trust me
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my friend likes this one guy.
and i like that guys brother...
question: would u consider that weird? (link)
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not at all
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15/f
the guy i've liked for about 4months now, gave me the biggest & longest hug i've ever gotten from any guy in my life. he held on tight and put his head on my shoulder (i'm 5'2 & he's 6'). he had this look on his face that said 'i never wanna let go.' and then he gave me a really sweet smile. but i have a feeling he likes this other girl that's actaully his own age. he's 17 and she's going to turn 17 in 3 months. when he hugs her its only a quick one..every time. they used to be long but now they're..well..not. haha
he & i talk a lot about w/e we're thinking about. and hang out every now & then.
but anyways would u consider that hug a sign of some-sort? (link)
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hm, ya it sounds like it meant somehting like hes trying to tell you he's intrested
talk to him about it, see where he stands
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So many guys fall in love with me, but I choose not to believe them, because I don't think I'm attractive and I don't want to get hurt.
Alas, I end up falling for them. Even though I push them away...they get irritated but won't let go.
I'm not really sure what to believe. What do you think? (link)
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kind of an odd question
if alot of guys "fall in love" with you, your obvoisouly attracive, jsut accpet it
but wait for the right one, itll be worht it
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ok i'm totally in love w/ my bf and i'd do ne thing for him. all we have done so far is kiss...its the first serious relationship for both of us...and i want to maybe do a lil more but i was wondering how far is too far in ur opinion? (link)
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depends on how old you are
if your my age (14-16) id say kissing and touching
older doenst really matter, at that age your old enough to make your own decisons
just dont do anything you'll regret, and only go as far as you want people to find out
becuase chances are, they will
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how can you be sure that love will find you? or even if someone is looking? (link)
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it will
jsut give it time, patience is a virtue
you dont always have to be with someone
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ok. i am a freshman in HS and i really like this senior who i think may like me. but a senior liking a freshman seems a little odd, but then again 2 seniors like one of my friends who is also a frehsman, so it's possible. this senior is also a friend of my brother who is a sophmore. anyway, he talks to almost no other freshman, he wispers me last name (almost everyone calls me by my last name) eveytime he walks by me, and at track he likes to run with me sometimes and stares at me when i finish a lap or half of one. i felt like i was giving him the wrong message becuase i pretty much yelled at him the first time we talked [my brother friends were pissing me off earlier so i thought they were up to that again, but it was the senior who was just trying to talk to me]. also when he said hi all i did was wave because i was too nervous to say anything at the time and the wave looked like a 'i hate u' wave. also this guy is a lot taller than me..
so..i'm very confused and i hope u can help
thnx sean. you're awesome ♥ (link)
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well it soudns like you have some mixed emotions about this kid
i agree it is abit wierd, cuz like its a 4 year gap ya know lol
tell him how you feel, it sounds like he likes you alot
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So theres this guy... i've liked him for two years, the first year i liked him i thought i might have had a chance with him but then he got with my best friend and fancied her the way i fancy him, now hes over her and hes acting weird around me, e.g staring, flirting and then ignoring me He keeps saying things that he knows will make me laugh, puts his arm around me. But he's also telling me that he is checking out this girl who is two years younger than him but shes going out with his brothers, best friend... he keeps giving off mixed emotions, i don't know what he wants. what do you think?
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i think by the way hes acting around you he likes you too
just flirt back some and see what happends
dont be afrinad to take chances
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Okay so, I have a boyfriend, and I know I don't like him as much as he likes me. I tried breaking up with him before, but he found a way to make me feel pitiful and take him back. Now I feel like I am just leading him on. What should I do? (link)
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don't lead people on
its not the way to go
breeak up with him if you dont like him that way
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What do you do when your always the friend and never the girlfriend?
I mean do you just deal with...is there a reason...?
I just don't get it.
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well usualy if you end up being the frined (which is ok because i ALWAYS am the firned as well)
it means your a really good frined, and a better frined than the frined or boyfrinemd
it means people have alot of trust in you, and you shouldnt be too worried about finding that someone
he'll come around before you know it
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i am going out w/ this guy i relle relle like and i told him that i love him but i've never gone out w/ ne one b4 and i dont wat love is suppose to feel like or w/e so can u help me understand wat i'm suppose to feel? have you ever been in love? (link)
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ok i feel very strongly about love, so im going to try my best to explain it to you..
do not, and i mean DO NOT tell anyone you love them unless you truly truly truly truly truly mean it, becuase chances are
you dont
love is something special, very specail, and i have neve been in love and i dont plan on it for awhile
so just dont say it again until its been awhile and you can realy mean it
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:Hey:
im a female and im 16 years old and im in a long distance relationship.Ok so im going out with this guy right and like i dont know what to do like some day i like him so much i want to talk to him you know and other day im like ahhh dont even bother to call me anymore why is that? do you think i dont like him? because i feel like i dont, but then i do but i dont know so i really need your fabulous advive.sorry if its a been long!
p.s.I love you sean with a passion for fashion (link)
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well in my opinon long distance rel. dont work in the first place, becuase theres not enough intamacy involved in your lives to make anything last
you have to have someone you can trust and see alot, becuase if you dont it will never work
if you really like this guy stick with it and try to make thigns last, but my best advice to you is to forget about it and find someone closer to heart
ps i love you too :)
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ok...so i have this friend who likes this guys, but yesterday he told me that he liked me!!!
what the freak do i do???!!! (link)
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lol, well if you like him it should be pretty obvious :)
but if you dont just tell him how you feel
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hey ok so i dont know this guy too well i kind of know him thought but i think i like him i know hes single but i dont know if he may like someone so sean heres my question...what should i do? (link)
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hmm
depends on how well u know him
id say if not to well, get to know him a little better before you make any urgent decisons, i dont think this guy is going anywhere lol
jsut be yourself around him and talk to him some more and then go from there
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